# What would you like to hear from a guy when first approached? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [April 14, 2007, 4:27am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117 "2007-04-14T04:27:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2007, 5:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/21 "2007-04-16T17:16:34Z")
> [@TheLustEquation](#): > > That’s entirely unfair, Lor 🆒 . I just stared at your chocalate-shirt pic in your profile, and I can’t figure out what colour your eyes are without blowing the image up in Photoshop 😛 . > > Mind you, I suppose real-llife has a little better resolution 🙄 . this guy was a bigtime player, and was too complimentive. i did try to call him out, but not all guys fail 😃 i didnt mention that not only did he answer, but he gave me details about them (the color wasnt true brown,but gold and greenish too) and i was like damn, he has the game DOWN 😮 but the point was that _we do test you_, hee hee, be prepared ! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![TheLustEquation](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/thelustequation/32/355_2.png) [@TheLustEquation](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TheLustEquation)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2007, 5:42pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/22 "2007-04-16T17:42:04Z")
Yeah, I have a few friends who practice gaming on a regular basis in the clubs. They have their techniques woven rather intricately, but when a woman finds a weak spot in their antics and calls 'em out on it, they get rather angry about the whole affair. This happened just two weeks ago with one of the guys, and he still curses her name 😮 . The way I heard the story, she never said anything mean, just… “retortative” if that makes any sense. I guess she did well to mess with his game and thus, his pride. ---
**Author:** ![smn1234](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/smn1234/32/2430_2.png) [@smn1234](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/smn1234)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2007, 5:47pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/23 "2007-04-16T17:47:17Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > when your genuine, usually the first thing that enters your mind will come-off as genuine. > > rehearsed is soooooooo easily detectable. > > some guy came to the bar and said you are sooo beautiful. > i imediately turned my back to him and said “really? what color are my eyes” > > we gals can nip you in the BUD… LOVE it… definetly rep worht but I can’t give any haha ☹ btw, that’s sorta hard.. i usually dont notice people’s eye color or don’t care to remember… and people may see beauty in different ways, some like eyes, some like hair, some like the angelina jolie lips, yada yada ---
**Author:** ![Carmine23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carmine23/32/1703_2.png) [@Carmine23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carmine23)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2007, 9:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/24 "2007-04-16T21:23:43Z")
Well from all the comments I’ve heard I might have picked up a thing or two. Funny story today: Theres this girl (very HOT!) in my class that I had talked to her before but basically very friendly stuff like math questions and so on. She had been gone for about 2 weeks (since spring break).This morning I wasn’t wearing any mones and so I walked in the class room and asked her how she was doing because I heard she had surgery. Wile doing this I just gave a pat in the back and she responded very friendly, so we talked about the subject for about 2 minutes, and after that there was basically silence for about one minute because we were listening to the professor, to my surprise she actually turned around (she sits in front of me) not carrying about what the professor had to say (which she would never do)and asked me how I was and what did I do for spring break!!! I was like WHAT?? How could this be, her asking me and wanting to talked to me? This had never happened before so I played along and we hit it off pretty good I got her laughing, smiling and blushing the hole time. After a wile to my surprise she was giving me mixed messages, she wanted to get to know me better and even gave me her phone number!! with out me asking for it.!!! But she told me she had a Boy friend and showed me a picture of the guy.!! Anyways I don’t know how to handle this one, because I don’t steal other guys property, and honestly I really don’t care because I don’t fell like wasting time on her, she already taken jet she wants to get to know me better well I think thats her problem and not mine, if she wants me than she has to make the first move,You all agree? The point here is that mones may help sometimes but if you already have a good personality, and you are easy to talk to and relate to, then most of the time you might not even need them.! ---
**Author:** ![Helix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/helix/32/1270_2.png) [@Helix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Helix)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 5:21am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/25 "2007-04-17T05:21:36Z")
say that to her “if u want me u have to work for me im not that easy” (keep straight face adds drama to it and she wont know if u serious or not) it will blow her mind lol as there use to havin guys cling to them. Turn everythin she says back onto her to make it sound like she is the one tryin to pick you up. ---
**Author:** ![Mohammad\_Shah](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mohammad_shah/32/873_2.png) [@Mohammad\_Shah](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mohammad_Shah)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 6:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/26 "2007-04-17T06:11:52Z")
Moderate praises (on anything) and kind words always have shown positive results for me all these years. Although it’s not a ‘secret weapon’, but it works almost all the time to achieve/fulfill my “agendas”!!😛 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 10:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/27 "2007-04-17T10:57:42Z")
