Interesting observations especially since TAL is a very feminine molecule. Perhaps the difference you and others were noticing might have been you seeming “girly” to them. I’ve noticed that whenever a chick who is more friend these days than sex partner we are able to have those smooth conversations. This might answer the questions why guys were nicer. You might want to be extra vigilant and not cross the threshold from hetero male into homo male.
Certainly not in any way knocking you, I just know that TAL is very feminine molecule and if you are seeking female attention, it might get you it, but only to talk about how Steve over there is going to be taking her out and how he is so awesome. Remember women and men will talk more and be closer to those who aren’t challenging. Women like a challenge. Hence why we find it easier to talk to those we aren’t trying to bang.
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