# What's up? **URL:** \ **Category:** Introductions - New Users, Say "Hello"!\ **Created:** [February 21, 2008, 1:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299 "2008-02-21T01:08:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1

**Author:** ![MerZikain](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/merzikain/32/1950_2.png) [@MerZikain](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MerZikain)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2008, 1:08am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/1 "2008-02-21T01:08:08Z")

The direction directly opposite the dominant vector of gravity. 😃 Anyway, I’m 30 years old, male, live in southern Indiana and am single, never married, no kids. I’m very picky in the women I date and the two main things I cannot tolerate, most women in my area have: kids and an addiction to smoking or drugs. So needless to say dating is difficult for me since I can’t find women that meet those criteria. Then there’s the problem of me not feeling it approrpriate to “hit on” a woman in certain places. Part of that is a “simple” rationalization for my shyness. I’m generally not shy but when it comes to approaching women, I fall back into my old high school self. Unless I’m feeling really good and adventurous I tend to let great opportunities to meet some potentially great women slip past me. That’s why I’ve decided to give pheremones a try. Intelligent people tend to attack problems by thinking about them rationally, as I’m sure you all do and have done. So knowing that an aspect of attraction between men and women is chemical, it only makes sense to take this step in overcoming certain social problems, such as shyness. One of my problems is that I am an attractive and young looking man so I tend to get stereotyped when people look at me. I get put into the “just looking for sex” group and don’t get a chance to really talk with women who do interest me. That’s where part of my shyness comes from. I tend to avoid trying to prove their assumption wrong by making my own assumptions. Not very intelligent of me, I know. But the first step in fixing a problem is knowing you have one, right? So anyway, it all comes down to me trying to find some way to overcome some of my own short comings and get a little help getting positive attention so I can finally find the right woman for a change. On a slightly different issue, I’m also looking into the use of pheremones to help with my professional life as well. As I mentioned before, I look young and so people tend to assume I am and youth tends to equate to inexperience and in my experience that’s not how you want potential clients to see you. I’m unhappy with my social life (or lack thereof) and that does a real number on my confidence at times and more often than not it’s been those times when I’ve been trying to get more work. The clients pick up on that and assume I’m not confident in my work or assume that they can get something for nothing because of a perceived low self worth. Anyway, enough about that, I’ll just answer questions from here instead of writing an autobiography on the forum. 😉 ---

**Author:** ![Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gone_with_the_wind/32/2227_2.png) [@Gone\_with\_the\_Wind](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gone_with_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2008, 2:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/2 "2008-02-21T02:14:39Z")

Welcome to the forum. There are lots of us here who don’t go around “hitting” on ladies at all. For your professional world, and the ladies, you might try a314. Read the product description and do a search. Another good possibility is IG. It will tone down the “just looking for sex” vibration, which may be from natural anone production. ih and io may be helpful in stimulating conversations with people. I think those 4 would be a great starter pack for you to try. ---

**Author:** ![mockingbird](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mockingbird/32/1790_2.png) [@mockingbird](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2008, 2:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/3 "2008-02-21T02:31:11Z")

Hello Merzikain! Looks that ur shyness is probably due to a small lack of confidence. A314 will help a lot on this and will give you a much more stable personality that women won’t interprete as one-nighter type. It will be also great for your business field. You will get respect and attention in everything you do 🙂 Instant openness will also be good for you. It really promote chatting and can alleviate your shyness. You often just need to say hi and a few more word and conversations will flow, just keep this in mind! ---

**Author:** ![bosshank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@bosshank](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/bosshank)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2008, 2:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/4 "2008-02-21T02:42:34Z")

Hello Merzikain and welcome to the forum. You can always work through the shyness and certain products her can helpo that. Of course you are right there are certain places that it may be inappropriate to “hit” on women, but you can always let them know you are available and interested in qualified offers. As GWTW mentioned, A314 is just the thing for work. Depending on how alpha a vibe you want you may want to temper it with Instant Shine. Instant Shine and Instant Openness will also help you as you move past the shyness. At the same time Instant Honesty will help get you deeper conversations and a sense of bonding which may help you get past that “just looking for sex” stereotype. Ammo or [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) will give you an overall great aura. The difference being that Ammo has 'none in it which will give it a little spice. Please ask any questions. We are happy to help. ---

**Author:** ![tisha23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@tisha23](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/tisha23)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2008, 2:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/5 "2008-02-21T02:50:04Z")

Hello Welcome to Pherotalk 🙂 Looks like you have gotten some great advice from the guys above. If you have any questions or need help with the products just ask in the forum. 😃 **Your GC will be in your eamil box in the next 24 to 48 hours** 😃 Have fun Tisha 😉 ---

**Author:** ![MerZikain](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/merzikain/32/1950_2.png) [@MerZikain](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/MerZikain)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2008, 4:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/6 "2008-02-22T16:20:27Z")

I bought Instant Shine and [Instant Female Magic](https://a314.com/product/instant-female-magic/) (forgot to mention that before) but I have only been able to use IS since getting them. I was going to use both yesterday since it was pool league night but weather ruined that. I used IS alone but didn’t get to put it to the test since I was stuck at home (damn ice \>\_\<). Hopefully driving conditions are better tomorrow so I can spend some time in town before meeting up with the guys. I’ve been looking at A314 and almost bought it over the other two. The only thing that kept me from it is that my business is going fine, my social life isn’t. It’s definitely on my list though since everyone says it works great for both aspects. Instant Openness, Honest, and Gentleman are also on my list as well as Ammo, and depending on how well the others work, later on I may get Turn UP The Heat. This is my first time using pheromones so I’m not 100% sure on the ins and outs of their use but I’ve been reading other posts and learning a bit. I’ve seen various suggestions on how to start. For the pair I purchased, how would you all suggest I start using them? I think I OD’d on IS yesterday, good thing I didn’t go anywhere 😕 ---

**Author:** ![Patratt](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/patratt/32/971_2.png) [@Patratt](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Patratt)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2008, 4:55pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/whats-up/9299/7 "2008-02-22T16:55:57Z")

Welcome Merz! Just wanted to let you know that the advice you have received so far are from some very experienced users and you have come to the right place for help. Pheros will not solve all of your problems, but they sure can give you the edge in certain social situations. Glad you joined!