# Which pheromone to get my ex back? **URL:** \ **Category:** Men's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [July 17, 2013, 2:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581 "2013-07-17T14:41:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![adotd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@adotd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/adotd)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2013, 2:41pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/1 "2013-07-17T14:41:28Z")
Me and my girlfriend kind of mutually broke up last week Tuesday. We were in complete bliss and heaven, and unconditionally love each other. The only reason why we broke up is because of the awkward situation of being an interracial relationship. My family love her to bits and completely embrace her, whereas her family did not know about us and we were seeing each ither behind her families back. Her family keep pressuring her to get an arranged marriage and she doesn’t want to at all, but had fell under the pressure, even knowing that doing so would make her very unhappy as she would be with someone she doesn’t want to be with, just to make her family happy based on pride and tradition. We were both heart broken. That is the back story. But we still speak everyday on the phone, and will be seeing each other soon for me to give her back things she has left at my house. Is there any phermone that would make her come back to me based on her natural feelings or emotions when I do see her? Anything that would help? Possibly something unscented but this does not matter. I am not trying to get her back into bed, I just need something to push her back to me. If all else fails then I would like a [pheromone](https://a314.com/) to at least ignite some quick strong sexual feelings from her, and I could take it from there, and hopefully get back together based on this. ---
**Author:** ![Himeros](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/himeros/32/2325_2.png) [@Himeros](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Himeros)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2013, 4:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/2 "2013-07-17T16:51:26Z")
Sorry to hear you broke up bro… sounds like you both really had a nice thing going. Before giving pheromone advice, first some questions: Arranged marriage… let me guess, is she Asian? I’ve been in a LTR with an Asian girl, and it really took me very long to win her parents over. Especially her father. How old is she? How long were you together? What drew her towards you in the first place, as in: what did she like about you? Think this is your key to getting her back, re-igniting those feelings. Keep in mind that [pheromones](https://a314.com/shop/) won’t do all the work for you, but they can give you the push you need. Also: sounds like it’s not HER you need to win over, but her parents. When trying to get her back, at least mention that you are totally committed to winning her parents over in the long term… Trust me it takes time. ---
**Author:** ![adotd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@adotd](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/adotd)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2013, 9:44pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/3 "2013-07-17T21:44:32Z")
> [@Himeros](#): > > Sorry to hear you broke up bro… sounds like you both really had a nice thing going. > > Before giving pheromone advice, first some questions: > > Arranged marriage… let me guess, is she Asian? I’ve been in a LTR with an Asian girl, and it really took me very long to win her parents over. Especially her father. > > How old is she? > > How long were you together? > > What drew her towards you in the first place, as in: what did she like about you? Think this is your key to getting her back, re-igniting those feelings. > > Keep in mind that pheromones won’t do all the work for you, but they can give you the push you need. > > Also: sounds like it’s not HER you need to win over, but her parents. When trying to get her back, at least mention that you are totally committed to winning her parents over in the long term… Trust me it takes time. Yeah she is Asian, and in her opinion there is no way at all for me to win over her parents, no matter how great I am, or how happy I make their daughter. They simply want her to get married to another religious man or they will disown her ☹. Such a depressing situation. She is 23 and I am 21 and we have been together for three years, but again her parents didn’t know anything. At first like with every other relationship there was the physical attraction, it was all about the personality. We even three years down the line spend hours talking to each other on the phone, and love spending time together. She says that I wash all her stresses away, and when she’s with me everything just seems perfect. She loves that I am always there for her, will do anything for her, make her laugh, listen to her, in every way we are made for each other. Would you believe we had one argument in 3 years? We never argue, we sit down and discuss things. She’s my best friend, my lover, my soulmate, my partner and we really complete each other. The physical/sexual aspect is amazing as well, it’s so passionate and hot, like fireworks. I wouldn’t expect pheromones to do all the work, just to give her that push back to me. Whether that be emotionally (she would love to have me back but is afraid to be disowned), or if that is an urgent sexual urge of attraction. I believe that in either push/scenario that I could potentially win her back over. We are both so down and miss each other so much. ---
**Author:** ![Gegogi](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gegogi/32/1536_2.png) [@Gegogi](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Gegogi)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2013, 1:43am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/4 "2013-07-18T01:43:47Z")
Your problem is not biologically based and mones will not do anything to change such family/cultural beliefs. Oddly enough, my mother had a pending arranged marriage and fled Korea to escape and never saw her parents again, albeit managed to meet up some of her siblings some 30 years later. Basically she’s going to have to choose between you or her family and no matter what choice she makes, it will be painful. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2013, 11:10am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/5 "2013-07-18T11:10:58Z")
