# Venturing out into the world - help! **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [February 3, 2007, 4:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891 "2007-02-03T16:00:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![vkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/59ef9b/32.png) [@vkat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/vkat)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 4:00pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/1 "2007-02-03T16:00:21Z")
O.K., I have a date with a (female) friend tonight to go out tonight. Jazz musician, at a museum. I find I am a little scared! I work and go home and collapse. No social life for years, as I seem to have so little in common with my few, mostly married, female friends, and I have not dated. For decades before that, it was married, little kids, no money, my husband considered drinking till you pass out the only social event, etc. And I have a tendency to just withdraw from the world when under a lot of stress, which I have been for oh, 10 years or so. Right now I would be happy just to feel comfortable and secure in myself in this very different environment. I find that I am not at all used to being with people in any setting that is not directed by my work. In other words, I may interact a great deal, but I have a purpose that underlies it all, the touchstone of a role. The purpose of going out strictly for the pleasure of it is something I find I no longer remember how to navigate, if I ever did. I can remember feeling very disappointed in the past while “trying” to “have fun”. Of course you can’t be trying and having fun! If I don’t feel tapped -in, I just want to go. I am not used to being around people trying to have fun either, that whole dynamic. I am looking to feel comfortable, open and authentic. I sometimes feel self-conscious in social situations (nobody believes this that knows me, but trust me, it’s true) and I hate that. Of course it would be great to make new friends or anything else good that would happen, but mostly I want to be comfortable and open to the experience. I sound so silly! This is really different for me! I don’t have a specific role I am playing and when I am just me, I am always by myself or with my children, who are quite used to their eccentric, often blunt, mother. And I have this secret inner rebel - this will likely be an intellectual, see me be tres discerning in my tastes crowd - it makes me want to dress up like Daisy Duke! lol. I don’t want to catch myself worrying about their reactions - I want to have my own experience without self-consciousness, like a child. I don’t know much about jazz but I’m looking forward to something different. Maybe I will love it. I love my friend, she’s the coolest, and I want to enjoy her too. We have never gone out together, I know her from work (she is no longer there). She is older than me, not that anyone would guess that, very different and diverse and liberal and secure in that, just the coolest person ever. The kind of woman I would like to be more like, so there’s that too - I will be studying her, although I of course, want to be me. She is not a jealous or insecure type, she applauds whatever you want to be and she is so in a class by herself, she is never competitive. She creates what she wants, doesn’t compete for it. That’s what I so admire about her! Men swarm to her, btw. It is eerie. Anyway, the point is, no need to worry about jousting between us. We’re very cool together. So, I have a little Instant Sexiness A left, cops, Instant Honesty, test mixes of Instant Sunshine and [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) (except MX144, it’s gone)…hmmm…I know there’s more…not interested in the power stuff, or am I? For that I have MX 102, MX134 and MX204. Trying to think what else - you know how you get so much, you can’t remember. Lust after me. Edge/w. The ever mysterious MX135. Oh, I think I have Instant Shine mixes too, that were offered as the holiday packages, BUT…I somehow got the men’s package instead of the women’s. Some of them are the same, though. I think I still have a little of a to-go of regular Instant Shine. HELP! I am one of those inwardly shy, socially backward people that when I say that, people fall down and roll on the floor laughing. Well, I can’t help how I SEEM, there is some insecure inner pre-teen in here that really gets to me sometimes and they don’t know how I FEEL. I am very sensitive to other people’s energies and can sometimes get overwhelmed by just being around too many people. Which is why I live like a hermit when not being uber-social at work. And it isn’t about how they perceive me, or how they think I feel, it’s about how I do, so, how do I help myself feel like I want to so I forget all about pheros and everything else and just have a blast playing? Oh, I don’t dance either…or think I don’t…yikes. And there will be alcohol along the way, and me and alcohol are a tricky mix, I will just be careful about that. I know I don’t drink very well. This is ridiculous. I am 48 years old and I have walked through hell and I am scared to go out and play with grownups! I would just like to smack me! What is this??? ---
