# Why do guys stare and do nothing? **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [May 5, 2007, 6:00am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501 "2007-05-05T06:00:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2007, 3:28pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/141 "2007-08-31T15:28:29Z")
> [@Phoenix](#): > > I just watched Adam Sandler’s Click on dvd.. > It’s a nice movie with a positive ‘awakening’ message like what we were saying in _that_ thread… > but there were many too many dug humping dogs in the movie for me.. > > Kate Beckinsale was gorgeous as the wife though.. Hmm I’d like to date someone who resembles her! 😃 then dont have preconcieved notions of plastic surgery, shes had some 😉 somedays i want her nose, and then i think my ethnic nose is just fine! hahahaha ---
**Author:** ![Lor](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/lor/32/759_2.png) [@Lor](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Lor)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2007, 3:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/142 "2007-08-31T15:35:34Z")
> [@tisha23](#): > > Very true, Brad is very attractive but something about him just turns me off. I think Adam Sandler is very sexy. I got to meet him in person when he was filming Mr Deeds in CT, He was so nice to everyone and he has that charisma you mentioned before Lor. > > Hey Lor I saw your new picture. Man you have gorgeous eyes. > > Tisha thanks tisha [http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/happy0190.gif](http://www.thesmilies.com/smilies/happy0190.gif) i dig adam sandler too. funny is so sexxay, i cant stand it! but _clever_ funny. ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2007, 8:16pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/143 "2007-08-31T20:16:06Z")
> [@smn1234](#): > > I don’t like Sandler and I don’t think Brad Pitt is hot. I have friends who are hotter… lol > same with the opposite sex… Angelina Jolie isn’t that hot.. I like Sandler in some movies but not in others… I don’t think he is hot though 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [August 31, 2007, 8:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/144 "2007-08-31T20:23:13Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > then dont have preconcieved notions of plastic surgery, shes had some 😉 > somedays i want her nose, and then i think my ethnic nose is just fine! > hahahaha 😃😃😃 didn’t think of that! I like her face.. ---
**Author:** ![julieanddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e495f1/32.png) [@julieanddave](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/julieanddave)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2011, 6:23pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/145 "2011-09-22T18:23:31Z")
I like this man and i know he likes me cos he just stares at me but wont approach me i want him ---
**Author:** ![immaculate\_concepts](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/immaculate_concepts/32/2445_2.png) [@immaculate\_concepts](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/immaculate_concepts)\ **Post date:** [September 23, 2011, 9:21pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/146 "2011-09-23T21:21:41Z")
dude, I get this, because Ive sprayed IS on girls, guys, all sorts of things on different people… and I will always turn my head to them because Im getting a _SIGNAL_ thats theres something interesting in their direction or on them. but mostly its just annoying if theres nothing I like about them, sorrry! the guys are probably just, getting the signal but not appreciating what their eyes see! See ? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Riggz69](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Riggz69](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Riggz69)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2011, 2:13pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/147 "2011-10-05T14:13:52Z")
For me every time I go out and I’m not looking to hook up I always end up with someone, so go out enjoy yourself don’t think about it and throw a few smile at blokes because it goes a long way. ---
**Author:** ![TwistedOstrich](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/twistedostrich/32/627_2.png) [@TwistedOstrich](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TwistedOstrich)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/148 "2011-10-12T21:09:22Z")
A part of looking at anything is assessing if you like it… But beyond that is the context and also assessing your own approachability… Sometimes one or both doesn’t seem right. Apart of that assessment is if your portraying yourself to be single or unavailable. Some guys may prefer to go after the unavailable types but I think far more guys would rather try for someone that appears to be single and or welcoming attention. ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 9:11pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/149 "2011-10-15T21:11:25Z")
They are afraid of rejection, or shy. It is possible they are taken too. But mostly because they are afraid of rejection. I have seen guys that are so drunk they are about to pass out and they still can’t approach women. In fact, one time a guy took off on me in the opposite direction when I told him we were going to approach two women. ---
**Author:** ![GetTheEdge](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gettheedge/32/1555_2.png) [@GetTheEdge](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/GetTheEdge)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2011, 1:15pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/150 "2011-10-17T13:15:55Z")
> [@sugarspice](#): > > Ok so instant sexy makes me feel sexy, act sexy. I get plenty of heads to turn but no one wants to act on it. Is there a pheromone that gives guys the balls to talk to you? I wish I knew what they were thinking, cuz they just gaze for the longest time. My friend who was wearing nothing was bubbly and bouncy and got guys to check her up and down AND talk to her. > > –Really annoyed at men 😕 The guys are probably chicken, you’re right in saying is there anything that gives them the balls some call it Approach Anxiety (if you google that theres alot of talk about it) hmm I guess you could look approachable, perhaps eye contact and a smile could let them know you want them to approach you, looking friendly helps Perhaps something that increased their testosterone would get them to approach you, there is a product like that I read about here in these forums I forget what its called Boosting a guys testosterone is basically like boosting his balls imo If you are particularly beautiful, it could be intimidation that reduces approaches, having scary looking males next to you (in your group) can reduce approaches (some guys think if they approach the beautiful woman in the group, the large male in the group might hit them lol im not joking its an unconscious fear;-) ---