> [@smn1234](#): > > LOVE it… definetly rep worht but I can’t give any haha ☹ > > btw, that’s sorta hard.. i usually dont notice people’s eye color or don’t care to remember… and people may see beauty in different ways, some like eyes, some like hair, some like the angelina jolie lips, yada yada unless the guy your calling out is laying it on thick about how pretty you are. > [@](#): > > Carmine23 > Anyways I don’t know how to handle this one, because I don’t steal other guys property, and honestly I really don’t care because I don’t fell like wasting time on her, she already taken jet she wants to get to know me better well I think thats her problem and not mine, if she wants me than she has to make the first move,You all agree? first off,guy can have women friends,_its possible 🙄_ second, i dont care how hot someone is,do you want to play with someone who would do that to her boyfriend if she _is_ hitting on you? people who dont care about other peoples feelings or who dont have a set of rules they live by usually dont give alot of thought to health issues either 😉 its possible she sees you as someone worth getting to know. by giving you her number, she already made enough effort,thats not an easy thing for a gal to do knowing its the guys role to ask…unless she only wants friendship. in that case,asking for a number isnt alot of effort. ---
**Author:** ![Helix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/helix/32/1270_2.png) [@Helix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Helix)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 11:05am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/28 "2007-04-17T11:05:25Z")
Lor is my hero ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 11:16am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/29 "2007-04-17T11:16:31Z")
> [@Helix](#): > > Lor is my hero does this mean i get my own comic-book? ---
**Author:** ![Helix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/helix/32/1270_2.png) [@Helix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Helix)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 11:53am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/30 "2007-04-17T11:53:44Z")
it may do Lor it just may do dont get ya hopes up now wont you ---
**Author:** ![Thalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f475e1/32.png) [@Thalion](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Thalion)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 2:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/31 "2007-04-17T14:56:43Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > does this mean i get my own comic-book? Yeah… weren’t you going to be the Incredible Hulk a while back? ---
**Author:** ![Carmine23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carmine23/32/1703_2.png) [@Carmine23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carmine23)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2007, 10:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/32 "2007-04-17T22:44:37Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > unless the guy your calling out is laying it on thick about how pretty you are. > > first off,guy can have women friends,_its possible 🙄_ > > second, i dont care how hot someone is,do you want to play with someone who would do that to her boyfriend if she _is_ hitting on you? > > people who dont care about other peoples feelings or who dont have a set of rules they live by usually dont give alot of thought to health issues either 😉 > > its possible she sees you as someone worth getting to know. > by giving you her number, she already made enough effort,thats not an easy thing for a gal to do knowing its the guys role to ask…unless she only wants friendship. > in that case,asking for a number isnt alot of effort. Yeah Lor I realize that but I just fell that way because I only have one month out of the semester till I graduate, this being said I will never see her again in my life!! Why? Well I’m moving back to Spain and chances are I will probably never see her again. I dint mean to sound like a complete “A” Hole there, I still respect women and I know and I realize that yes she may just want a friendship but if she just wanted to be my friend why dint she approach me one year ago when I meet her? Anyways I don’t try to hurt peoples fellings. ---
**Author:** ![SteveO](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@SteveO](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/SteveO)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2007, 8:12pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/33 "2007-04-18T20:12:56Z")
I asked a girl today if her (pinkish reddish) hair was naturally that color. It was obvious it wasn’t. She said no and when she had it done it was even brighter. I said well I was going to to be nice and not tell you you need to go back and complain, but now that you mention it… Anyway she got a big kick out of it and we ended up talking for an hour. Genuine is how you come over. I was genuine about my interest in her hair and I was genuine in my humor. Genuine as perceived by her can be completely different from true genuine. It’s all about being comfortable in your approach. ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2007, 9:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/34 "2007-04-18T21:22:25Z")
> [@](#): > > I still respect women and I know and I realize that yes she may just want a friendship but if she just wanted to be my friend why dint she approach me one year ago when I meet her? Anyways I don’t try to hurt peoples fellings. a year ago you may have intimidated her. maybe it took that long to listen to you in class and realize you would be open to her advances for friendship ? sometimes a guy can come off as disinterested 😕 there are so many reasons she might have waited, and it could be that she thought you could have approached her too if she was friend material 🙂 its a bummer that you are leaving when things are getting interesting, but im sure will have as many adventures in Spain, and this will be a pleasant memory to take with you… does she know you are moving? could she have overheard it? ---
**Author:** ![Carmine23](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/carmine23/32/1703_2.png) [@Carmine23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Carmine23)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2007, 10:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/35 "2007-04-18T22:08:47Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > does she know you are moving? > > could she have overheard it? She has no idea I’m moving I don’t think any one does jet! lol Anyways I was talking to her today and I couldn’t get get to shut up lol I guess it was a good thing!!! She was giving me all soi leaning towards me, swinging her her, acting all nervous, and then it hit me that if I don’t tell her right now that I am leaving she might even break up with her current boy friend to be with me and then I would leave, and hurt her really really really bad and I don’t want that to happen so I’m telling her tomorrow. This girl I just realized she really likes me, I come to know this now because I haven’t been wearing any pheros while I’m with her, and honestly I just fell sad and sorry we couldn’t have talked any sooner to at least have been a couple. