I’m a newbie and in a difficult situation. I’ll be as brief as possible:
The Girl
30 year old arty/geeky/alternative type (unemployed artist, upper middle class family background) with hot teen model body (5’10’', 128lb). Looks and behaves like MUCH younger, never wears make-up, wears jeans, t-shirts and Chuck Taylors. Very sensitive and intuitive, prone to mood swings. Very child-like aura, but occasionally a dark party-animal side manifests. MBTI type: probably INFJ.
The situation:
Met her a couple of months ago while I was in another relationship. Many common interests, instant comfort, similar tastes, deep conversations, a very ‘soul-mate’-like quality in our communication. I occasionally teased her, playing strict daddy on her and she would jump around giggling like a little girl. She has told me I would make a perfect father…Fell in love with her madly.
My previous relationship ended, went out with her wearing a huge dose of a cheap androstenone mone. STUPID MISTAKE. While I did not make a move, she later reported to a common friend that ‘I was all over her, she felt pressured etc.’ I am also told that she has now lost all trust; she thinks that everything was just an elaborate seduction routine on my part in order to bed her. I am now trying through common friends to prove that this was not the case.
Question: I’ll probably meet her again soon. I desperately need some mone help, but this time it is crucial to be the right one. What would you reccommend for re-establishing trust, feelings of safety and honesty?
(Sexiness is not a priority, better to keep her as a friend than lose her completely.)
The IH/P74 combo is the one that leaps to my mind here. Or IH alone - both have good trusting, confiding, close and bonding properties. Some IS may also be useful to help steer the mood in a happy/feelgood direction.
If you are looking to help re-establish communication, then going a bit higher on the P74 to begin with might be good - maybe in the 40mcg range but don’t stick with that too long before getting it back below 30mcg to avoid the “just friendly” effect that higher doses will give. Go for a concentration around 10mcg so you can cover a reasonable dose range.
It will also moderate Androstenone quite well so you could reintroduce that after a few exposures but if she looks/behaves/has a much younger outlook, then you would be best to start low and increase slowly. As she has complained of “pressure” and seeing you as a “daddy” type, give the more severe status products like A314 a very wide berth for now - these can initially put quite some pressure or seem overly fatherly to a younger-outlook girl.
And if you do reconnect, don’t get stuck in the “soul-mate” situation again or let her go too deep and pour everything out on you as this is not good for building attraction.
Probably the best advice is to simply find another target. Pheromone wise, you could always rock something like Instant Honesty and TAA or Instant Honesty and Liquid Trust, but you’re gonna be fighting an uphill battle. She’s formed a negative impression about you from what happened on the date, which is a little harder to turn around than simply changing your pheromone signature. Something else went wrong on that date. For the amount of time, energy, and resources that it will take to flip a woman who is spreading negative rumors about you, you could easily meet and seduce several new women who have no previous opinion about you.