I agree with all of the above, one thing I will add though is that Molecule F (TAF) has a great ability to have people drop a preconception about you. I spent some time in Japan where there are bars that notoriously disallow ‘gaijin’ (foreigners). After having gone to several bars pheromone’d up (A314 + 3 sprays of 12.5 mcg TAF) I told some other friends and their jaws dropped. They barely made it to the door before being sent away at a few of these specific bars. So there are ways around preconceptions - however, in this case it seems really tough. I don’t want to sell you something without you understanding that pheromones are not 100% magic. People still have free will, despite what you might read in some marketing. People’s will and prejudice are powerful. But if I had to recommend anything to try, it would be TAF and maybe Instant Openness/Instant Honesty mix. (EDIT: Come to think of it, maybe even better TAF + [Instant Gentleman](https://a314.com/product/gentleman/) - much more what you need than IH/IO) ---
**Author:** ![monesmadedoit](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/monesmadedoit/32/325_2.png) [@monesmadedoit](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/monesmadedoit)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2013, 8:14pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/6 "2013-07-20T20:14:13Z")
> [@John\_Sebastian](#): > > I agree with all of the above, one thing I will add though is that Molecule F (TAF) has a great ability to have people drop a preconception about you. I agree, although I can’t handle much more than one spray of the stuff myself. There are some non-pheromone substances called positive allosteric modulators. Makes you wonder. Some P74 with F might not hurt. Honestly, some women will fall for just the 74. So, if F is a reset (retrograde) 74 builds some forward fallout and bonding (anterograde). Even if you had never known her, F and 74 I think could do something, so rekindling old flames could happen also. F, like 74, is also very chatty…sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![jet\_v](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ebca7d/32.png) [@jet\_v](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/jet_v)\ **Post date:** [July 24, 2013, 1:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/7 "2013-07-24T13:19:45Z")
Sorry to hear about that man. It seems like the options you have are either to win over her parents (unlikely by her estimation) or edit her value system such that having you as a part of her life is more important to her than her parents approval. Not sure what the rest of her relationship with them is like, or if that would be in her best interest, but if her home life is poor already you might be better equipped to provide for her emotionally should she choose to allow you to. Anyway, when I read the title of your post I immediately thought of this article: [How to Win Back an Ex-Girlfriend | Chateau Heartiste](http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2007/04/10/how-to-win-back-an-ex-girlfriend/) May take some thought to see how it applies to your situation, but it’s worth a read either way. ---
**Author:** ![s\_t\_f](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5ac83/32.png) [@s\_t\_f](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/s_t_f)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2013, 8:29am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/8 "2013-07-27T08:29:41Z")
> [@John\_Sebastian](#): > > I agree with all of the above, one thing I will add though is that Molecule F (TAF) has a great ability to have people drop a preconception about you. > > I spent some time in Japan where there are bars that notoriously disallow ‘gaijin’ (foreigners). After having gone to several bars pheromone’d up (A314 + 3 sprays of 12.5 mcg TAF) I told some other friends and their jaws dropped. They barely made it to the door before being sent away at a few of these specific bars. > > So there are ways around preconceptions - however, in this case it seems really tough. > > I don’t want to sell you something without you understanding that pheromones are not 100% magic. People still have free will, despite what you might read in some marketing. > > People’s will and prejudice are powerful. But if I had to recommend anything to try, it would be TAF and maybe Instant Openness/Instant Honesty mix. (EDIT: Come to think of it, maybe even better TAF + Instant Gentleman - much more what you need than IH/IO) Not trying to steal a thread but had a question on this. I Have just ordered the newest bottle of a314 and some p74 in hopes to win people over and trust me in my new business ventures. Based on what you’re saying John, (TAF) would give me an edge in people judging the information I present not me. I know getting people to follow me is based on how well I can get them to buy into me, not a logical concept but none the less I’m looking for every advantage possible. I just looked up (TAF) on AD’s website and a 5ml Togo bottle was $999. Is this just a typo? ---
**Author:** ![John\_Sebastian](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/john_sebastian/32/1060_2.png) [@John\_Sebastian](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/John_Sebastian)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2013, 8:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/9 "2013-07-27T08:50:20Z")
> [@s\_t\_f](#): > > Not trying to steal a thread but had a question on this. I Have just ordered the newest bottle of a314 and some p74 in hopes to win people over and trust me in my new business ventures. Based on what you’re saying John, (TAF) would give me an edge in people judging the information I present not me. I know getting people to follow me is based on how well I can get them to buy into me, not a logical concept but none the less I’m looking for every advantage possible. I just looked up (TAF) on AD’s website and a 5ml Togo bottle was $999. Is this just a typo? Not quite a typo, it is priced that way for regular users so they do not add it to the cart. It is priced properly for reporting users due to the fact that it is currently on reserve for reporting and development. If you think you should be an RU email me a list of your favorite reports and we will work on getting you RU status. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![leaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ec9cab/32.png) [@leaf](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/leaf)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 3:22pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/10 "2013-12-03T15:22:07Z")
