Mobocaster, I envy you sometimes for your advice 
If I take a good look at OP’s journal, it seems there is more than what meets the eye: Diary of a Gay Man
Now, based on this information and the question being asked here, I am wondering, what would you peeps recommend to a gay African Male, 23 years old, athletic build but socially awkward. Lets start with that first and work from there, shall we?