**Author:** ![Carrie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carrie/32/1537_2.png) [@Carrie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carrie)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 4:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/2 "2007-02-03T16:27:35Z")
Hey, I can really identify with what you’re saying about social discomfort, being fine when there’s a purpose but when the purpose is social, feeling at a loss. Identity really tied up with work, being productive, etc. So now you get to tap into what play felt like … at some time in your life, you played, probably with full intensity, engagement and flow, and creativity. The Liquid Sunshine series (especially 138 and 136) helps you recapture that, eases you into a moment-by-moment flow where you can simply enjoy what’s happening now, and who you’re with. Instant Shine is similar. [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) (and I don’t have the test mixes for that one, but I bet they’d be helpful). For an event of this type, you could use them all. Put them on and just go get external, be in the moment. Your friend sounds very cool - different people bring out different sides of you - hope you have great time! ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 6:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/3 "2007-02-03T18:23:07Z")
Well, vkat, all I can say is hang in there…🙂 I can truly identify what you’re feeling too…the strong assertive side of me was kept hidden and under the surface until I went through my second divorce (about 6 years ago) when I decided that I needed to be me…the person that I had always wanted to be, that is. I too lived kind of like a hermit. But, I was even like that as I was growing up…awkward and clumsy feeling during social interactions. I had things that I wanted to say and do, but never could seem to get those things to come out for everyone to see… Now, however, I have decided that I am going to say and do what I want, and TO HELL WITH ANYBODY WHO DOESN’T LIKE IT!!! 😮 As a result, I am a much happier person!! 😃 I shake things up, and tell it like it is…some people can’t handle that, but to them, I say…OH WELL!!! I would personally suggest the Instant Sexiness A…it is my favorite for really intensifying that “I am woman, hear me roar” persona…Carrie is very correct about [Instant Shine](https://a314.com/product/shine/) and the Instant Sunshine series…they are fabulous for uplifting you and just making you feel good. I also hear that MX 135 is really good, but I haven’t gotten to try it yet. Good luck, and just go out and enjoy yourself…😉 ---
**Author:** ![Nunya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ac8455/32.png) [@Nunya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Nunya)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 6:26pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/4 "2007-02-03T18:26:12Z")
yeah i would use the instant openness - prolly on your chest so you can smell it, and in your hair, a little instant honesty also on your hair, [Instant sexiness](https://phera.com/product/instant-sexiness/) on you neck area, and wrists - perhaps the back of your neck too, to trail? And then a spray of instant shine to on your chest neck area to seal the deal and have you feeling fabulous. after that - just go with it hon - don’t have expectations of it being the most fabulous night ever - just go out with the expectation that you are going to enjoy your friend, and enjoy the music, and whatever else comes of it, comes of it. i hope it’s a blast! ---
**Author:** ![vkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/59ef9b/32.png) [@vkat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/vkat)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 8:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/5 "2007-02-03T20:44:52Z")
Thank you all so much! In my search on the [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) Test Mixes, I see only Sigma has reviewed them, we need to do some work on these by themselves and I will, later. I don’t have the regular version and I know the MX144 seemed to have quite an effect on me, but that’s the one that leaked. Still, there are the others and they should have at least a similar effect. Anyway, I am literally sitting here writing down numbers, it’s gonna be Sunshine, Openness and Shine for me, albeit in test mixes. Thank you again. I feel better to just admit I’m nervous and I appreciate all these comments from women I consider strong and outstanding. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one that has or has had these moments. I can be such a tank and people always think I’m so tough. Ha. Sure I am, in a crisis, but I want to stop living there all the time! My second divorce too, Dolly…it really does a number on your head. It’s hard to trust others and even harder to trust myself. Maybe the hermit part is just regrouping. I am going to spend the evening with a great person who is wonderful to be around doing something different than sitting home bored out of my skull and I can’t lose. Again, thank you all so much…it really helps. ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 9:24pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/6 "2007-02-03T21:24:33Z")
> [@vkat](#): > > My second divorce too, Dolly…it really does a number on your head. It’s hard to trust others and even harder to trust myself. Maybe the hermit part is just regrouping. Yeah, I have had a total of three…my third marriage was very brief, because the “real me” decided that I was not going to take any needless crap from another man. So, I put him out of my house…very liberating!!!😃 Just keep on getting out there…I am learning to trust others again but I learned a very important lesson…when you feel like you can’t trust anyone else, always trust yourself and your instincts! If something just doesn’t “seem right” to you, then it probably isn’t. 😉 Enjoy your evening!! ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2007, 9:58pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/7 "2007-02-03T21:58:04Z")
