Hello pagan,
I recommend you try instant sexiness. Read about the versions here: The womens guide
Also, I suggest you read about products such as instant honesty and instant openness which can help draw people to you and/or assist you and others to feel more comfortable.
Note, there is a dedicated female forum here with some very active members. I suggest you hang out in there for a while and meet the other ladies, many of which have similar backgrounds to you, including the barefoot stuff 