I wonder why they even allow “enrolled agents”, then, if most are against? It would seem best for them just to disallow you entirely.
“Enrolled” makes it sound like you have their blessing to work against them.
enrolled simply means enrolled to practice, having demonstrated a certain degree of tax knowledge whether it’s individual, corporate, charitable etc.
it is a federal license to practice, where the cpa for example is a state equivalency exam.
it is not up to “them”, congress writes the code that the irs interprets one way i interpret another. i don’t have their blessing to work against them and if it were in fact up to them there would be no need for me or even just a tax preparer, as all you would do is sit back and wait for your receipt for the tax payment automatically deducted from your savings account since the irs would have already prepared and filed a return for you, based on information they believe to be accurate.
but yeah, IFM is perhaps the single most noticeably effective pheromone product i’ve tried besides alpha nols. great stuff i highly recommend it.
Really… even more effective than AA314?!
imo, A314 requires action whereas the IFM just needs to be there.
I am definitely looking forward to doing the IFM/A314 combination.
For all my talk about the need for men to initiate, I’ve actually had women approach me with a combinations that use Instant Shine and Instant Female Magic, I’m “ashamed” to say.
I almost don’t want to post about that, because as a man if you EXPECT women to initiate, then you’ll give off the “wrong vibe” and nobody will.
That expectation is so “hungry” women can smell it (maybe you give off a natural pheromone that works against you?), It’s very much an observer affecting the observed in the wrong way type of effect.
In fact, they call this expectation an “AFC” (average frustrated chump) activity/mindset in the “pickup community” for a very real reason – it works against you.
On the other hand, if you don’t expect it, it’s likelier it’ll happen with some of the modern pheromones mixes out there.
To clarify and resolve some any potential confusion:
a) It’s OK to think that most the women out there want you or are attracted to you, but
b) it’s NOT OK to think that any women out there will approach you about it. Ever. Even if they sometimes do, enjoy it, but forget about it.
This particular combination of mental convictions works pretty well.
I think perhaps the reason that expecting women to approach you does not work well is that it may come across as arrogant or something along those lines.
There’s a big difference between being confident in your attractiveness and being egotistical about yourself. And of course we all know that generally the man must make the overt initiations if anything is going to come of the encounter.
True, but I’m not sure arrogant expectation is nearly as bad expectation from a position of weakness.
Many women respond well to arrogance, especially younger ones who aren’t “sick of it” yet… but no women, of any age or background, likes a “wuss”.
Undeniably true… and the secret to my success recently. 
So I’m noticing some effects from IFM, but I’m not quite sure what they are yet. I’ve really only tested it twice.
Can anyone give me a solid idea what I should be looking for? It makes women relax and feel good, but how does this get expressed?
By having them NOT bite your head off… and I’m not just joking…
I used Pheromax (with A1) at a funeral wake, and it seemed to keep some emotions in check. (There were, as usual for what I’ve seen in life, more women than men at wakes for older people.) And there are some women who have a tendency to get into a “rage” about PMS time (the term was used by one of my female friends to describe her attitude during that time). I didn’t have A1 (or IFM) at the time, but probably would have been nice…
It may be more what DOESN’T happen or you DON’T see that what you DO see.
You don’t get slashed by the PMS dagger, or split by the PMS axe, or get your head eaten off by the PMS lioness. 
Everything is just so mellow … like the purrrrring of a cat without hearing the purrrrrrr. 
Back you demon!!!
I don’t have to worry about PMS with my current situation. What about when they’re not PMSing? I did notice that my female cousins were very relaxed and mellow around me this evening.
Maybe I can use it to get my ex to open up to me enough to communicate with me again. If only we could re-establish communication, I know I could fix a lot of what went wrong… but she’s about as irrational as they come, and has decided her pain is all my fault. Since then, all I get from her is stonewalling. Even if it’s too late to save the relationship, I know she would be in a lot less emotional pain if she understood what really happened. I may not be with her anymore, but I will always love her just the same, and I’d rather she wasn’t hurting if I could help it.