**Author:** ![castlerock](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/castlerock/32/1503_2.png) [@castlerock](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/castlerock)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2011, 5:31pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/151 "2011-10-17T17:31:52Z")
> [@GetTheEdge](#): > > T > I guess you could look approachable, perhaps **eye contact and a smile** could let them know you want them to approach you, looking friendly helps Absolutely, that’s a clear sign that a guy should approach. It should put most people at ease to approach. It does work both ways. ---
**Author:** ![Bella](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/bella/32/1738_2.png) [@Bella](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Bella)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2011, 11:49pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/152 "2011-10-17T23:49:54Z")
> [@GetTheEdge](#): > > _ **The guys are probably chicken, you’re right in saying is there anything that gives them the balls** _ > > _**some call it Approach Anxiety (if you google that theres alot of talk about it)**_ > > _ **hmm** _ > > _ **I guess you could look approachable, perhaps eye contact and a smile could let them know you want them to approach you, looking friendly helps** _ > > _ **Perhaps something that increased their testosterone would get them to approach you, there is a product like that I read about here in these forums I forget what its called** _ > > _ **Boosting a guys testosterone is basically like boosting his balls imo** _ > > _**If you are particularly beautiful, it could be intimidation that reduces approaches, having scary looking males next to you (in your group) can reduce approaches (some guys think if they approach the beautiful woman in the group, the large male in the group might hit them lol im not joking its an unconscious fear**_😉 Androstenone = Ballbooster 🙂 No joke, it can get your ass kicked at the same time it’s boostin’ your coconuts if you don’t use it judiciously and there’s testimony to that fact all over the forum! Androstenone doesn’t only give _you_ the gumption/get up, it can inspire aggression in other males around you…especially if they somehow feel threatened…i. e.,…you approaching the beautiful girl. Tread carefully. Androstenone is a useful tool but use your noggin’ when applying this stuff if you wanna boost your balls and save your ass at the same time, lol. 😉 😃 Bella ---
**Author:** ![2000GT](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/2000gt/32/389_2.png) [@2000GT](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/2000GT)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2011, 12:50am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/153 "2011-10-18T00:50:07Z")
> [@castlerock](#): > > Absolutely, that’s a clear sign that a guy should approach. It should put most people at ease to approach. It does work both ways. True but for guys suffering from severe approach anxiety, well, fear trumps pretty much everything. Lord knows I used to be like that. I’m in no way a PUA but shit, if a woman smiles at me and makes eye contact and it’s that kind of a “come hither” look vs the “you’ve got some shit on your face” kind of smile, go over and say hi. Of course it also helps to have something to say other than “Hi” and some guys just can’t think of anything to say. ---
**Author:** ![GetTheEdge](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/gettheedge/32/1555_2.png) [@GetTheEdge](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/GetTheEdge)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 5:25am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/154 "2011-10-20T05:25:36Z")
> [@Bella](#): > > Androstenone = Ballbooster 🙂 > > No joke, it can get your ass kicked at the same time it’s boostin’ your coconuts if you don’t use it judiciously and there’s testimony to that fact all over the forum! Androstenone doesn’t only give _you_ the gumption/get up, it can inspire aggression in other males around you…especially if they somehow feel threatened…i. e.,…you approaching the beautiful girl. Tread carefully. > > Androstenone is a useful tool but use your noggin’ when applying this stuff if you wanna boost your balls and save your ass at the same time, lol. 😉 😃 > > Bella Yes imo many of the effects/signals of androstenone: aggression, “alpha-ness”, power etc, Thats what I feel when I have high testosterone levels Its ok if I wear -none and some guys get angry, I’ll handle em 😉 I was thinking for sugarspice maybe one of the copulin products would have the effect of boosting a males testosterone (and her sexual attractiveness) and getting males to approach I guess an even more overt way of signalling a guy to approach you would be to do that head movement and/or hand movement that signals someone to come over to you I dont think most guys are as socially aware as women, and approach invitations/signals may be completely missed or not processed/understood at all lol If the lack of approaching is due to not enough attraction, then I guess things that can be attractive about a woman are her physical looks (duh), but also vibe/energy, is she having a good time/enjoying herself, that can be very attractive or magnetising, posture & bodylanguage (e.g. sensual bodylanguage) how much skin is revealed lol ---
**Author:** ![ballzan](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/ballzan/32/558_2.png) [@ballzan](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/ballzan)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/155 "2011-10-25T03:14:07Z")
> [@Thorick](#): > > as I see it, from a guys perspective, if you are too sexy, then we might stare, and be in awwe, but probably are to afraid to approach you, because we become very wary creatures around very hot ones. Where as your friend who is bubbly and giggly, probably more inviting, it wouldn’t be like aproaching a super model with her. I don’t know what to use for pheromones, but I hope that helps. I agree with you on this, very hot women intimidate me and are less approachable, but I will probably check her out anyway just not approach. ---
