# "Venting" my Adventures

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**Category:** Women's Journals\
**Created:** [January 8, 2009, 8:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venting-my-adventures/24664 "2009-01-08T20:53:37Z")\
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**Author:** ![diane999](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/diane999/32/1110_2.png) [@diane999](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/diane999)\
**Post date:** [April 19, 2009, 5:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venting-my-adventures/24664/350 "2009-04-19T17:10:10Z")

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> [@Lor](#):
>
> that is a GREAT question.
> 
> i have asked it since i began here.
> 
> im SICK of women posting that they feel weak and feeble on TAH or EST.
> 
> now, do we get treated that way? sometimes.  
> i get alot of response that implies i cannot possibly be in control.
> 
> i dont want that to be confused with me feeling that way.  
> _i dont._
> 
> i think anytime we pull one molecule out and use i by itself,  
> we are going to get an exaggerated response.
> 
> i believe this is why they do add a little TAL to IS/B.
> 
> now would i EVER relate ito marilyn?  
> nope.
> 
> its _hippy._  
> _its peace for peace-sake-_  
> _without connection to outside circumstance._
> 
> heres my take:  
> TAH is definately feminine.  
> its pink,loving,positive,considerate…
> 
> all of these qualities however can be found in both genders.
> 
> so can the masculine qualities of  
> blue,stern,agressive…
> 
> why then do we sometimes get the reaction of disrespect?
> 
> BECAUSE IT IS THE PERSON BEING DISRESPECTFUL THAT HAS A FLAWED CONCEPT OF FEMININITY.
> 
> and why do some of the women here FEEL vulnerable and weak?
> 
> IT IS THEIR FLAWED CONCEPT OF FEMININITY.
> 
> i do feel vulnerable sometimes, but it wont be because i applied a pheromone.
> 
> i also think TAH is great to wear when i want to be treated as passive.  
> i dont always want to be the leader.
> 
> but that doesnt make me less responsible 😉

Well, it is also how we respond to how we are treated by others. Some women I guess buckle when a guy expresses that he feels she is weak.

Some guys, fatherly or rescuer types, maybe, I would guess would be very attracted to TAH and it’s soft, feminine vibe. My husband hates it… or rather, he hates me wearing it. Every time I’ve tried it he’s tried to bull me over like he was a mack truck. He’s definitely a TAL kinda guy who wants a strong woman beside him. He doesn’t want to take care of me, he wants to _respect_ me. And for him, he definitely has no respect for a soft, kittenish woman.

But, I haven’t tried to wear TAH with EST. With his over-the-top caretaking behavior when I wear EST, it could be an interesting experiment.

But I’ve often wondered why he would be so awful to me on TAH and so very perfect with me with EST? I have no clue.

Diane

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