Now the trick is getting it to her nose… I wonder if it could work to spray it on a letter or something.
well you are brave man but we’ve all been there at least once and chances are you just want to have sex with her again. if it’s all on her, it’s all on her and she’ll come around in her own time and in her own way and all you will do is be miserable in the meantime. if you insist on pursuing this, no letter or phone call or email will ever ever help your case it will only be used against you, the only possible way is for her to see you by “chance” , enjoying the company of another (or more preferably several) women.
A prime example of limits. Obviously, therapy is called for. Label it therapy or label it “consciousness expansion” or whatever makes sense.
Truth is, and a painful truth at that, people grow at different rates. Some folks have naturally bigger growth muscles than other folks.
I’ve been in relationships where we hit the wall. I needed to continue growing and she was determined to dig in deep at that evolutionary point and not budge. This has happened to me multiple ocassions. I need growth, I hunger for growth… so my life strategy is to do mind expanding things all the time… it never occured to me until mid life that a significant percentage of the population does not share this attitute towards growth … they actually see it as something questionable, negative, judging that it puts all the comfy social arrangements under too much stress or “makes them think to much”… like God Forbid you should think too much …
If you’re dabbling in pheromones you’ve got to comprehend that you’re also checking in with a pro-growth self image. On a behavioral level, pheromones are emotional growth accelerants, whether you realize it or not… that’s the undocumented sneaky side of them… you may start changing faster than the people around you and before you know it you’re seeing them in the rearview mirror…
My great, painful life lesson was that I could not do the growth work for any other person. I could not dictate other’s attitudes, not their values (no matter how absurd or self limiting those values might be) , not their reasoning, not their tastes… all I could do was demonstrate my own position with as much excellence as I could muster… either that connected with them or it didn’t.
I’ve also encountered more than my share of frame arrogance, they insist on controlling the “frame”… everything has to be framed the way they believe it should be framed because their frame, in their belief, is “the obvious truth” … there are a plenty among us who engage in covert power struggles around frame control issues, and you will really see this dynamic come up in imbalanced reltionships, where gobs of manipulative behavior is used to establish frame dominance. You ever see the movie from the 1980s, Ordinary People ? Donald Sutherland does a bang up job of a nice guy who is enmeshed in his wife’s frame manipulations. At the very end of the movie he challenges her frame, and she chooses to walk out before she’ll examine the frame dynamics of the relationship… and basically how dishonest she has been about her power over the situation…
I can tell you’re growing, T, 'cause fer once, I understood everything you said! Or is it me that’s growing? 
it’s that old tyme Krishna Consciousness, sweetheart…
FWIW… the Mystery folks make a signiificant distinction between a proactive attitude and a reactive attitude. I would agree that this is most critical success distinction you can make in any thing you choose to do in your life.
Although there are problems with an excess of proactivity, such as egomaniac leaders who won’t listen to anyone, or those who go off on extreme tangents inspired by a sliver of hard information… most of the sucky day to day suckyness of like stems from an excess of reactivity…
Especially true of relationship dynamics where many layers of childhood reactive thinking are brought back to life. Why is it that normally moderately proactive men and women suddenly flip into hard reactivity when they cross an unnamed milestone in the “relationship” … why is there so much exhausting bullshit in the typical relationship ?
My Tacitus oracular 8 ball tells me it is because the average person has a goodly gob of unsolved background crap in their existences that they should have bucked up and dealt with on their own time… but noooo… they obtained this limp unit of a belief that relationships are “supposed” to
do all of that… some kind of big pink cloud of healing and resolution that makes all the poo vanish with a twinkling wave of the wand … so there Dick and Jane are, hanging out, playing house, reactively waiting for the magical wave to wash down the decks and the big pink cloud to show up…
Well, one thing the Mystery Process does put you in touch with is your reactive nature, and what it feels like to massively amplify all your reactive patterns then change them into proactive patterns… that’s a generally useful insight that goes well beyond finding a groovy chick to bang… too bad the average guy and average girl haven’t gotten the point yet.
Many thank yous for discussing this, Mister Tacitus. Enough people (self and the rest of the greater LA basin included) really need to learn how to hone their proactive chops instead of whale around and complain all the time.
I’ve watched a few of the Mystery videos and am giddily impressed by their step-by-step training wheels induction into being the Sarge in social situations and all around being a more interesting person.