**Author:** ![Xocide](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/e8c25b/32.png) [@Xocide](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Xocide)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 5:47am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501/156 "2011-10-25T05:47:49Z")
> [@Lor](#): > > im glad you pointed out that flirting is a different animal all together. > > its not _game_. But isn’t it? Girls flirt, and guy’s have to decode that. It’s not as simple as “Hehe I’m a girl i like to “flirt”! But I don’t mean anything by it but good fun!” Guy’s will normally interpret any type of “flirting” as “This chick likes me in some way”, because that is the purpose of flirting. Now guys have to go in depth in looking at the situation. “How **much** is she “flirting” with me” "Is what she saying secretly “implying” something different if she is flirting a lot (“Ohh your such a cutie, I just wana eat you up!”) You wana give me a BJ??? -or- She’s just complementing my looks. And knowing guys, guess what one they are thinking… You also have to listen to the tones of their voice, body movements, and facial expressions. So when “flirting” may not be a game to you, it sure as hell is for the person your doing it with. > [@Lor](#): > > i flirt with mail carriers, the whole produce-department 😃 , the kind old guy that sits at the gate in my apartment complex… > > when i see my cats in the window, i yell out, " hey handsomes ! " I think you might have the word “flirt” confused with something else, playful banter maybe?. Because yelling out “Hey handsome” to your cats, isn’t flirting. Neither is saying “Morning Jenson! Oh! don’t you look handsome today” (or something similar) to the old guy at the gate. That’s more along the lines of being sweet. Small talk with joking in it is not flirting. Flirting is a word that connotes a sense of sexuality. It is a playful, romantic or sexual overture by one person to another subtly indicating an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, and can involve verbal communication as well as body language.(Wiki) So while you may be “Flirting” with all these people and only thinking, “It’s all in good fun, I’m just being nice”. The guy on the other end of your “Flirting” (if insecure in some way or form) will often times take the slightest hip movement (moving body weight from only the left leg to only the right one) as quite a bit more then you simply trying to get comfortable because your left leg was getting tired. > [@Lor](#): > > flirting is using gestures to imply “i dig you,im diggin life” not “wanna get it on?” Um… and guy’s are supposed to pick up on the fact that you only mean “i dig you,im diggin life” when your flirting with them how? Heard of guys saying “That bitch lead me on!”? (pardon the language lady’s!) Guess what! That chick was flirting with him, but only in the “i dig you,im diggin life” way. The guy (who think about sex normally every ~5 - 10 seconds) however couldn’t tell. He’s thinking this chick has the hot’s for him. Then when he gets touchy (break the bubble around the two of em) The girl gets upset and ask “what are you doing?” Your thinking: This guy is funny and be awesome to hang with. The guy’s thinking: I’m so gona try and tap this. > [@LaurieNY](#): > > Ageed over here. > > Flirting is harmless fun, but if you’re being calculated, it necessarily follows that you’re being manipulative. > > It’s not _cheating_, per se, but it’s not nice or appropriate. Well here’s a problem… To **you** flirting is harmless fun, and not calculated. But to a guy, who are programed **to** be calculating in almost everything they do take it as much more. See it from our shoes. Your a guy at a club. Your chatting with some of your friends by the bar, and you look up and see a cute chick starring at you from a table across the room. First thought: (If Secure) - Damn, that chick is checking me out. (If Insecure) - You look around to see if there is any other guy’s around that she could be looking at. Second thought: (If Insecure) - Look away and play illusive, maybe she will take the initiative and then I’ll know for sure she was checking me out. (If Secure) - Hold eye contact, give a smile back to show your interested, go about some way of approaching her. Finally after a few hours of joking, dancing, and “flirting”. Your feeling pumped, you have this cute chick all to yourself, and her “flirting” is making you feel that she wants you, bad. Your both walking out, time to head home. You try and smooth talk her into coming back to your place. Her response: " Your really cute and funny, but… I’m not into you like that" (or something along those lines) Ok so… you spent the past few hours with this chick who seemed COMPLETELY into you, but in reality, she was just being cute (or manipulative as you called it)… even if it was unintentional. Flirting sexually turns on a man or a woman, even if it’s in the smallest amount. Going up to a chick and simply saying “Your really cute… I want to dance with you.” will trigger a sexual response in the girl. It may be minuscule, it may be a lot, depends on how secure the girl is, and how cute, handsome, sexy, the guy is. The reason why (some) men say women are manipulative bitches is because they will make you run around in circles with “flirting” and teasing. And then Shoot you down. Guy’s on the other hand will let you know straight out WE WANT SEX, FUCK ME! When was the last time a guy at a club or a bar came up to you because you looked cool and they thought you would be an awesome friend to hang out with? If that has happened to you, they’re prolly gay. We approach you in a bar or a club, you can assume we’re gona try and get you back to our bed, or yours. So next time you are “Casually Flirting”. Try and see it from a guys angle. You’d be surprised at how much you unintentionally letting on. PS. If all this has been already said, then don’t mind me. I didn’t real through this entire topic. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-do-guys-stare-and-do-nothing/3501.md?page=7)