Before you do that you should definately read up on Renny’s post on congruence here:
In particular my post at the end would be the best advice I could personally give to you. But there is a good read to be had and maybe some of the other guys’ advice will suit you better.
A314 needs congruence to work properly. IMO a slight congruence works best. I was the same as you when I was 19. I was a shy guy. You just need to take a deep breath and go for it. The more you do that the faster a lack of confidence will just melt away.
WHEN (not if) you come through it and you find yourself with the confidence you deserve you’ll be surprised… And a little upset at how much of your life you wasted worrying about what women actually percieve as inconsequential.
Doesn’t matter if your face looks like an arse thats been beaten with an ugly stick, if you’re confident and happy in your own skin then women will be happy and comfortable around you. THAT is where you need to be before you’ll get anywhere good with the finer sex. The women worth worrying about don’t care if you drive a flash car, or have loads of money. They’ll be more than happy to spend their lives with a garbage man who is happy and secure in himself than spend it with a CEO who drives a beamer but acts like a douche trying to impress her with expensive gifts and telling her how great he is every other day.
You’re life will step up to the next level and have you feeling great about everything too.
Lack of confidence is hard to get past, don’t get me wrong, but just tell yourself “F*ck it” suck it up and go for it. It won’t always end up peachy but your confidence will just keep growing and growing. Trust me, about 90% of the guys here had to get past a lack of confidence at some point in their lives too and I’m sure many will tell you the same thing.