Anybody know any good reads for self improvement or congruency? (A314 mostly) I know people post links to books, but for the love of blah I can’t find it atm. I just started reading “Body Language for Dummies”, pretty good read, although I’m also interested in good reads on being Alpha and stuff.
There’s actually a thread on this in the A314 forum. If you have the product you should have access to it.
Yeah the thread in the A314 forum is not very old yet already quite comprehensive. Send a PM to Steve and quote the order number in which your A314 was in to get your code. Access to that forum if you own A314 is very useful.
Yeah I have access to the A314 forums. Ah I just found your post in the A314 forum with book recommendations again rad, thanks.
I like this one myself
Learning to read BL is actually fun or maybe I am just a dork LOL… who knows but me and my friends do it all the time like a game when we are bored. Laying at the beach, sitting in the mall, at the restaurant or bar. You can practice it anywhere.
Here are some interpretations you can start with…
Easy reads…
biting nails, pulling on ears… nervousness, indecision, undecided.
tapping fingers… impatiences
head resting in hand while looking at the ground… Bored.
sitting with legs crossed and foot kicking… Bored. This one can be a little hard because women will use it to pull your attention to there legs so you have to be observant of the whole situation.
How does that help you ? Well if your talking to a women or someone and they are showing some these signs you automatically know your losing there interest. You need to change the subject or pull there attention in some other way. If you pick up on before it gets to the point of the conscious thought “this guy is such or bore” you are more in control of the interaction.
Tilted head… interest
rubbing hands together, excitement anticipation
sitting with legs open or legs uncrossed… openness
standing with one hands or both on hips… eagerness readiness
Leaning towards you when they speak or listen… interested comfort.
These signs tell you this person is into you, your on the right track.
BL makes up almost 50% of communication. Dont just look at resources that teach you the attraction, PUA part of body language. That’s like learning to just say a few words in another language. The more “words/body movements” you learn the more fluent you will be and instead of just understanding what others are saying with their body just like when you first learned to understand words you will automatically start speaking them. Then you will start to see how all the body movements combined can paint can tell you something about the person. Just like all the words you learned as a child combined tell a story.
Here are some more…
touching nose, darting eyes, rubbing nose… lying, guilt
locked ankles … apprehension, unease, mistrust In men its more of a preceding with caution sign.
patting or messing with hair… Nervousness insecurity
Here is a pretty good site with lots of info.
Use all the free resources before you spend money on books or videos.
Tisha