# why girls dont answer phone calls (state) **URL:** \ **Category:** Lounge\ **Created:** [March 10, 2008, 1:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842 "2008-03-10T01:11:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PheroQuirk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9e8a1a/32.png) [@PheroQuirk](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/PheroQuirk)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2008, 1:11am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842/1 "2008-03-10T01:11:26Z")
[mASF Discussion Forum on Fast Seduction 101](http://www.fastseduction.com/discussion/fs?action=9&boardid=2&read=76890&fid=23) from asf Why Girls Don’t Answer Phone Calls This is an insight I just had after commenting on my boy Derek’s lay report on another forum, in which he mentions that almost all of the solid phone numbers he gets are from girls he has a chill interaction with. That got me thinking… it’s pretty much the same for me. Why is that? I remember a while back BradP saying that phone numbers from girls in nightclubs can be next to useless. I’ve noticed that myself too. It’s rare that I get a solid phone number out of a nightclub, or when I do the girl turns out to be too boring when I talk to her during the day or afternoon and I don’t really want to talk to her again. On the other hand, girls I grab digits from during the day or from mass transit or wherever are usually solid and when I talk to them it’s the same as when I met them. A big piece of the puzzle is the difference in state. Susie’s emotional state in a big, crowded nightclub is a LOT different than it is during the day sitting at home after work or studying for the final. So how does she feel when she sees Mr. Awesome Joe the Wild and Crazy PUA ringing her on her cellphone? “Oh no, that guy from last night. I just don’t feel like talking to him right now.” She may NEVER answer if you call her during the day. But try calling her at night when she’s at a bar or a nightclub (I’ve done this), and suddenly she answers quickly and is thrilled to hear from you. It’s all state-based. As happy as she was to meet you in the nightclub, she was in an extreme, heightened emotional state. And when she is chilled out during the day, the prospect of talking to the guy she met when in that extreme state (and whom she associates with that extreme emotional state) is daunting. It is because of this reason: It takes a lot of energy to change state. Now let’s say you met Susie during the daytime instead, when you were relaxed and easy going, and so was she, and you guys had a lot of fun and enjoyed each other’s company and exchanged contact information. The next day, you call her around the same time of day, and she is in the same state she was when she met you. Chances are, she’s going to pick up. Why? Because it is easy. It takes no work for her to change state to talk to you; she’s already in the same state as she has anchored to you. This is the same as the reason why you don’t want to call your insurance or credit card company when you’re feeling really lazy, and why you’re more excited about calling a girl you recently #closed when you are walking around and getting stuff done. Because of your current state matching up with the state you will need to be in to make those calls. Really, this concept can be extended to a lot of other things besides just phone calls… but I’m feeling a little lazy right now myself If you want more solid number closes from girls, here are a few suggestions: - Chill your interaction out and bring it down to a level around where you expect she will be the next time you talk to her - Anchor a lot of strong, positive emotions to yourself so that even if it takes a lot of energy for her to answer the phone, she will still want to, in expectation of an emotional boost - Build a solid connection with her (usually you have to be more chill to do this anyway), because this again provides incentive for her to overcome the hump of changing emotional states My thoughts on the matter. Feedback, thoughts, experiences invited. Cheers, Chase Amante * * * Staff writer, theApproach newsletter [Attract Women | Seduction & Dating Tips](http://www.theapproach.com) ---
**Author:** ![sugarspice](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/sugarspice/32/1772_2.png) [@sugarspice](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/sugarspice)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2008, 4:17am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842/2 "2008-03-11T04:17:01Z")
Why I don’t answer a guy’s phone call: Four reasons: 1. My phone is out of batteries … I really did miss it 2. I KNOW he wants to have sex with me, I was only in it for the attention 3. I’m at work, boss is hovering \*]I read the book “The Rules” or “Why Men Love Bitches” The reason above is plausible, but has never been true in my case. Calling me after work hours is fine if I might want to date him too. ---
**Author:** ![Baller21](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/baller21/32/1988_2.png) [@Baller21](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Baller21)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2008, 5:31am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842/3 "2008-03-11T05:31:12Z")
heres a better reason, you’v all ready called a million times, and left 10 messages… and now you seem like a desperate loser with no life. When a girl dosn’t pick up the phone most of the time theres a good reason. relax. Besides you shouldn’t call her so much…she has a life, and hopefully you have a life. ---
**Author:** ![mark-in-dallas](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mark-in-dallas/32/860_2.png) [@mark-in-dallas](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mark-in-dallas)\ **Post date:** [March 13, 2008, 3:19am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842/4 "2008-03-13T03:19:24Z")
When I get a number and call a girl, if I don’t get her on the phone the first time, I will call one more time…two times and two times only. I will leave messages, but if the girl doesn’t answer or call back after two messages, I delete the number. I have actually had a couple…not many, but a couple of girls call me or run into me a week or 2 later and ask why I never called back. ---
**Author:** ![mindset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ccd318/32.png) [@mindset](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/mindset)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2008, 8:30am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/why-girls-dont-answer-phone-calls-state/9842/5 "2008-03-14T08:30:11Z")
everything said here is valid coming from the girl talk in my personal growth psychology course. blowing up ANYBODY’s phone is a huge no-no, much less a girl you are interested in. I call once, leave a number and go about my life. If I don’t hear anything back, I assume there’s an explanation other than flakiness, so I’ll call once more and after that it’s a closed deal. btw, i’d get some common sense on WHEN to call or text a girl. if she is a single mom working a full time job and attending part-time classes at a community college, then it’s pretty safe to say that calling her at 1:30 in the morning is going to result in an instant flake. most importantly, if she flakes don’t take it personally.