# Very nearly had an affair - posted on another board, please don't judge. **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 10, 2012, 8:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-nearly-had-an-affair-posted-on-another-board-please-dont-judge/55565 "2012-05-10T20:54:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Andsoitgoes](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andsoitgoes/32/220_2.png) [@Andsoitgoes](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Andsoitgoes)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2012, 10:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-nearly-had-an-affair-posted-on-another-board-please-dont-judge/55565/21 "2012-06-10T10:30:50Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > I dont think you have been irresponsible exactly. We start out using mones not sure what to expect and once you get them working for you something occurs thats sort of a turning point when you realize the power of these things. We all have set boundaries we have established over the years on how we behave and how we deal with others. After pheromones you sometimes have to reset your boundaries a little stronger thats all. > > Sometimes you have to do this more then once. Believe me look up my post on the “mall incident”. Even vets screw up sometimes. > > Tisha I tried looking up the mall incident but couldn’t find it. And thanks for saying this. It was definitely an eye-opening experience. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Andsoitgoes](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/andsoitgoes/32/220_2.png) [@Andsoitgoes](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Andsoitgoes)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2012, 10:56am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-nearly-had-an-affair-posted-on-another-board-please-dont-judge/55565/22 "2012-06-10T10:56:06Z")
> [@Sarafina](#): > > Thanks, it was hard pretty much losing the love of my life..I still wonder if I’ll ever feel the same way for anyone the way I did for him..I’m trying to put myself out there again so Im back on the board reading up on pheros…we’ll see. > > and yea I see the attraction was always there..I saw your update, hopefully he’ll understand why things NEED to be different between you two. I assume he remembers all that happened? He definitely remembers. I posted on another board about a handful of texts I got after that talk at the restaurant (when he had said I was being detached and distant and awkward) where he wanted me to acknowledge my attachment to him. I said we were friends and that that WAS an acknowledgement of an emotional attachment and he said that was close enough. He recently went on a trip and came back and needed someone to pick him up at the airport. Posted it on FB. When I didn’t volunteer, he got pissed and instead of accepting my reason (that I would be at work, which was the truth) he got mad and said it was because I still had issues about what happened that night. At that point I stopped responding. I made a mess of this friendship and don’t know if it can be fixed. I am so sorry about what you have been through. It is an incredible loss. It seems that there are so few people we really truly connect with in this lifetime, and for it to be taken away so young just doesn’t seem right. You’re a brave lady and strong, anyone can tell from your posts, lol. I commend you for taking a deep breath and trying to get back out there. It can be tough, but hopefully worth it. There are a lot of people on this planet looking to love and be loved. It may not be exactly the same as what you had with your SO, but it can still be wonderful. ---
**Author:** ![Sarafina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Sarafina](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Sarafina)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2012, 2:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-nearly-had-an-affair-posted-on-another-board-please-dont-judge/55565/23 "2012-06-10T14:23:21Z")
Thanks for your words 🙂 > [@Andsoitgoes](#): > > . There are a lot of people on this planet looking to love and be loved. **It may not be exactly the same as what you had with your SO, but it can still be wonderful.** This is what Im struggling with. I keep looking for exactly the same..same feelings same connection, I need to finally accept that, that is not possible 😕 Your friend is weird, why cant his wife pick him up? why is he looking for YOU to pick him up an dthen to go on to throw a tantrum? Uh he sounds immature and Im glad you didnt respond [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-nearly-had-an-affair-posted-on-another-board-please-dont-judge/55565.md?page=1)