# Your Advice Requested; Message after first date **URL:** \ **Category:** Women's Pheromone Advice & Field Reports\ **Created:** [March 17, 2008, 4:19pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102 "2008-03-17T16:19:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Kitten](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/kitten/32/1051_2.png) [@Kitten](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Kitten)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2008, 9:52pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/21 "2008-03-18T21:52:24Z")
This is where I would normally disappear…to avoid having to reveal my deeply superficial aversion for trout ties… [http://whatdidyoubringme.homestead.com/files/neckties/FishNeckties/RalphMarlin/Salmon101030.jpg](http://whatdidyoubringme.homestead.com/files/neckties/FishNeckties/RalphMarlin/Salmon101030.jpg) [More silly ties.](http://www.2002ties.com/ties/indexfiles/animal1.html) May none of us ever encounter them outside of a circus tent. Shudder. ---
**Author:** ![nbully79](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c68b51/32.png) [@nbully79](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/nbully79)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2008, 9:53pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/22 "2008-03-18T21:53:21Z")
I have never seen a dignified man/woman sitting in a public place texting, only seen that in young college age people. I have text messaged like five times in my whole life although I consider myself very tech savvy. Also, many people are just not aware of text messaging protocols. So my point is why text? why not just call? or even email? For the second date I will just call/email her. If she doesn’t respond then the message is clear. You can’t change her mind by anything you say/write in a text message/phone call after having already spent a significant time with her on your first date. Most men and women I know who are into dating and can have options, like to keep backups, and will probably go on **one date** with **anyone** (i.e. even if they are not remotely interested) unless they are creepy or repellent. The idea of free food also entices many people. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Curiouschic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@Curiouschic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Curiouschic)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2008, 10:02pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/23 "2008-03-18T22:02:25Z")
> [@nbully79](#): > > I have never seen a dignified man/woman sitting in a public place texting, only seen that in young college age people. I have text messaged like five times in my whole life although I consider myself very tech savvy. Also, many people are just not aware of text messaging protocols. So my point is why text? why not just call? or even email? > > For the second date I will just call/email her. If she doesn’t respond then the message is clear. You can’t change her mind by anything you say/write in a text message/phone call after having already spent a significant time with her on your first date. > > Most men and women I know who are into dating and can have options, like to keep backups, and will probably go on **one date** with **anyone** (i.e. even if they are not remotely interested) unless they are creepy or repellent. The idea of free food also entices many people. 🙂 I find that text messaging is actually more common then this. I know many successful business people who text back and forth because it is fast and efficient when you are wanting a quick answer. (I know many realtors that do this daily) Email is also good but in a lot of situations texts are appropriate. Some people find comfort more in a text then a phone call as phn calls have more obligation. Besides it is often good to keep with the method of communication most used b4 the date, which sometimes is indeed texting. Having said that I dont believe he is actually texting the girl, a message could mean many things 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2008, 10:20pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/24 "2008-03-18T22:20:38Z")
> [@Curiouschic](#): > > I find that text messaging is actually more common then this. I know many successful business people who text back and forth because it is fast and efficient when you are wanting a quick answer. (I know many realtors that do this daily) Email is also good but in a lot of situations texts are appropriate. Some people find comfort more in a text then a phone call as phn calls have more obligation. > > Besides it is often good to keep with the method of communication most used b4 the date, which sometimes is indeed texting. > > Having said that I dont believe he is actually texting the girl, a message could mean many things 😉 Everyone texts here… we have taken it for granted.. Yes I did mention texting / smsing.. ---
**Author:** ![Curiouschic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@Curiouschic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Curiouschic)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2008, 10:57pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/25 "2008-03-18T22:57:43Z")
> [@Phoenix](#): > > Everyone texts here… we have taken it for granted.. > Yes I did mention texting / smsing.. oops my mistake 😃 Yeah texting has become quite the plague 😉 lol. Oh the texting fun one can have…😃 ---
**Author:** ![TiggerBear](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tiggerbear/32/1813_2.png) [@TiggerBear](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TiggerBear)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 5:09pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/26 "2008-03-20T17:09:29Z")
Kitten… don’t look too closely at the ties. Just think of them as the potential leashes they are to lead a man when you want him to go… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Curiouschic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@Curiouschic](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Curiouschic)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 5:35pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/27 "2008-03-20T17:35:13Z")
> [@TiggerBear](#): > > Kitten… don’t look too closely at the ties. Just think of them as the potential leashes they are to lead a man when you want him to go… 😃 🙄 I know another good use for a TIE 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 7:27pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/28 "2008-03-20T19:27:33Z")
> [@Curiouschic](#): > > 🙄 I know another good use for a TIE 😛 😃😃😃😃😃 ---
**Author:** ![TiggerBear](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/tiggerbear/32/1813_2.png) [@TiggerBear](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/TiggerBear)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 7:51pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/29 "2008-03-20T19:51:16Z")
I think I need more TIES!!! 😃 😃 😃 Oh and a looonggg pearl necklace works very nicely, too!! ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 7:56pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/30 "2008-03-20T19:56:12Z")
> [@TiggerBear](#): > > I think I need more TIES!!! 😃 😃 😃 Oh and a looonggg pearl necklace works very nicely, too!! I don’t like wearing ties but I’m a fan of ties.. 😃😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mtnjim](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/mtnjim/32/2010_2.png) [@Mtnjim](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Mtnjim)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 9:43pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/31 "2008-03-20T21:43:14Z")
> [@TiggerBear](#): > > Oh and a looonggg pearl necklace works very nicely, too!! And _I_ know another use for a long pearl necklace.😮😮🙄 ---
**Author:** ![phernoob](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phernoob/32/180_2.png) [@phernoob](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/phernoob)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 10:07pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/32 "2008-03-20T22:07:22Z")
Sorry mate, have to ask, is that a TOSSED salad (ask an american if u have not heard of that - its one of their quaint little phrases)? LOL! “Tishy darling, we simply must get a divorce unless we try tossing the salad”. Blimey, I think that would get a reaction… > [@Phoenix](#): > > I’ll combine the salad with the divorce one.. kind of we’re getting divorced unless we try the salad 😃 > > Only prob with the new # is she’s a single mom.. what I’ve read is that it’s difficult to date them for an ltr.. ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2008, 10:10pm UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/33 "2008-03-20T22:10:01Z")
> [@phernoob](#): > > Sorry mate, have to ask, is that a TOSSED salad (ask an american if u have not heard of that - its one of their quaint little phrases)? LOL! > > “Tishy darling, we simply must get a divorce unless we try tossing the salad”. Blimey, I think that would get a reaction… Hehe I should have tried that! No it was a normal salad… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![flaming](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/flaming/32/212_2.png) [@flaming](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/flaming)\ **Post date:** [March 21, 2008, 9:42am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/34 "2008-03-21T09:42:00Z")
Most people text here! Really young college age people text too but also use facebook and or myspace.This is something older people rarely do. I think maybe what boss is getting at is its undignified for a mature man to be constantly playing with his phone.😛 Discrete texting is best! 😃 I think each form of communication has its art and etiquette. ---
**Author:** ![Phoenix](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/flex016/user_avatar/pheromonetalk.com/phoenix/32/673_2.png) [@Phoenix](https://pheromonetalk.com/u/Phoenix)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2008, 7:04am UTC](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102/35 "2008-03-26T07:04:37Z")
I took the advice for another first date with someone else, didn’t message her at all that night, the next day I got messaged back .. 😃😃😃😃 hehe setting up another date now.. [Previous page](https://pheromonetalk.com/t/your-advice-requested-message-after-first-date/10102.md?page=1)