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People who are comfortable with using the N word use the word colored to describe a black person in my experiences. Being biracial and on the rather light side, I hear things that most don’t. The word just really rubs me the wrong way and perhaps the OP who used it doesn’t know that it’s offensive and he won’t unless someone tells him. Calling a person of color colored is as absurd as calling a white person non-colored.

Thanks for explaining the MX203 situation. I was about to find another board. Nothing turns me off like racists. I would be a funny study considering that I am mixed, but look white. LMAOOOOOOOOOO

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BellaB, It seems I’m about the same racial ethnicity as you are. I have the African facial structure but paler skin.
I don’t normally take offense to the word colored. The only thing that matters to me is the intent of the speaker. I could find ‘those whose ancestors originated from Africa’ very offending if said with disdain.

However, I haven’t really found any racism on this board. But, if you get a preconceived notion that everyone is racist, your going to think you find it anywhere.

Example: I was covering a Host shift at a restaurant and we have booths, tables, and 1/2 booth 1/2 tables. We had a couple come in, a black man and a white woman. So I asked them if they wanted a booth, a table, or a 1/2 and 1/2. All of a sudden they get into a great big huff and puff because since they we already sensitive to their social taboo, they think I’m making racial jokes.

I guess the point I’m trying to get across is that racism doesn’t necessarily come from certain words, it comes from the intent that they are used for.

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I’m not sensitive to it and I am the last person to pull the “race card”. I actually have “white” features and light skin and grew up around mostly white people. I am actually more comfortable with white people than black. I thought I made it rather clear that I was giving him the benefit of the doubt in each post.

If you grow up in a household where your family uses that word (or any racist word), you are going to use it without thought and not think anything of using it around anyone, including people who aren’t in your family. If the people around you never said or did anything that made you think that it would be hurtful or demeaning to someone, you aren’t going to think that it is.

I could have sat here and not said anything, but now that I have, if people continue to use it knowing that I find it offensive (even if you do not) then they have made a choice to be that way. However, if they choose not to because they know it offends me, then maybe they will think twice before using it elsewhere, where they could offend someone else and have a problem.

If someone is racist, that is their problem, not mine. I’ve never seen a happy racist… But if I am going to be on a board with people who use words I am not comfortable with, I’d rather find out sooner than later.

Hopefully we can get past this now.

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That right there! Way to go, Shalifi. And it’s the NOT KNOWING the intent that, pretty much, gets people going.

The world has become so sensitive to a lot of other things. I get your point, Bella, B U T … just because you see it as such, doesn’t make it so. Never let words/ignorant people be the cause of messing up your day. They don’t deserve that power. :wink: (THE END)

Today is went MX203:Turn Up The Heat:A7 (Androsterone + -none):A314 … 1 drop of A7 to the chin, 2 sprays of Turn Up The Heat to the chest and tummy, and 5 sprays of MX203 (2 to the top of the hands, 1 to each side of the neck, and 1 to the back of the neck), 2 drops of A314 to the wrists … went to lunch and did my “walk the meal down” at my favorite store.

  • At lunch, the cashier, an elderly lady (late 50s) takes my pay. I get my plate and ticket, find my table, and start munching. She comes by and gives me this big smile. A customer “feel comfortable” smile is how I filtered it.

She comes back, stops in front of my table, and says, “I would have never recognize you out of your uniform.” I smiled and said, "And you still don’t, 'cause I don’t wear a uniform. She blushes and says, “I thought you were a cop.”

** Went to my favorite store, picked up some tissue paper, and The Invasion dvd. Went to pay for it, the cashier’s an attractive elderly lady with beautiful blue eyes. If I would ever date someone a lot older than me, she’d get my vote.

She smiles and says, “I like that shirt (blue mini-check Ralp Lauren). It’s a pretty shirt, and you’re a pretty man.”

She almost had me chokin, 'cause I was just thinking how pretty she was for someone her age, but I came back with the “You know what they say when you like a man’s shirt?”

She say’s, “What?”

I said, “You have to like the man.” She gives me this big smile and says, “I do.”

Grabbed my bag and headed out. Older woman … younger man? She’s got me thinking. :roll_eyes:

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Give it a whirl. From what I’ve heard (I’m only 24), older women can rock a younger guy’s world…something about both being in their sexual peak at different times in their lives…

Oh, and I don’t let anyone rain on my day. I am TOO beautiful for that.

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Nawwwwh, she’d get rocked! :cool: Annnnnd how! :stuck_out_tongue:

At 24, you’re talking 30s and 40s as older … yup, you may get rocked. :smiley:

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Older men LOVE me…I made them follow me around like a puppy BEFORE the 'mones… I don’t get rocked, I do the rocking…

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Then you haven’t run into a M&M-type, 'cause you’d have to explain why you’re walking around with pom poms afterwards! :smiley: :roll_eyes: :smiley:

Rocked-a-bye-baby … Who’s ya dahdah???

Is this mix still golden for you, Tama?

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It’s definately all about the intent behind the word. My roommate in college was black, as was a lady-friend from the same college… A good friend from my last workplace was black… But I use the word colored because it seems less offensive/racist than saying black… That might stem from the times I’ve been around people using the term white as something demeaning, and so I avoid saying white/black. I’m half caucasian, half Native American (but have fair skin). Heh, in that sense using the term elderly/older (as was done above) could be considered offensive and derogatory by some, but only because they are sensitive to a word that for all intentions was used in an offhand, descriptive way. As an example, what are we supposed to do when that-person-over-there confronted us for using the term black one day (while we were describing a very fun experience to a friend), suggests we use the term colored, and the next day another-touchy-person gets really riled because we used the other term (for the same friendly story)? That has happened to me once before. If somebody finds what I say offensive I’ll explain my reasons/reasoning behind why I use the words I use and if they still have a problem with it that’s just how they’re going to be. I’ve come to understand that I can’t please everybody and so I stay with what seems easier/less offensive to myself and hope others are open-minded about it. Fun loves ya whatever your flavor!