Hi everyone, I’ve been widowed for 3 months now., and i’ve been spending a lot of time with one of wife’s best friends. We are both 51, and she admits we’ve had some very personal discussions on feelings, beliefs etc. She says we’re very close, but not sexually attracted to me. I was crushed when she told me that. Since then (6 weeks ago) I lost 30 lbs, fixed my teeth, wearing the type clothes she says I look best in, dyed my hair to it’s natural color.
I really feel for her, and not looking for a one night stand. We both attend the same church, (she has started sitting next to me there )so I’m looking for a way to have a committed relationship. Any suggestions would help.
Hey Dennis.
I’m sorry for the loss of your wife, but its good to see you are moving on. However, she may be just helping you cope. You said you want something special however you need that sexual spin. I suggest you get Turn up the Heat or some Ammo to help you out. Just don’t OD on the products and you should be good. If you really want her, just set your mind to it and keep fighting for your goal. I wish you luck and if there are any more questions, feel free to ask.
Dennis,
Best of luck with your lady, but if you two are not really a match don’t be too upset. Responsible guys your age looking for ladies in their own age group are a hot item on the market. I’d guess you will have no problem attracting potential partners, even without pheromones. Pheromone chemistry will just give a little extra boost. It sounds as if you are putting yourself back in shape, which is always a good thing.
Best wishes to you.
Wow! I am so amazed to hear your story. Pleased to meet you, dennis!
GWTW is very spot on here.
You (the ever improving, single, successful, sexy older MANLY man) are a very hot commodity in this day and age. Even if your widow’s friend isn’t deeply into you right now, I’m sure you will have absolutely no problem attracting her later, or maybe even a better woman, along down the line.
Pheromonally, I would very much suggest something bright and exuberant to start off, like Instant Shine. 2X, even. A314 should also be in your first order, to give you that strong, respectable, sexy vibe.
Actually, as a pheromonal mentor, I would suggest looking up posts by GWTW. He’ll likely have some reports on mixes that you can resonate with.
All in all, Welcome to the forum.
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Thanks everyone, I had a heart to heart talk with her, she still thinks of me as her friend’s husband, but is trying to get over that. She said that is her main hang-up, and the fact her last husband turned out to be totally different from when they were dating.
Dennis.
No Man No.
Listen to me for a second.
Is it POSSIBLE that just because this woman was a close friend of your dear wife, she’s simply available, and comfortably accessible and suddenly HER potential value is much higher in your eyes than it should be?
The comment that guys OUR age–I’m 54 that are decent and dependable raises your market share through the roof is true.
You have done some remarkable things in VERY short order to attain the affections of a woman who’s NOT sexually attracted to you.
Imagine how over the top you’d be if you found one that blew the lid off your pot and WAS.
There’s a trillion beautiful, sexy, vivacious women out there, mate and I’m gong on record as saying you’re probably only suitable for 3 or 4 hundred thousand.
Now get out there.
Don’t try to turn a woman who isn’t FEELING it into one who is.
Like the new Viagra commercial says, you want Wombo Minkee.
Dig a little deeper, my brother…you’re worth it.
J.
Thanks J., we’re still close friends, thank God I didn’t blow that. She says she doesn’t feel the same vibes off me that she felt a few weeks ago, that I had "overwhemed her with attention, and had never had that beforen not even when married’ . I admitted to her I was trying to show her how would treat her.
Don’t rush things Dennis. It could take you a year or more to “equalize” - get through the mourning process, re-discover who YOU are and and who “we” were, etc.. You need it and in reality the next major woman in your life deserves it - it being a man who is ready for the future. Unfortunately I have had to help friends go through this - and if you do some research there really is a “process” you will and ought to go through before entering into another LTR.
That being said - Sharpeshots is right - you are a HOT commodity. Take your time, equalize, and they will be looking for you. You will have a lot of great ladies to consider.