# What to use (do) to make my best friend for past 2 years be attracted to me? Read plz **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [February 19, 2010, 5:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373 "2010-02-19T05:27:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![bman123](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bman123/32/2087_2.png) [@bman123](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bman123)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 10:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/21 "2010-02-19T22:31:11Z")
Everyone here gave you great advice bro. but personally i think your to young this kind of problem. you are so caught up on this one female that you fail to look to realize theres a whole bunch of "jessie " out there. even better ones. Ive been there bro. im 26, i feel in love with a girl who was my best friend in high school. i married that girl when i was 18. then got divorced at age 22. Not saying that youre relationship wouldnt work out but its so far a lot of trouble. BUT you seemed very fond of this girl so i guess you have to learn the hard way. No matter what youre going to do what you going to do. so i suggest bro GET YOUR WOMAN!!! she already knows how you feel. you dont need to remind her every time you feel volnerable. shes know. take control. be a little aggresive but respectfully do so. shes obviously lost, she cant make the choice, havent you notice? Thats where you make the choice for her in some sense. you are a valuable person to her. you can get her. nah you WILL get her. Take her out on a date. NOT HANG OUT. on a DATE. try to be subtle demanding/ asking type of way. for EX: “hey im taking you to the movies friday, what time i should get you”. that type of way. again be respectful I know you got this bro. GET YOUR WOMAN!!! OH as for pheros IS,AMMO (for sexual appeal thats not too overbearing), and def some a314 to show youre a leader and not a whimpy friend _no offense generally speakin_ good luck!!!🙂 ---
**Author:** ![seekingadvice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58f4c7/32.png) [@seekingadvice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/seekingadvice)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 10:38pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/22 "2010-02-19T22:38:13Z")
dam b, every single person who posted..give me hell of great advices.. urs was..how can i say this..motivating.. (not that im not motivated bro, but its this feelin i have that i cant relly see myself wit someone else..) but hey.. its better to try her than to be afraid and not gettin anywhere? problem is, shes confused too i guess? maybe her parents, and the 2 guys .. she is a traditional type of girl i guess.. what was ur situation? if u dont mind me asking.. kind of similar? or u were the only guy? or u were the “nice” guy? and howd u turn it around if u did? (tell me what happened honestlyyy ) im going to be using all ur advices 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bman123](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bman123/32/2087_2.png) [@bman123](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bman123)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 11:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/23 "2010-02-19T23:21:05Z")
bro i was the nicest sweetest Pu$$y ever when i was 18. this is what happend. my ex wife in high school was dating some guy. she was with him for years. since freshman year of high school. then during the 3rd year of high school i went for her. i tried hard. this dude was better looking than me and more popular. i was the under dog. but i didnt let that stop me from what i want. nothing should stand in your way. and if something is in your way MOVE THAT SHIT out the way. so i got the girl. people were shocked. but i got her and married her. our marriage unfortunatly didnt work out. we were to young and wanted different things. but it doesnt have to be you. i was definitely was in the same situation you were in. remember she was confused to between her old boy friend she loved and the new guy who have a lot to offer. Bro listen carefully. you just said your self shes confused. thats where you come in. you have to LEAD her to the right “PATH”. which is the path to you. be more proactive on being a love interest. dont mind the old traditional ways she lives. thats all gravy. in fact thats even better. you can offer some things thats not traditional and FUN for her to experience. no matter what bro shes still a girl. old school new school doesnt matter. shes still open for excitment. from my experience and what i think might be the problem is that when you bring up that you love her or something in that nature youre reminding her of what bothers her and what makes her comfortable. all that leads to stress she wants to avoid. remember the feeling when you had a bad report card or failed a test you have to show your parents? its something like that. SHE DOESNT WANT TO DEAL WITH IT. soooo what you have to do is “sneak” into her heart. Dont talk about the feeling she knows you have for her unless SHE BRINGS IT UP. take her out. be flirty. get out of the friends zone. i was in the friend zone zone for 3 years and still got the girl. be agressive. try not to be much of a friend anymore but be a lover. some one who she can come to and trust as a MAN. dont sell your self short. you can have that sex appeal for her. you just need to provide it. i cant stress enough flirt with her. respectfully of course. your going to be nervous, youre going to have doubts, youre going to be afraid to make a move because you tihnk shell get mad. try to fight the fear. she may want you to cross that friendship line to become her boyfriend. some ways to flirt could be lets see, hug her. not like a friend hug but like a flirty, suave kind of hug. hug her waist/lower body not the upper body. be a little touchy feely with her or be playful. try to bring out some sexual tension with her. when the time is right youll know what to do. listen to your gut. if you feel a like therse something there that she might want you to do like kiss her chances are you may be right. its that you would be nervous. Most importantly READ HER BODY LANGUAGE. Look closely and carefully. being that shes a traditional girl she doesnt want to act on anything. BUT IT DOESNT MEAN SHES DOESNT WANT YOU TO. remeber she doesnt want anything to be her fault cause she is confused and scared also. so take action. you make the move. YOU the one that kissed her, YOU the one that made the move. but SHE’S the one that invited it. make sure you read her body language i cant stress that enough. you might of missed something. she might tell you somthing but could be saying something else. pay close attention. and remember this like i said earlyier be respectful. as always no means no but dont be afraid to take action. youll know when the time is right. the worse that could happen is she could just say im not ready or something in not nature if you try to move in for a kiss. give it a shot kid. you got it. and im pretty honest with my life any questions you have id be more than happy to answer.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![seekingadvice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58f4c7/32.png) [@seekingadvice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/seekingadvice)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2010, 11:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/24 "2010-02-19T23:31:07Z")