Vkat, i want to be able to help,but im just not helpful here. as a bartender its my job to make sure everyones having a good time,hooking people up with other people, and entertaining if i find an opportunity. going into it with the idea of learning something, and then with the mission of getting to know people (very different from them getting to know you,you have something to do here which keeps your mind off of what others think about you) might help. let us know how it goes! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Carrie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carrie/32/1537_2.png) [@Carrie](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carrie)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 12:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/8 "2007-02-04T00:04:10Z")
You’ve nailed it, Lor! that’s some of the best possible advice for folks with shyness or social phobia … don’t think about yourself at all, but make it _your_ job to help other people feel comfortable and have a good time. Then hook into your curiosity about other people and discover who’s around that you might really like. People will surprise you sometimes … ---
**Author:** ![Jasmin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jasmin/32/287_2.png) [@Jasmin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jasmin)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 4:12am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/9 "2007-02-04T04:12:25Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > Vkat, > i want to be able to help,but im just not helpful here. > as a bartender its my job to make sure everyones having a good time,hooking people up with other people, and entertaining if i find an opportunity. > > going into it with the idea of learning something, and then with the mission of getting to know people (very different from them getting to know you,you have something to do here which keeps your mind off of what others think about you) might help. let us know how it goes! 🙂 Definitely. Rep Points to this. Bartendresses know. 😉 People sometimes falsely think that if you’re being overly accomodating or really outgoing to people, and caring about their needs, they call you a “kiss up” or something to that effect… My dad calls these people “Brownnosers”: where the nose is so far up somebody’s butt that it is brown… 🙄 … But the fact is, people aren’t used to having other people CARE for them. They feel _luxuriated_ when you give them actual, caring, attentive attention. When they’re feeling good, you’re feeling good, and its just an endless chain of feeding off each other’s feel-goodedness. When other people call you a suckup, kiss up, brownnoser, _whatever_, for luxuriating someone else and making them feel good, man… just give them a cookie. In fact, have a fresh baked batch of cookies, baked with little heart sugar confettis in them, readily available, just for these people whose hearts you haven’t melted yet. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 4:22am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/10 "2007-02-04T04:22:07Z")
[http://www.smilieshq.com/smilies/sign0154.gif](http://www.smilieshq.com/smilies/sign0154.gif) … ---
**Author:** ![Jasmin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jasmin/32/287_2.png) [@Jasmin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jasmin)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 4:28am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/11 "2007-02-04T04:28:20Z")
> [@vkat](#): > > O.K., I have a date with a (female) friend tonight to go out tonight. Jazz musician, at a museum. I find I am a little scared! I work and go home and collapse. No social life for years, as I seem to have so little in common with my few, mostly married, female friends, and I have not dated. For decades before that, it was married, little kids, no money, my husband considered drinking till you pass out the only social event, etc. > And I have a tendency to just withdraw from the world when under a lot of stress, which I have been for oh, 10 years or so. > Right now I would be happy just to feel comfortable and secure in myself in this very different environment. I find that I am not at all used to being with people in any setting that is not directed by my work. In other words, I may interact a great deal, but I have a purpose that underlies it all, the touchstone of a role. The purpose of going out strictly for the pleasure of it is something I find I no longer remember how to navigate, if I ever did. I can remember feeling very disappointed in the past while “trying” to “have fun”. Of course you can’t be trying and having fun! If I don’t feel tapped -in, I just want to go. I am not used to being around people trying to have fun either, that whole dynamic. > I am looking to feel comfortable, open and authentic. I sometimes feel self-conscious in social situations (nobody believes this that knows me, but trust me, it’s true) and I hate that. Of course it would be great to make new friends or anything else good that would happen, but mostly I want to be comfortable and open to the experience. > I sound so silly! This is really different for me! I don’t have a specific role I am playing and when I am just me, I am always by myself or with my children, who are quite used to their eccentric, often blunt, mother. And I have this secret inner rebel - this will likely be an intellectual, see me be tres discerning in my tastes crowd - it makes me want to dress up like Daisy Duke! lol. I don’t want to catch myself worrying about their reactions - I want to have my own experience without self-consciousness, like a child. I don’t know much about jazz