# To Tell or not to Tell **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 17, 2007, 6:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720 "2007-05-17T18:44:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![May](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/may/32/1909_2.png) [@May](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/May)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2007, 6:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/1 "2007-05-17T18:44:52Z")
Wotcha! I’ve been thinking about this for a while, but spotting Jasmin recommending someone gets a “hit-spotter” (a pal to tag along and check out reactions to mixes) has prompted me to post. Do you tell people you are using pheros or not? Do you tell just friends? Just sigificant others and partners or keep it deathly secret? So far I have not told a soul I am experimenting. If I am honest I think there is a part of me that might be getting a buzz out of my new “secret”. It’s kind of like the feeling you get when you are wearing a really conservative suit, but with absolutely killer underwear underneath, or even no underwear at all! 😛 But never mind my little confessions… Have you told anyone you use pheros or not, and why? 😃 May ---
**Author:** ![CharmfulScorpio](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/charmfulscorpio/32/1675_2.png) [@CharmfulScorpio](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CharmfulScorpio)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2007, 7:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/2 "2007-05-17T19:10:33Z")
u know what ive been debating the same thing…should i share my secret with my friends so that they can start using them too! but then i also want to experiment more first before recommending even though i believe ive gotten some results whether its fate or a pheros boost that helped lol 😃 but i would agree its like that cool feeling of im wearing this high executive suit but going commando! lol never tried that though lol 🆒 but i think for now…it shall remain my lil secret…plus some people dont know exactly what pheros is some have actually mistaken it for being some type of love spell potion of course with a negative connotation..lol 😛 ---
**Author:** ![LaurieNY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/bbce88/32.png) [@LaurieNY](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LaurieNY)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2007, 7:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/3 "2007-05-17T19:16:08Z")
Same here…I haven’t told a soul, partially because I don’t want to lose my edge and partially because I think most of my loved ones will think I am insane and being scammed. ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2007, 8:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/4 "2007-05-17T20:07:06Z")
The only person I have told is my mother. I gave her a bottle of ISexi with extra EW added, and she has worn it occassionally, but her favorite is some of my vanilla oil mixed with EW in a roll top bottle. She refers to EW as “that horny juice”…she is sooooooo funny.😃 None of the men that I have been involved with in the last 4 years have known that I use [pheromones](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/)…I think that would somewhat skew the results. ---
**Author:** ![Kitten](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kitten/32/1051_2.png) [@Kitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kitten)\ **Post date:** [May 17, 2007, 11:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/5 "2007-05-17T23:48:00Z")
If you want to tell, then do. I choose not to and am comfortable with the decision at this point. I may tell a friend who is very into seduction techniques–just because I think she might be interested. I will say, however, that I let my pheromones secret mess up a relationship back when I was in my very early twenties. I wore Realm for women, and really piled it on when I met my bf at the time. I mistakenly thought that without it, he wouldn’t have been so interested. That doubt shook my confidence throughout the whole relationship. I finally went cold turkey, but by that time, the damage my attitude had created had already occured. Now I find out that the pheromone in Realm does not even affect guys. It was affecting me. I remember being sooo paranoid about him finding out what I was doing. Granted, I was plain old immature and insecure, and this was just a symptom of larger issues…Still, makes me a bit sad to think back on it. Haven’t seen him in a long time. Kind of feel like blasting myself with [Instant Sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) and some cops and inviting him over. Maybe his brother too. Considering how I beat myself up about the Realm, it would only be fair. 😃😉🆒 ---
**Author:** ![LifeT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@LifeT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LifeT)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 3:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/6 "2007-05-18T03:23:55Z")
in the 7 yrs i’ve been hooked on mones i’ve only told my gf and my ex. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 3:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/7 "2007-05-18T03:57:31Z")
I haven’t told anybody except for my forum buddies. First, all the women I’ve discussed it with felt [pheromone](https://pheromonelabs.com/shop/) use was creepy and for losers. Also, because I use it in the workplace, there is potential for ruined relationships, tainted reputation and even lawsuits if word of my “advantage” got out. My last extended relationship ended with a major trainwreck and she was trying all sorts of ways to avenge my sorry ass, e.g., have me beatup, sue me, sue my employer, etc. She even sent her ex-husband after me! I could just see the ensuing ligation over unfair pheromonal advantage. Yep, some things are best kept a secret. ---
**Author:** ![LifeT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@LifeT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LifeT)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 4:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/8 "2007-05-18T04:15:46Z")
> [@Gegogi](#): > > My last extended relationship ended with a major trainwreck and she was trying all sorts of ways to avenge my sorry ass, e.g., have me beatup, sue me, sue my employer, etc. She even sent her ex-husband after me! I could just see the ensuing ligation over unfair pheromonal advantage. Yep, some things are best kept a secret. wtf? ur ex _actually_ hire some thugs to jump u, like in the movies? were u able to get away lol 😮 ---
