# to be a little girlier..? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [October 8, 2008, 5:55am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-be-a-little-girlier/21024 "2008-10-08T05:55:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 3
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2008, 8:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-be-a-little-girlier/21024/3 "2008-10-08T08:47:57Z")
> [@remmy](#): > > _**hmm i was hanging out with my guy friends today (wearing est and cops) and i realized that i can make some pretty obnoxious comments. i mean, i never overdo it to annoy people but i was thinking that maybe i could potentially offend some people if they arent my friends..**_ > > _ **my ex thinks that im the cutest person alive but he has told me that he has a problem with how i act in public at times because i come off really domineering and cold at times..** _ > > _do you guys have any suggestions on what i can use so i can be more cutesy?_ suggestions? \*\* > [@Butterfly](#): > > _ **If you met a guy who looked really masculine, but acted coy, girly, kind of gay, you would feel a bit funny too, not?** _ Remmy 🙂 when you say “be more cutesy”, I assume you mean as far as personality and speech are concerned…do you want to _sound and/or actually be more cutesy? I know you look like a sweet little cupcake, but are you feminine in your behavior? I mean ya don’t act_ butch or anything…I hope…lol. The way you think you come across/deliver your thoughts/words is obnoxious/harsh? Is that what you mean? > [@Butterfly](#): > > _ **Or you could try to learn to control your behaviour better, to create more congruence.** _ > [@remmy](#): > > _ **i know i can be pretty cute when i want to be** _ That’s the ticket. 😉 You’ve already got it, baby…you answered your own question. > [@](#): > > _ **so I thought, hm maybe i shoud get some TAH.. but then i tried those before and TAH never worked on me. as matter of fact, id get into fights with my ex whenever i wear it.** _ > [@Butterfly](#): > > _ **Perhaps it was the lack of congruence between your behaviour and the TAH siggy that made your ex so edgy?** _ As far as help with the pheromone part…you want to come across softer and sweeter. Well, the obvious choice is TAH. So tell me why doesn’t it work…does it make _you_ feel out of sorts or was it the reaction that TG had to it that didn’t work for you? I assume you’ve done the TAH to the back of the head and it’s still no go. If it’s the fact that it just doesn’t agree with you, that’s a shame 'cause it would certainly help. Here’s an idea for you. There have been some interesting reports on a couple of putatives that have shown empathetic/connective qualities. That could, perhaps. help in tuning you into the other persons feelings so you’d be a little more careful what you say…and it would give you something interesting to play with. Here’s a report by Warren on P87/P86 that’s very interesting - > [@P87 - The Brain Clutter Cleaner](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/p87-the-brain-clutter-cleaner/19709): > > Well, a certain somebody called me today and told me to get off my lazy ass and test a Putative today. OK, actually it was a polite request. So anyway, I had just sorted through my little bottles of magic over the weekend, looking to see what I was running low on and making up a new bottle of ICM 0.25.1b when I noticed this strange little blue bottle of P87 blowing kisses at me. I picked the little bottle up and thought to myself “I wonder what the heck this stuff does”. And so the decision o… You know what else you should give a try…[Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/). It might take some of the edge off for you…just a thought. Bella --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-be-a-little-girlier/21024)._