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2007, 12:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/36 "2007-04-19T00:10:23Z")
> [@Carmine23](#): > > She has no idea I’m moving I don’t think any one does jet! lol > > Anyways I was talking to her today and I couldn’t get get to shut up lol I guess it was a good thing!!! She was giving me all soi leaning towards me, swinging her her, acting all nervous, and then it hit me that if I don’t tell her right now that I am leaving she might even break up with her current boy friend to be with me and then I would leave, and hurt her really really really bad and I don’t want that to happen so I’m telling her tomorrow. > > This girl I just realized she really likes me, I come to know this now because I haven’t been wearing any pheros while I’m with her, and honestly I just fell sad and sorry we couldn’t have talked any sooner to at least have been a couple. ☹ awww that is sad. i just realized you thought i was talking about you in my post a while back > [@](#): > > people who dont care about other peoples feelings or who dont have a set of rules they live by usually dont give alot of thought to health issues either 😉 i meant to be careful if SHE was the one playing games :o what could have been done if you guys were in fact a couple right now? dont you think its probably better that it didnt go there? i dont know. good luck and i hope it goes well for you. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![fkorr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@fkorr](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/fkorr)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2007, 3:03pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/37 "2007-08-26T15:03:30Z")
i always just assess my environment… there is no 1 thing u could say everytime.. u just gotta think of something then and there… 4 example if theres a lady infront of u in the supermarket and she is purchasing a product that u dont have u could say something like " ohh shoot thats what i forgot 2 get " n then just crap on about stuff … if i go up 2 a girl and say “hi how r u” or “whats ur name” or introduce myself then usually they would b like wtf is this guy askin me how i am or what my name is??? or she could even have a bf so shell most likely b rude or aviodin u, some just answer ur question and then u have 2 come up wif more talking since u asked her a closed question… i find u have 2 come up wif something thats not a 1 answer question like yes or no … if u know what i mean 🆒 … ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2007, 3:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/38 "2007-09-18T15:51:25Z")
> [@Carmine23](#): > > Well from all the comments I’ve heard I might have picked up a thing or two. > > Funny story today: Theres this girl (very HOT!) in my class that I had talked to her before but basically very friendly stuff like math questions and so on. She had been gone for about 2 weeks (since spring break).This morning I wasn’t wearing any pheromones and so I walked in the class room and asked her how she was doing because I heard she had surgery. Wile doing this I just gave a pat in the back and she responded very friendly, so we talked about the subject for about 2 minutes, and after that there was basically silence for about one minute because we were listening to the professor, to my surprise she actually turned around (she sits in front of me) not carrying about what the professor had to say (which she would never do)and asked me how I was and what did I do for spring break!!! I was like WHAT?? How could this be, her asking me and wanting to talked to me? This had never happened before so I played along and we hit it off pretty good I got her laughing, smiling and blushing the hole time. After a wile to my surprise she was giving me mixed messages, she wanted to get to know me better and even gave me her phone number!! with out me asking for it.!!! But she told me she had a Boy friend and showed me a picture of the guy.!! Anyways I don’t know how to handle this one, because I don’t steal other guys property, and honestly I really don’t care because I don’t fell like wasting time on her, she already taken jet she wants to get to know me better well I think thats her problem and not mine, if she wants me than she has to make the first move,You all agree? > > The point here is that pheromones may help sometimes but if you already have a good personality, and you are easy to talk to and relate to, then most of the time you might not even need them.! I hate that some girls just don’t tell you till later.I had one girl i flirted with only tell me about the boyfriend after a couple of meetings.I dont like messing with girls in relationships either but she would hang off my shoulder even when he was standing right next to me she would even pull me out of a crowd it was so embarrassing. What you can do is at some point in the conversation casually ask her if she is with someone or whats she doing after school. That way you will know if there is a boyfriend around. ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2007, 4:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117/39 "2007-09-18T16:11:23Z")
> [@fkorr](#): > > i always just assess my environment… there is no 1 thing u could say everytime.. u just gotta think of something then and there… 4 example if theres a lady infront of u in the supermarket and she is purchasing a product that u dont have u could say something like " ohh shoot thats what i forgot 2 get " n then just crap on about stuff … if i go up 2 a girl and say “hi how r u” or “whats ur name” or introduce myself then usually they would b like wtf is this guy askin me how i am or what my name is??? or she could even have a bf so shell most likely b rude or aviodin u, some just answer ur question and then u have 2 come up wif more talking since u asked her a closed question… i find u have 2 come up wif something thats not a 1 answer question like yes or no … if u know what i mean 🆒 … Thats true it depends on the situation.I had a one hour conversation with a girl i just met and it was only just before i got her number that i introduced myself.And i opened with something situational like “you look bored” (but i said it smiling with friendly intent) it just come to me spontaneous.At other times ill just introduce myself because i believe the opener really doesn’t matter its how you handle her response. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/what-would-you-like-to-hear-from-a-guy-when-first-approached/3117.md?page=1)