you need to man up and get a job and your own place she probably likes you but she needs security. She probably afraid she get kicked out of her house because her parents are holding all the cards. i’m not even going to mention what pheromones to get only thing i would advice is a pheromone for job interviews like A314 and learn to man up and look after her thats what she wants someone to look after her if you wait to long she be out of your life for good married to some guy she hates and thinking about you. ---
**Author:** ![Crucible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Crucible](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Crucible)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 5:48pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/11 "2013-12-03T17:48:00Z")
Had this problem and no amount of colognes will work. This is one of those times you will have to simply man up and take a stand. I would show up and speak with the father, but that’s just me. ---
**Author:** ![Crucible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Crucible](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Crucible)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2014, 1:08pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/13 "2014-01-10T13:08:38Z")
Read the Tao of Badass ---
**Author:** ![lwatkins](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lwatkins/32/472_2.png) [@lwatkins](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lwatkins)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2014, 3:45pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/14 "2014-01-10T15:45:52Z")
Let go of any concern about outcome. It is important to express to her parents your respect for the way they raised her, and how they would like her to be cared for. As somone who respects their position, you are trying to help them satisfy that desire, within the framework of your proposition to act as her provider. As a man who loves her, you should propose to generously provide for her to whatever extent you can justify to her family within their ethical framework. It’s funny how people have an amazing capacity to backwards-rationalize something that meets their emotional needs. Ultimately, they want their daughter to be happy and well cared for by a respectful provider. At the same time also communicate the depth at which you and her genuinely care for each other. The more respect you show for their core beliefs and traditions, and put yourself to their judgment, the more they are inclined to follow the emotional current of the situation, which is something that can be persuasive after their other concerns are met - regarding if she will be cared by someone with a moral / ethics compass they find compatible, and who they feel can adequately provide for her and make sound decisions that they would be comfortable with. You are here not just to guard her on their behalf, but also the larger framework of tradition and ethics that she represents to them. The more they can see you as that guardian, the less anxiety they will feel to keep her under other potentially less loving guardianship. ---
**Author:** ![lwatkins](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lwatkins/32/472_2.png) [@lwatkins](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/lwatkins)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2014, 2:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/which-pheromone-to-get-my-ex-back/59581/18 "2014-07-18T14:43:04Z")
The trick to dealing with conservative people like this is to lower yourself. Do not let them think you will in any way outsmart them or outshine them. Do not boast about yourself in any way. Find some way to blend in with their world (not your world) and let them know you find them entertaining and wise. Talk about honesty as a value, but don’t actually tell them anything. You must get them to talk to you, but you yourself must say as little as possible. I find that TAF does indeed get people quite chatty. The IO and IH products, used at a higher level, could get them talking and opening up, giving away feelings and secrets. Just make sure you give away nothing yourself, or that what you do tell them does not give away how you really feel. Anything you say can be used against you. They do not want to hear, oh he’s in love with our daughter. That’s a man out of control, something they want to defend against. They want to hear, you felt obliged to protect their daughter from whatever threats you saw to her safety or her reputation - so their family reputation is boosted by association with yours. Others need to support your reputation for you, externally. Ask to meet with them, observe perfect etiquette. Make clear what you stand for - what external threats concern you - values and morals, etc.. Conservatives are very focused on defending against precieved threats. They need to see you as a weapon or ally against threats they are concerned with defending against. The threat could be something metaphysical like degradation of cultural values they hold, or it could also be physical security. You need to have someone else vouch for your reputation on issues they find dear. Need to find out what it is they are protecting, and make sure you are enhancing their perception that you are building on a reputation of protecting their interests. I would avoid eNone around the parents. I fact you should wash very well before visiting them to remove any natural traces of body odor (which have more overt masculine characteristics, Asians tend to find other races quite odorous). You do not need to get them to like you, and you should not do them any favors. You just need to craft an unimpeachable reputation, and act humble as but lead on the issues that matter to them.