THIS is the stuff I wish I was learning in my formative junior high and high school years. The Mystery folks have done a sweet little job of actually breaking everyday social concepts down into a social science.
This is a very good description of why that relationship ended, actually… I could no longer stagnate, and she was too afraid and too stubborn to grow, no matter what I did to try to help. So I chose to grow, and she stopped feeling “good enough” to be with me. That of course led to other problems.
I’m not interested in having sex with her, really, unless it’s within the scope of a relationship I know I cannot have until she grows to catch up. And based on my years of experience with her, she is not going to do that. My interest in this is to try to make as much of this as balanced as possible. I don’t want her to hurt any more than she has to, and I don’t want her performing character assassination based on faulty thinking, either.
She thinks that if she only talks about me to her friends when she’s upset with me, and then they tell her I’m a bad person, then I must be a bad person because they are “objective”. (Read: What they say is easier to accept and more comfortable than what you are saying.) Naturally, it never crosses her mind that the only thing they know about me is what she told them, because they never bothered to actually meet me - based, ironically, on the logic that if all she ever says is negative things, I must not be worth meeting… This is the kind of logic she uses.
I made my share of mistakes in that relationship, but I was certainly not alone, and what I want to do is smooth things out so that she and I can part on good terms, without hard feelings or pain. I know how to get in touch with her despite her stonewalling, but I prefer not to appear as if I’m stalking. I think eventually she’ll open up and talk with me, and when she does that, things will be made as right as possible.
They who are not busy being born are busy dying…
A heart warming thought from Robert Zimmerman… should be on a Hallmark Card…
Possibly a useful take on the situation : if you’re experimenting with pheromones that is probably an indication of a general life attitude or belief that a life well lived is a life that pushes the envelope… and that’s a good thing… there is an implicit proactive frame to that which is healthy… the contrasting attitude is that life comes along and dumps problems in your lap and existence is nothing more than extricating yourself from one damn thing after another… the corollary observation is that humans absolutely congregate on the basis of proactivity and reactivity… highly reactive people will glom together ( the “all my friends tell me” vortex ) and invest huge amounts of psychic energy defending their negative beliefs… perhaps you have noticed this dynamic ? The conversation is basically "this situation is so fucked up because ____________ " and they will talk for hours trying to perfect their understanding of why the situation is so fucked up… makes for excellent relationships, no ?
Highly proactive people also tend to hang out together, usually for the purpose of getting rich, having a good time, and enjoying the best life has to offer, and not being too bent out of shape by things that didn’t go their way… they also tend to be more intelligent. A really smart proactive personality understands the inherent value of the reactive frame , however they use those well compensated masters of reactivity known as lawyers… in other words, when they need to go reactive or examine a situation through the prism of reactivity they do it with sharp professionalism… to put this in an NLP model, their reactive frames are embedded in proactive frames…
Which is also true in good relationships… healthy reactivity includes good listening, anticipating, well shaped responses… if that is embedded in a proactive frame, you’ll know it because the energy level stays lively, enjoyable, refreshing, propulsive… unhealthy reactivity , which is typically embedded in a frame of victimization … is saddening, draining, demanding, you constantly feel like you are decelerating to a slow crawl through backed up traffic…
IMHO, pheromone technology can only operate within the frame dynamics that each player brings to the game… if you are coming in with a first rate frame design that has produced enviable life results, you may well inspire someone out of their less well designed frame structure, or they may make a partial step from their frame design to yours… OTOH, if you are dealing with an energy sapping “quicksand” personality … those folks who run your batteries dowen fast without you even knowing why … the sooner you realize that you are dealing with a frame addict, the better … and pull up your britches and move on fast before you sink into their boring ass quicksand and can’t get yourself out … it’s not like you owe them confirmation of their beliefs… ( hint: one weird but prevalent covert belief most dysfunctional people have is that it is your duty to confirm their beliefs… which it ain’t )…
I think if you learn to set your mental filters to begin to see frames as establishing factors for the games that will inevitably ensue, then learn to distinguish what constitutes highly generative frame structures from self limiting or life screwing up frames AND you master the art of brilliant pheromone use… BTW it is an art that requires patience and diligence to master… you will have some outstanding long term happiness outcomes …