# "Venting" my Adventures

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**Category:** Women's Journals\
**Created:** [January 8, 2009, 8:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venting-my-adventures/24664 "2009-01-08T20:53:37Z")\
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**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\
**Post date:** [April 20, 2009, 12:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venting-my-adventures/24664/351 "2009-04-20T00:05:08Z")

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> [@diane999](#):
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> Well, it is also how we respond to how we are treated by others. Some women I guess buckle when a guy expresses that he feels she is weak.
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> Some guys, fatherly or rescuer types, maybe, I would guess would be very attracted to TAH and it’s soft, feminine vibe. My husband hates it… or rather, he hates me wearing it. Every time I’ve tried it he’s tried to bull me over like he was a mack truck. He’s definitely a TAL kinda guy who wants a strong woman beside him. He doesn’t want to take care of me, he wants to _respect_ me. And for him, he definitely has no respect for a soft, kittenish woman.
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> But, I haven’t tried to wear TAH with EST. With his over-the-top caretaking behavior when I wear EST, it could be an interesting experiment.
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> But I’ve often wondered why he would be so awful to me on TAH and so very perfect with me with EST? I have no clue.
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> Diane

my SO hates TAH too.  
adores TAL.  
i still dont get the over the top care-taking behaviour with ANYTHING,  
_but i didnt get that pregnant,either._

maybe how we respond to others _treating us_ as weak is a factor,  
but the bottom line is that people who equate _femininty_ as weak will have issues with TAH.

when you think about it,  
it makes more sense to say a man doesnt prefer overly feminine women, and then doesnt choose one,  
then to say they must be treated disrespectfully.

_sigh_  
i guess i just disagree with the programmed behaviour.

im not complaining about my SO not liking TAH and equating the peace and love vibe as weak, because i dont wear it around him.  
if he behaves disrespectfully and i can connect it to TAH,  
then im very aware he has issues because there is never a reason to be disrespectful.

i guess i see it like  
i personally do not prefer a guy who is sporty.  
i dont equate them with anything special and i dont get excited in the company of sportstars (we see alot of them in florida).  
but i wont be disrespectful either.

i just never see a good reason to be disrespectful.

TAH is definately a molecule that pulls a person’s character out.

i also think regular exposure to TAH _may_ create an affinity for it.

i think im going to experiment in that vein…

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