# very very very very low libido **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 17, 2008, 7:30pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-very-very-very-low-libido/15732 "2008-07-17T19:30:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 25
**Author:** ![TheCentaur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@TheCentaur](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheCentaur)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2009, 7:40pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-very-very-very-low-libido/15732/25 "2009-06-11T19:40:54Z")
> [@yashsharma](#): > > Libido has nothing to do with how much you help at home, cook for her, take her out, have pleasant conversations, buy her gifts, surprise her every often with something nice. Libido is a physical disorder or call it a condition of the human body that cannot be increased with anything I mentioned above. > > There is no easy solution, bud. Try to seek counciling together. yes, and intimacy to a woman doesn’t mean sex. we’re replying to the post in order to see what could be done immediately to recover lost libido. most of the time its something simple. seeing a doctor and getting blood profiles and a complete physical exam is the only way to rule out the physical portion of it. but sending your spouse to the doctor to ‘get it fixed’, when all she needed was a little emotional support is a bit of overkill. counciling is nothing more than 3rd party discussions. they’re useful for spotting communication issues, but again, there are things that can be done at home before involving anyone else. there are issues that need to be solved, and the hope is that they’re easy ones that we can work with. sometimes they’re not. i grieve a little when one of these quests to rekindle turns for the worst, like this one: > [@So much for the pheros...no point now](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/so-much-for-the-pheros-no-point-now/29565): > > Well, the main point or reason I bought any pheros at all was in order to hopefully spice things up a little with the hubby; and when I found IH, I thought that would be a great addition as well. I know I haven’t been as great with the reporting lately as I was at first, but the reason for this is that none of them did any good for what I wanted: despite my best tries, (along with everything else I’ve tried) I found out that he has been cheating on me. frowning And has went to see a lawyer abo… same goes for Diamond’s journal. at this point in my life, I could not fathom a marriage without some physical intimacy. I don’t just desire to be with women, I desire to be with My Wife, even though the ol’ urge on her end is a bit low. she loves me enough to give me attention, even if she doesnt feel like it, because she wants to express love in a way I can understand it, just like I want to do for her. the fact that he cares enough to ask and try, is encouraging. thats why communication is key. if, in the end, she doesn’t know why she’s not aroused, and he’s done all in his power to get the roadblocks out of the way and understand her, (and she understands herself and has tried as well) _then_ its time to see a doctor. this forum is only designed to help so much. if its something she’s unwilling to try for, then there isn’t any way that we can assist. its out of the scope of the users here. then theres the “fake it till you make it” approach. that might work, too. 🙂 --- _[View the full topic](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/very-very-very-very-low-libido/15732)._