but I’m looking forward to something different. Maybe I will love it. I love my friend, she’s the coolest, and I want to enjoy her too. We have never gone out together, I know her from work (she is no longer there). She is older than me, not that anyone would guess that, very different and diverse and liberal and secure in that, just the coolest person ever. The kind of woman I would like to be more like, so there’s that too - I will be studying her, although I of course, want to be me. She is not a jealous or insecure type, she applauds whatever you want to be and she is so in a class by herself, she is never competitive. She creates what she wants, doesn’t compete for it. That’s what I so admire about her! Men swarm to her, btw. It is eerie. Anyway, the point is, no need to worry about jousting between us. We’re very cool together. > So, I have a little Instant Sexiness A left, cops, Instant Honesty, test mixes of Instant Sunshine and Instant Openness (except MX144, it’s gone)…hmmm…I know there’s more…not interested in the power stuff, or am I? For that I have MX 102, MX134 and MX204. Trying to think what else - you know how you get so much, you can’t remember. Lust after me. Edge For Women. The ever mysterious MX135. Oh, I think I have Instant Shine mixes too, that were offered as the holiday packages, BUT…I somehow got the men’s package instead of the women’s. Some of them are the same, though. I think I still have a little of a to-go of regular Instant Shine. > HELP! I am one of those inwardly shy, socially backward people that when I say that, people fall down and roll on the floor laughing. Well, I can’t help how I SEEM, there is some insecure inner pre-teen in here that really gets to me sometimes and they don’t know how I FEEL. > I am very sensitive to other people’s energies and can sometimes get overwhelmed by just being around too many people. Which is why I live like a hermit when not being uber-social at work. > And it isn’t about how they perceive me, or how they think I feel, it’s about how I do, so, how do I help myself feel like I want to so I forget all about pheros and everything else and just have a blast playing? > Oh, I don’t dance either…or think I don’t…yikes. And there will be alcohol along the way, and me and alcohol are a tricky mix, I will just be careful about that. I know I don’t drink very well. > This is ridiculous. I am 48 years old and I have walked through hell and I am scared to go out and play with grownups! I would just like to smack me! What is this??? vkat, there is something about your energy and candidness that I really really like. I have this feeling that you’re electrifying when you’re “in the zone”. For the past some odd years, you’ve been in a _work_ zone. And I’m very sure, in that zone, you are amazing, lightning-like, quick witted, daft and sharp. You are quick on your feet and observant, which probably propelled you to goddess status in your work environment. I couldn’t imagine that when you just shift gears into the _social_ zone, that you wouldn’t be commanding and lightning-like in that aspect of your life, too. I’d imagine you’d tackle it in the same fervor you tackle work. Building momentum helps. This jazz club night will help you go to the NEXT jazz club night, because you’ll have an idea of what these jazzy, swingy things are like, and they won’t be so scary anymore. This event will leap frog you into the next event, and the next and the next, until you’ve built enough social momentum to go ANYWHERE… tea parties on the Virgin Galactic with billionaires and debutantes! And it sounds like you do a real good job of picking good people to be around. You wouldn’t be able to pick these people unless you had impeccable tastes, yourself. I chewed through a fortune cookie the other day that said _scrambles to find it_ “Your company is a mirror of yourself.” … I think you’ve got this covered. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![vkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/59ef9b/32.png) [@vkat](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/vkat)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 3:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/12 "2007-02-04T15:51:49Z")
Well, there is so much here to work with I hardly know where to start. First of all, whatever the pheromones do, you all certainly helped 🙂 Lor, bartenders and tendresses are the best. They certainly made my evening last night, male and female, buying some of the drinks and by, golly, I guess I do dance, lol. I wore: 2 sprays MX138, one of MX137 (Instant Sunshines mixes) 3 sprays MX146 (Instant Openness mix) 1 spray MX207 (Instant Shine test mix) to my hair 3 sprays Instant Sexiness, cleavage, hair, neck A dab of cops split between the wrists, covered with a spray of TAH, which I found really mellows out the smell of EOW, although it doesn’t smell like much to me on it’s own, sort of like vodka with some soft powdery note I’m probably describing wrong because I am just learning about perfume too. But when it hit what was lingering of the feta cheese smell of EOW, it immediately changed and mellowed it out. I can still smell the stuff even after it dries down, so I liked that. I DRANK the chocolotinis, lol. This was quite a mix, so didn’t accomplish much as far as testing the test mixes, since they should be tested alone and against each other. I was just going with the basic premise of whatever it was and that seemed to work. I had a bad moment getting ready (nothing fits right, I’m fat, I look ridiculous, etc.) but then I thought oh what the heck, if somebody doesn’t like who I am, that’s good, weed 'em out. I’m sure people are more