# What's up everyone **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [October 17, 2012, 11:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up-everyone/57063 "2012-10-17T11:37:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![thejmt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7ba0ec/32.png) [@thejmt](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/thejmt)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 11:37am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up-everyone/57063/1 "2012-10-17T11:37:42Z")
My name is Jeff, I’m 23 and from St. Charles, MO. I stumbled upon pheromones about 5 years ago, although this is my first time at this site. I had only tried one product, Pherlure ($50 for a 1.0 oz/30 ml bottle) which contained Di-Dehydroepiandrosterone as it’s sole pheromone ingredient. It was sold as a cologne and the smell alone was worth the price. I can’t conclude that it did much for attraction because I was about 17 or 18 and in the “prime” of my attraction days. But now I’m interested again, and I didn’t know there were different types of them. My girlfriend of 3 years is “taking a break” from me right know (it’s been a month and a half) and I can kind of sense a breakup coming in the near future. I have a feeling she finds me too clingy and I’m smothering her, even though SHE is the one at my house every night, SHE always calls to see what I’m doing or when she can come over, and SHE always had a chip on her shoulder when I went to the bars with my brothers and friends (she wasn’t 21 yet) To make things worse, I have Social Anxiety Disorder. The only reason I met this girl in the first place was that a friend of mine wanted us to go “hook-up” with these two random girls he was chatting with on my brother’s facebook. We were drinking at the time (which is really the only thing that helps my severe social anxiety). So we met them, brought them back to my house, made-out, but that was all. Surprisingly, considering we were drunk, they wanted to hang out again. So I hung out with her more and more, really wanting just sex at the time and not a relationship, but she did. I fell in love with her over time and now 3 years later she’s hanging out with nobody but her low-life pothead co-workers from Hardee’s, most of which are 5 or more years older than her. I even caught her hugging one of them outside her work one day, who looked more her age. She’s even been staying the night somewhere that isn’t her apartment. Now here I am, confidence shattered. With my social anxiety disorder, I’m finding it hard to believe I’ll ever find someone else, I was so lucky to get her in the first place. I’m trying everything I can to gain some confidence and just be more noticed and attractable. I recently order “[Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/)” which arrived yesterday. I’ve only tried it once and it was at work with hardly any females working, and none of them attractive. I was also so excited to use it I might have overdid it on the sprays (3 on neck, one on each wrist, one on chest, and one on each arm). Could this be a problem? Would the effectiveness change? I was curious on what would be a good combination for me. I got the Instant Openness because I NEVER approach women. I want something that will be able to let me open up more. Any suggestions? ---
**Author:** ![tommarty920](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tommarty920/32/1273_2.png) [@tommarty920](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tommarty920)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2012, 11:57am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up-everyone/57063/2 "2012-10-17T11:57:01Z")
> [@thejmt](#): > > My name is Jeff, I’m 23 and from St. Charles, MO. I stumbled upon pheromones about 5 years ago, although this is my first time at this site. I had only tried one product, Pherlure ($50 for a 1.0 oz/30 ml bottle) which contained Di-Dehydroepiandrosterone as it’s sole pheromone ingredient. It was sold as a cologne and the smell alone was worth the price. I can’t conclude that it did much for attraction because I was about 17 or 18 and in the “prime” of my attraction days. > > But now I’m interested again, and I didn’t know there were different types of them. My girlfriend of 3 years is “taking a break” from me right know (it’s been a month and a half) and I can kind of sense a breakup coming in the near future. I have a feeling she finds me too clingy and I’m smothering her, even though SHE is the one at my house every night, SHE always calls to see what I’m doing or when she can come over, and SHE always had a chip on her shoulder when I went to the bars with my brothers and friends (she wasn’t 21 yet) > > To make things worse, I have Social Anxiety Disorder. The only reason I met this girl in the first place was that a friend of mine wanted us to go “hook-up” with these two random girls he was chatting with on my brother’s facebook. We were drinking at the time (which is really the only thing that helps my severe social anxiety). So we met them, brought them back to my house, made-out, but that was all. Surprisingly, considering we were drunk, they wanted to hang out again. So I hung out with her more and more, really wanting just sex at the time and not a relationship, but she did. I fell in love with her over time and now 3 years later she’s hanging out with nobody but her low-life pothead co-workers from Hardee’s, most of which are 5 or more years older than her. I even caught her hugging one of them outside her work one day, who looked more her age. She’s even been staying the night somewhere that isn’t her apartment. > > Now here I am, confidence shattered. With my social anxiety disorder, I’m finding it hard to believe I’ll ever find someone else, I was so lucky to get her in the first place. I’m trying everything I can to gain some confidence and just be more noticed and attractable. > > I recently order “Instant Openness” which arrived yesterday. I’ve only tried it once and it was at work with hardly any females working, and none of them attractive. I was also so excited to use it I might have overdid it on the sprays (3 on neck, one on each wrist, one on chest, and one on each arm). Could this be a problem? Would the effectiveness change? > > I was curious on what would be a good combination for me. I got the Instant Openness because I NEVER approach women. I want something that will be able to let me open up more. Any suggestions? Greetings Jeff, Welcome to Pherotalk! You’ve come to the right place, there’s a lot of knowledgable users here that will be happy to help you out. Pherlure…been there before…was actually my first purchase and soon found out that it was quite useless. Never noticed any hits or IOIs with it, and my search for reviews inevitably brought me here. Personally I’ve dealt with social anxiety since high school and slowly just started to change my mindset to a more relaxed, positive one. It was tough to get out of the same mindset for a long time, but once you start to increase your amount of positive self talk, it will gradually increase your production of positive emotions, such as confidence and happiness. Sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it. You made a great choice in [Instant Openness](https://a314.com/product/instant-openness/). It’s a great product and definitely causes people to open up and feel comfortable around you. Nothing wrong with spraying 3 sprays, but most would recommend starting at 1 and working your way up to find your sweet spot. For some confidence boosters I would recommend Ammo, IG, and Instant Shine. All helped me to gain a little more confidence in my interactions. Especially Instant Shine, really helped to bring out the more outgoing, lively me. Not only that but seeing the increase of hits and IOIs when wearing the mones definitely gave me a confidence boost from the observations alone. Any combination utilizing Instant Shine, Instant Openness, and either Ammo or IG is going to suit you well. Remember, the search function is your best friend here! Good luck with your future experiments! ---
**Author:** ![Kelsey](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kelsey/32/8468_2.png) [@Kelsey](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kelsey)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2012, 3:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up-everyone/57063/3 "2012-10-18T15:09:11Z")
Welcome Jeff, Here is some friendly advice from someone waaaay older and more experienced with relationships No matter how hard you try to hold on to someone and no matter how much you do for them if they have to and want to leave they will and there is nothing you can do about it In a relationship we all do things to please one another but what’s the point when its one sided If you let something go and it comes back to you it was yours I think it is a great idea to use these products not for your girl or anyone else but for you and develop, progress and love YOU! When she sees that confident side she might come back or if she has already made her mind about leaving then hey You need to learn from this and your next relationship if it ends am hoping you get to keep her will be better, cuz you will be more confident **Your gc was issued!**