# Trying to influence a co-worker (professional reasons) **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [September 18, 2010, 5:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/trying-to-influence-a-co-worker-professional-reasons/41847 "2010-09-18T05:29:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![RADMAN513](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/radman513/32/364_2.png) [@RADMAN513](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/RADMAN513)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2010, 1:35am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/trying-to-influence-a-co-worker-professional-reasons/41847/21 "2010-09-22T01:35:56Z")
> [@killersharks](#): > > And I very much appreciate the advices I get from you and the other members, Steve. I just didn’t know whether the information I just brought up were significant beforehand such as her having an SO. > > So do you both think she was maybe somewhat attracted to me? I must’ve been missing signs. As for my part, yes I find her attractive but I didn’t act on it nor gave impressions and also for the fact that she has a SO. I know not to go in there. I have other female coworkers that I do find attractive too. I practically act and treat them the same way as her, I don’t notice anything similar on their end. I just don’t fish off the company pier. Not only do I think she might be attracted to you, but personally and I apologize if I’m wrong but…dude read below > [@killersharks](#): > > I reached in for a hug and we both hugged **without feeling awkward** about it. It’s not that you felt or didn’t feel awkward…it’s that not feeling awkward was noteworthy. > [@](#): > > She then patted my shoulders and rubbed my arm briefly. Again, that’s very specific detail about the physical contact made. I mean I’m friends with some of the females at my office and I’m sure if I thought about it there was probably some physical contact with one or more of them today…but I wouldn’t remember that much detail unless it was one I was harboring feelings for. But maybe that’s just me. > [@](#): > > We both said we had a great time and experience with each other. Of all the time I worked with her, **we never hugged** or have been touchy-feely/physically affectionate with each other. Again, what has or hasn’t happened imo isn’t as telling as how much you notice about it. > [@](#): > > **As I was laying in bed last night** , it hit me big time that she’ll no longer be there. It felt somewhat like breaking up with someone. It got me down. I’m not only losing a good co-worker, but a very good friend. I know I have to move on, be positive, accept reality: she’ll no longer be coming back. It’s easier said than done and this coming days and weeks will be tough. I’ll get over it. > > Thanks very much to all your help regarding this. Now while I could understand having a coworker in your thoughts as you lie awake in bed…I’ve done it myself but in all honesty when it’s happened it was a coworker that I actively socialized with outside the workplace…or one I WANTED to see outside the workplace. If it’s just somebody I enjoy working with, I feel bad, but they’re not a dominant enough thought that I can be in bed staring at the ceiling contemplating the fact that I may never see them again. I think you might want to consider a little introspection bro. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2010, 7:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/trying-to-influence-a-co-worker-professional-reasons/41847/22 "2010-09-23T19:26:03Z")
Yup I read the same thing and was thinking who likes who? Anyway don’t ever mix relationships with work, its not good for yah 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![killersharks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7feea3/32.png) [@killersharks](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/killersharks)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2010, 5:39am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/trying-to-influence-a-co-worker-professional-reasons/41847/23 "2010-09-24T05:39:05Z")
RADMAN513, Steve, thanks both for genuine responses. > [@RADMAN513](#): > > Not only do I think she might be attracted to you, but personally and I apologize if I’m wrong but…dude read below I don’t get where you’re saying she might be attracted to me. What is it that I posted that makes you think that she might be? I don’t think she is though. Our relationship has been strictly platonic. > [@RADMAN513](#): > > It’s not that you felt or didn’t feel awkward…it’s that not feeling awkward was noteworthy. Well, I had coworkers who left the job and even a simple exchange of goodbye/good luck/hand shake was/became awkward. And I’ve worked with and known them for a while. > [@RADMAN513](#): > > Again, that’s very specific detail about the physical contact made. I mean I’m friends with some of the females at my office and I’m sure if I thought about it there was probably some physical contact with one or more of them today…but I wouldn’t remember that much detail unless it was one I was harboring feelings for. But maybe that’s just me. Well, we never had that much/deep physical contact with each other for the most part that we’ve worked together other than an occasional quick pat or nudge on the arm/shoulder. > [@RADMAN513](#): > > Now while I could understand having a coworker in your thoughts as you lie awake in bed…I’ve done it myself but in all honesty when it’s happened it was a coworker that I actively socialized with outside the workplace…or one I WANTED to see outside the workplace. If it’s just somebody I enjoy working with, I feel bad, but they’re not a dominant enough thought that I can be in bed staring at the ceiling contemplating the fact that I may never see them again. Well, it was an eventful day and I’m trying to do a quick reflection on what happened that day. It’s just what I do before I go sleep if it has been an eventful day. It’s not like I the thought of her leaving kept me up for a while. I wouldn’t say she’s just a coworker, but I consider her a friend too. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/trying-to-influence-a-co-worker-professional-reasons/41847.md?page=1)