worried about how they look than how I do. I swear as soon as I sprayed the pheros, I stopped hurling insults at myself. I think this is an important and real effect, being able to stop obsessing and move along. I seem to notice almost instant relief on that score, especially with the [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/) series. The jazz part was not what I expected, auditorium type seating and not that many people there, mostly older, white couples. Pretty sedate. The singer/pianist was fabulous, I kept thinking how lucky I was that I got to hear this at all. I wonder what it’s like to have a voice that’s an instrument - I will never forget that rendition of Midnight Blue. It was COLD in there and I had to keep my coat on, but I felt very relaxed and upbeat. Afterwards we went to a bar, one of those great everyman and woman places of all ages, races, types, anything’s O.K., it was just cool. The waitress is a friend of my friend’s daughter, the most energetic, dancing (she even got on the bar and danced at one point) happy, darling girl I ever saw. (Again I was having the effect - I think it is the Instant Openness-where I enjoy everybody so much). She is like that but I think my cloud really revved her up. How she can dance and deliver drinks and amp up the good mood without wearing out I don’t know, but she should probably make about $150 an hour for what she does, I’ll tell you that. There’s a person who loves her job. One of the bartenders came over and somehow got me up and dancing. The band was good and played all this music I love and some I had forgotten I loved, a huge range of stuff from the 70’s-80’s, everybody was very into it, especially those who couldn’t have been born when it first came out. It was not the usual “hits of that era” stuff, it was much more eclectic and a lot of fun. At one point I noticed this guy that kept hanging about 3-4 feet away, with this strange wondering look on his face. My friend finally looks at me and says “What does he want” and I said “Nothing, I think he is just…” and she said “It’s the energy, isn’t it?” She didn’t know what I was wearing, so that was an interesting statement. Another thing, when the groups of young people would come swinging in, looking all badass or whatever, that tough strutting you do at that age when you enter a place, when they would walk by me, I would get at least one, usually a young woman, that would drop the veneer and give me a big old smile and then look confused. I love to smile at people and love it when they smile back and there was a huge amount of that going on. I drank quite a bit for me, but my mind stayed so clear, I was surprised when I got up and found my legs a bit unsteady, lol. Went to drinking water at that point. I danced with my friend, with others, I usually get really uptight about that but wasn’t somehow. All in all, a very fun evening. I’m sure I wasn’t responsible for all the happy friendly groove going on but I was able to relax and swim in it and I like to think I added to it some, or at least didn’t detract. A note about Instant Sexiness A- although I initially felt it didn’t do much for me, now that it’s about gone, I’ve changed my mind. I get some of the same feel I do from MX134, although the MX134 seems to have a much more pronounced effect. I think they both have TAL, but the MX134 for me is like what Instant Sexiness is for others- sparkly-dominant. I have ordered some TAL by itself so I will see if that is what I’m liking. Maybe MX134 has more, or is a blend that somehow brings out the TAL effect more, either by adding or removing something in Instant Sexiness A. I’m just guessing though. There is some similarity there for me, something that is the same about both, and the Instant Sexiness seems to be a nice, but quieter note of what I get from MX134. I found that when I did run into a mirror, I didn’t freak out like I usually do. I looked OK to me, it wasn’t a big deal. I count all hits on myself as the most important kind, because I really do want to be happy and feel good, and if the pheros only work on me, that is fine too. This mix seemed to allow me to lay off myself. One more note- not sure I have fertile menstrual cycles at this point, but if I do, I would be ovulating about now. All in all, I would say - mission accomplished. ---
**Author:** ![Nunya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ac8455/32.png) [@Nunya](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Nunya)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2007, 4:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/13 "2007-02-04T16:28:55Z")
what a great report! It sounds like you had a blast - were able to keep your confidence, and relax, relate and release - good on you! ---
**Author:** ![saraunne](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/saraunne/32/193_2.png) [@saraunne](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/saraunne)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 6:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/14 "2007-02-05T06:30:25Z")
I loved reading this! I hope every experience you have has the same “energy”. :o And I’m happy you have a friend who’s like that! They’re the best, because they give off and fuel the same energy you’re creating. I completely understand the fears you had (have? hope not!) and the insecurities. I started to come out of my shell a couple months ago – but after a pretty harsh weekend, I’ve found myself regressing. But I smiled when I read your experience – thanks for bringing me back to earth! The only person I can be is myself, and there’s no reason to change it, or be ashamed of it. Nobody is perfect, nobody stops growing or learning. And phsaw. You’re beautiful. Glad you had fun dancing! It’s my therapy! ---
