# Turn Up The Heat not working? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [January 27, 2009, 4:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408 "2009-01-27T04:59:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Experimator](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/experimator/32/1015_2.png) [@Experimator](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Experimator)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 4:59am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408/1 "2009-01-27T04:59:27Z")
I need some advice to understand what I may be doing wrong. My apologies in advance for a long post. A little background on me: 30 yrs old male, Indian origin (From India), a little overweight, typically confident in social settings, project manager for IT projects, puts non-perfumed anti-perspirant in arm pits, I bought TUTH to add spark in my married life. Here is what I tried: **Case 1: Just Wife and I** 1 drop of A314 to wrists 1 spray of TUTH to chest Results: Wife started to listen to me a bit more than usual. I believe A314 was working there. Typically with women the time, surroundings etc have to be perfect before they can be engaged in sex. I had all of that but still nothing sexy came out. Wife pretty much hugged me and went to sleep. I was expecting more of a turn-on with TUTH. **Case 2: Friends at our place** 2 drops of A314 to wrists 1 spray of TUTH to chest 1 spray of Ammo to chest 1 spray of [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) to hair 1 spray of Instant Openness to neck Results: We had a very close couple come to our place on Saturday. My friend’s wife was looking and talking to me with great respect. My friend was also following my lead on everything. Credit to A314, I believe. Typically my friend’s wife and I are very casual and friendly. But today, although following my lead, she kept a little distance. At the same time I also saw here glancing at me once in a while. Then when her and my wife were standing in the kitchen cooking and talking, I reached out for a spoon from the kitchen platform. I almost brushed myself to my friends wife’s breast but she did not back off. While seeing them off, we hugged and said goodbye to each other. Friend’s wife gave a nice and tight hug. All through the day, I did not notice any turn-on in my wife. There was not not a single spark. I am thinking that either TUTH is not working for me or my wife is completely sexless. ☹ Case 3: In the Gym 1 spray of TUTH to wrists 2 sprays of Instant Openness to wrists 1 spray of Instant Openness to back of neck Results: I picked an elliptical for my today’s cardio. On my right was a 35 yrs old women doing elliptical. In a few minutes a 25 something girl came and picked the elliptical on my left. She kept glancing my direction once in while. The women on my right (35 something) did not look at all at me. But I sensed that she was comfortable next to me. The girl on my left after 15 mins to go work out with her boyfriend. After 40 mins of cardio, I went to the floor for some light weights. I noticed that quite a few guys were noticing me. Also, a few girls (perhaps in 20s) noticed me. **Case 4: Bed Bath and Beyond** This is basically a continuation of story from case 3. Since I live close to my gym, I decided to shower at home. But instead I went to Bed Bath and Beyond to look for employment application. (Out of job since 1/23) I got hold of around 20 years old girl and spoke with her for about 10 minutes about how to apply for employment in the store. I told her that this is my first time applying for a job like this. She seemed pretty interested to help me with the information. There was another girl standing about 10 feet away from us and she was smiling all the time while I and the other girl were talking. **Case 5: Meijer** Continuation of my story from Case 4. After Bed Bath and Beyond, I went to Meijer (a grocery superstore) for employment. The computers that take application were not working so an old lady tried to help me. Now this is where it gets interesting. 2 days ago I went to the same store to buy groceries and was wearing 2 drops of A314 and 1 spray of TUTH on chest. I tried to notice if the checkout girl was sending any signal. None, whatsoever. Today, when the old lady was trying to help me with the computer, the same checkout girl came running by from nowhere to help me. I pretended to know nothing about the computers and she spent as much time as I asked from her with me guiding me with application process. Then she went back to the checkout counter. 10 mins later, when I was done with application, I walked out of the building and noticed that she was checking me out from the checkout counter. **Conclusion:** I am concluding that I am not unattractive and pheromones do work for me. I can get other girls/women but I may never be able to get my wife to actualy get physical with me. **Your advice, tips, analysis?** ---
**Author:** ![jankren](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f0a364/32.png) [@jankren](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jankren)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 6:54am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408/2 "2009-01-27T06:54:19Z")
No offense but did you ever notice anything ‘unusual’ about your wife’s sexual orientation? Or maybe she is already too used to your natural [pheromones](https://a314.com/). Its just like no matter how much TUTH you wear your sister or your own mother wont be affected either. ---
**Author:** ![Arctortroy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df788c/32.png) [@Arctortroy](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Arctortroy)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 7:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408/3 "2009-01-27T07:03:10Z")
I believe that you’ll want to use more than one spray of TUTH. You’re the same age as I am, but you say you’re overweight, so I believe that you don’t exercise. Your natural levels of -none will not be very high if you’re not younger (18-25) and/or physically active. I’d recommend using more than one spray and being more playful with your wife. The pheros can only do so much, you’re going to have to do some verbal flirting and physical teasing to push the right buttons to turn her on. Some women just aren’t sexual though, like jankren insinuated. I don’t believe this is the case though, I think you just need to give her a little push. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 7:18am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408/4 "2009-01-27T07:18:50Z")
Its to early to make a conclusion. Read this\>\>\>\>\> [Married Guys Looking to Help Life at Home](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/married-guys-looking-to-help-life-at-home/13695) There is a bit in there about how it takes longer for those closest to us to get the full effect of a product because they have preconceived notions and there sub conscious thought has to be sort of reprogrammed. A lot of the married users find this. Now its better to try them alone first so don’t use A314 and see what she does with just the TUTH. If one spray doesn’t work use 2 Your 30 you can use 1 to 4 sprays of TUTH we just suggest you start with 1 and work up. > [@](#): > > No offense but did you ever notice anything ‘unusual’ about your wife’s sexual orientation? LOL 😃 Why would you ask that ? Do you think just because a women isnt interested in sex she must be gay. I am sorry it just struck me as funny. There could be many reasons a women has a low libido, Is she on the pill ? Under stress, tired all the time ? Its sort of like saying if a man cant get it up with a women he is gay. Its not that simple. > [@](#): > > Or maybe she is already too used to your natural pheromones. Its just like no matter how much Turn Up The Heat you wear your sister or your own mother wont be affected either. Yes your mother and sister wont be attracted to you because they have the same DNA and chemical makeup plus they bonded with you since your birth. Its different with married couples, Yes you bond and can get used to a mans mone signature but those subconscious thoughts just need a nudge and sometimes it takes repeated exposure to get there. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![diamond](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diamond/32/859_2.png) [@diamond](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diamond)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2009, 10:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/turn-up-the-heat-not-working/25408/5 "2009-01-27T10:04:43Z")
Tisha is (as usual 😃) 100% right. Read bosshanks thread on married guys, take it in and decide what **you** need to do. I read it and acted on it, guess what, it doesn’t work overnight, it takes weeks if not months to see the effects. I’ll tell you what though, it works YOu’ve come up against the classic difference between men and women. We see a woman, like the look of her, have sex then get the emotional connection. For a woman, if she doesn’t feel the emotional connection, you aren’t going to get any! Also, your wife knows your phero signature and will take weeks to adjust to any change in it. I had the same ‘lack of success’ with TUTH. What worked for me was a combination of IFM and Instant Honesty, this enabled her to relax and tell me what was bothering her, it also allowed me to tell her where I perceived the problems. It took time but we got there. Even today, I get no reaction whatsoever to TUTH from her, other women react to it but she appears indifferent to it’s effects. ammo works far better for me. My advice, read the married guys thread and my journal, the links are both below this post. Then concentrate on the [social pheromones](https://a314.com/product-category/social-pheromones/) and realise it’s going to be a long process.