bro, thank you soo much, i private messaged u lol, i think u got it, but plz do read it if u can, sorry to keep u busy.. im really interested in this.. and other thing was that what i messaged u.. the ending where i tell u the convo that happened between her and Harry, i m not supposed to know all of it lol.. she told me somewhat what happened and she called me at the time right after she told him what happened but that was only the first line.. i wanted to bring it up was because in that convo that i read.. it seemed somewhere where she still considers both of us close.. includin him but.. i want her to open up to me so i know whats goin on in her mind? u think thats a good idea bro? or no? after i bring it up..ill tell her how i feel.. then i wont be even trying to bring up anything about what i feel or what not.. for a long time.. i guess ill be playin the game u can say lol.. do read the message if u can 🙂 thanks so much for sharing ur life, i appreciate it, i know its kinda personall.. ---
**Author:** ![seekingadvice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58f4c7/32.png) [@seekingadvice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/seekingadvice)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2010, 6:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/25 "2010-02-20T06:04:47Z")
bro, thank you soo much, i private messaged u lol, i think u got it, but plz do read it if u can, sorry to keep u busy.. im really interested in this.. and other thing was that what i messaged u.. the ending where i tell u the convo that happened between her and Harry, i m not supposed to know all of it lol.. she told me somewhat what happened and she called me at the time right after she told him what happened but that was only the first line.. i wanted to bring it up was because in that convo that i read.. it seemed somewhere where she still considers both of us close.. includin him but.. i want her to open up to me so i know whats goin on in her mind? u think thats a good idea bro? or no? after i bring it up..ill tell her how i feel.. then i wont be even trying to bring up anything about what i feel or what not.. for a long time.. i guess ill be playin the game u can say lol.. do read the message if u can thanks so much for sharing ur life, i appreciate it, i know its kinda personall.. ---
**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2010, 9:15am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/26 "2010-02-20T09:15:46Z")
> [@](#): > > i wanted to bring it up was because in that convo that i read.. it seemed somewhere where she still considers both of us close.. includin him but.. i want her to open up to me so i know whats goin on in her mind? u think thats a good idea bro? or no? after i bring it up..ill tell her how i feel.. then i wont be even trying to bring up anything about what i feel or what not.. for a long time.. i guess ill be playin the game u can say lol.. Dude the only person your benefiting by bringing up Harry all the time to her is Harry. It lowers your value and makes you seem weak. Let Harry worry about Harry. Take the advice that RAD and Bman are giving you and make it about you and her and no one else. Start giving those signals now. Do that and what she thinks about Harry wont matter. Its my opinion that she connects better with you but Harry is giving all the signals. Start learning how to give and read those signals with body language. She already knows how you feel its time to show her (without going over board of course) that your the man. One last piece of advice… I know you want to know whats going on in her head and that is sweet but believe me men and women have not been able to figure out whats going on in each others heads for centuries. Its ok to be understanding and compassionate to her thoughts and feelings but spend to much time in that place and your in the friend box forever. Its time to put some new thoughts and feelings into her head and you can only do that through taking action and improving you. Tisha ---
**Author:** ![bman123](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bman123/32/2087_2.png) [@bman123](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bman123)\ **Post date:** [February 20, 2010, 4:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/27 "2010-02-20T16:53:42Z")
THATS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID!!! i totally agree with you tisha. From our convo he understands but still its a tough situation he is in. i hate these stages in life. ---
**Author:** ![seekingadvice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58f4c7/32.png) [@seekingadvice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/seekingadvice)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2010, 4:03am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/28 "2010-02-23T04:03:18Z")
> [@bman123](#): > > THATS EXACTLY WHAT I SAID!!! i totally agree with you tisha. From our convo he understands but still its a tough situation he is in. i hate these stages in life. yea, soo complicated lol 😛 ---
**Author:** ![cessnan1315efw](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@cessnan1315efw](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/cessnan1315efw)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2010, 6:54pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373/29 "2010-02-23T18:54:30Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Dude the only person your benefiting by bringing up Harry all the time to her is Harry. It lowers your value and makes you seem weak. Let Harry worry about Harry. Take the advice that RAD and Bman are giving you and make it about you and her and no one else. Start giving those signals now. Do that and what she thinks about Harry wont matter. > > Its my opinion that she connects better with you but Harry is giving all the signals. Start learning how to give and read those signals with body language. She already knows how you feel its time to show her (without going over board of course) that your the man. > > One last piece of advice… I know you want to know whats going on in her head and that is sweet but believe me men and women have not been able to figure out whats going on in each others heads for centuries. Its ok to be understanding and compassionate to her thoughts and feelings but spend to much time in that place and your in the friend box forever. Its time to put some new thoughts and feelings into her head and you can only do that through taking action and improving you. > > Tisha shes right and so is radman for the most part i was in this situation BIG TIME and it blows and causes and extreme amount of stress… go to the gym work out make yourself better like everyone previously said and honestly id say forget about her theres many many other girls and theres always something better to shoot for. shes wasting your time with this stupid girl boy bestfriend bullshit. and im sure you can say this whole situation brings you down. run away from it all [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-to-use-do-to-make-my-best-friend-for-past-2-years-be-attracted-to-me-read-plz/36373.md?page=1)