Torn, these guys all gave you great suggestions and good opinions on Pherlure, so there is not much for me to add. Just wanted to welcome you to the forums and assure you that these products are for real. I have had great experiences with them so far and I am new at this too.
Make sure to really read and study those stickies. It may seem overwhelming, but just stick with the basics at first.
The Snook’s big book o’ pheros for rookies
Again, welcome and I wish you the best with the shy girl.
-Patratt