**Author:** ![EnchantedApril](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/enchantedapril/32/2385_2.png) [@EnchantedApril](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/EnchantedApril)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 5:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/9 "2007-05-18T05:18:26Z")
I’ve told about 3 people. Yes, why would I want to reveal my advantage? 2 I have told in a sort of evangelizing way because I’d LOVE them to enjoy the use, too! NEVER with a BF! Oye, it ruins the mystery! All the best, April ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 9:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/10 "2007-05-18T09:25:55Z")
I told my 2 best friends and they buy them to. I told my sister and my mom they are more sceptical but they have noticed the effect of some of the mones I wear. Oh I told the guy who kept getting a woodie at work. I gave them the address so they can buy some. My husband kinda knows but dosnt know what a mone is. He just knows they are costing him money LOL. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 9:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/11 "2007-05-18T09:53:07Z")
> [@](#): > > Oh I told the guy who kept getting a woodie at work. I gave them the address so they can buy some. Did he tell you or did you merely notice he pitched a tent everytime you walked by? ---
**Author:** ![May](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/may/32/1909_2.png) [@May](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/May)\ **Post date:** [May 18, 2007, 7:36pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/12 "2007-05-18T19:36:23Z")
I think that I, also, will consider it my “little secret” at least for a while, Particularly, as I do quite like the feeling of naughtiness that I get from keeping it quiet! 😛 May ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 12:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/13 "2007-05-19T00:14:52Z")
Yep, I agree about the naughty factor. Secretly doning pheromones is sorta like wearing an olfactory thong. ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 12:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/14 "2007-05-19T00:17:47Z")
> [@Gegogi](#): > > Yep, I agree about the naughty factor. Secretly doning pheromones is sorta like wearing an olfactory thong. An “olfactory thong”…I like that!!! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CharmfulScorpio](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/charmfulscorpio/32/1675_2.png) [@CharmfulScorpio](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/CharmfulScorpio)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 1:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/15 "2007-05-19T01:29:53Z")
> [@Gegogi](#): > > olfactory thong. Mmmmm…wow a sudden rush of new ideas popping into my head…😃 Olfactory Thong…Imagine that one! jajaja ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 6:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/16 "2007-05-19T06:17:48Z")
> [@Gegogi](#): > > Did he tell you or did you merely notice he pitched a tent everytime you walked by? LOL He told me which of course caused me to look down. 😮 Tish ---
**Author:** ![jpballerina](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jpballerina/32/1004_2.png) [@jpballerina](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jpballerina)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 6:23am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/17 "2007-05-19T06:23:48Z")
I told one of my sisters who was having issues with her object of affection because he was giving her way mixed messages. I made her a little mix (with a whole lot of instant honesty) and let her in on my secret. Needless to say, she wore it, and suddenly he felt all compelled to talk about their relationship (hum . . . interesting . . .). And that’s when she realized what he was really like and decided she didn’t want to date him anyway. 😛 Anyway, the point is, yes I’ve told someone, but I certainly wouldn’t tell just anyone. It’s too effective to passes out like bubble gum in my opinion. 😉 xoxo jp ---
**Author:** ![LifeT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@LifeT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LifeT)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 6:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/18 "2007-05-19T06:37:51Z")
> [@jpballerina](#): > > I made her a little mix (with a whole lot of instant honesty) and let her in on my secret. Needless to say, she wore it, and suddenly he felt all compelled to talk about their relationship (hum . . . interesting . . .). of all the horror stories im reading on instant honesty im terrified just looking at the bottle sitting on my shelf, let alone wearing it in public…god forbid it might make me start going around spewing out my credit card numbers lol 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 7:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/19 "2007-05-19T07:14:18Z")
Come to think of it I was wearing IH when I told my sister and mom about mones and when I told my friends LOL . It really does make you say more than planned if you spray it to close to your face. I only use it once in a great while and only to the back of the head. Tish ---
**Author:** ![LifeT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e8c25b/32.png) [@LifeT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/LifeT)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2007, 2:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720/20 "2007-05-19T14:26:23Z")
in a society held together by well intentioned white lies, instant honesty is a very dangerous product… “honey, do i look like i’ve gained weight?” “none that i can tell.” “really?” “really really.” “hmm, ok~” (hug hug kiss kiss.) with unsupervised instant honesty applied: “honey, do i look like i’ve gained weight?” “i don’t know, maybe a little.” "_really_!? u think so? _WHERE?_ " “mostly around the ass, and little on ur chin too” “_what?!_” “oh it’s not that bad baby i still think ur cute” “u think im FAT!” “no i don’t.” “yes u DO!” “i never said u were fat…” “well u know what, at least i don’t have love handles like u!” “i don’t have love handles…” “oh really? so is that a lifesaver u swallowed recently u neglected to mention?” 😃😃😃 [Next page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/to-tell-or-not-to-tell/3720.md?page=2)