**Author:** ![Jasmin](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/jasmin/32/287_2.png) [@Jasmin](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Jasmin)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 7:58am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/15 "2007-02-05T07:58:05Z")
> [@saraunne](#): > > I hope every experience you have has the same “energy”. :o And I’m happy you have a friend who’s like that! They’re the best, because they give off and fuel the same energy you’re creating. Oh lordy lordy, I can’t doubt how wonderful it is to surround yourself with people whose energy you can feed off of and bounce back. It’s like playing ping pong, where the ball is a little explosive ball of good feelings, and every time you hit it back and forth it gets bigger and bigger and bigger. Sounds like you’ve got this energy DOWN with your girlie friend! Let’s hear all about the next date! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 4:05pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/16 "2007-02-05T16:05:34Z")
What a wonderful report. I am so happy for you. Sounds like you got lots of hits but more importantly you felt comfortable. It will get easier each time you “Venture” out into social situations. I think alot of people feel as you do and there is nothing wrong with that. I know I do. I think half the battle is being aware of it. When I was younger in my 20’s I was very shy. It is something I have worked on all my life. When I first started my job years ago I really would only talk to people if I had to. Now they cant shut me up and they tease me about it because they remember how shy I was. I wish I had these products then. There are times when I still revert back and have to give myself a shove in situations when I meet new people. Keep getting out there 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dolly](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/dolly/32/1591_2.png) [@dolly](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/dolly)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2007, 7:06pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/venturing-out-into-the-world-help/1891/17 "2007-02-05T19:06:52Z")
> [@vkat](#): > > and by, golly, I guess I do dance, lol. > I wore: > 2 sprays MX138, one of MX137 (Instant Sunshines mixes) > 3 sprays MX146 (Instant Openness mix) > 1 spray MX207 (Instant Shine test mix) to my hair > 3 sprays Instant Sexiness, cleavage, hair, neck > A dab of cops split between the wrists, covered with a spray of TAH, That mix would make ANYBODY dance, I should think…😃 > [@vkat](#): > > This was quite a mix, so didn’t accomplish much as far as testing the test mixes, since they should be tested alone and against each other. I was just going with the basic premise of whatever it was and that seemed to work. That works!!! > [@vkat](#): > > I had a bad moment getting ready (nothing fits right, I’m fat, I look ridiculous, etc.) but then I thought oh what the heck, if somebody doesn’t like who I am, that’s good, weed 'em out. I’m sure people are more worried about how they look than how I do. I swear as soon as I sprayed the pheros, I stopped hurling insults at myself. I think this is an important and real effect, being able to stop obsessing and move along. I seem to notice almost instant relief on that score, especially with the Instant Openness series. Don’t you LOVE it…😃 > [@vkat](#): > > At one point I noticed this guy that kept hanging about 3-4 feet away, with this strange wondering look on his face. My friend finally looks at me and says “What does he want” and I said “Nothing, I think he is just…” and she said “It’s the energy, isn’t it?” She didn’t know what I was wearing, so that was an interesting statement. > > I danced with my friend, with others, I usually get really uptight about that but wasn’t somehow. All in all, a very fun evening. I’m sure I wasn’t responsible for all the happy friendly groove going on but I was able to relax and swim in it and I like to think I added to it some, or at least didn’t detract. > > A note about Instant Sexiness A- although I initially felt it didn’t do much for me, now that it’s about gone, I’ve changed my mind. I get some of the same feel I do from MX134, although the MX134 seems to have a much more pronounced effect. I think they both have TAL, but the MX134 for me is like what Instant Sexiness is for others- sparkly-dominant. I have ordered some TAL by itself so I will see if that is what I’m liking. Maybe MX134 has more, or is a blend that somehow brings out the TAL effect more, either by adding or removing something in Instant Sexiness A. I’m just guessing though. There is some similarity there for me, something that is the same about both, and the Instant Sexiness seems to be a nice, but quieter note of what I get from MX134. Oh, if you get an effect from Instant Sexiness Mix A, you will absolutely LOVE straight TAL…I do…it is definitely one of my favorites… > [@vkat](#): > > I found that when I did run into a mirror, I didn’t freak out like I usually do. I looked OK to me, it wasn’t a big deal. I count all hits on myself as the most important kind, because I really do want to be happy and feel good, and if the pheros only work on me, that is fine too. This mix seemed to allow me to lay off myself. > > All in all, I would say - mission accomplished. Excellent effect…one of the best you can ask for…[pheromones](https://a314.com/) do that for me also… So glad that you had such a wonderful evening…just keep on getting out there, and remember…HAVE FUN!!!