Well I’m new to pheromone usage. Have made two orders and am experimenting with IS, IO, IH, IG, AMMO, and A314 oil
I’m a 40 year old male living in Colorado.
The reason I happen to find out about this company is:
Four years ago I met this wonderful lady. We had a rough start but eventually she fell in love with me (I knew she would). Our relationship backgrounds are very similar both of us came out of seven year relationships with some one we were expecting to spend the rest of our lives with and both ended in infidility. I have been married twice and they both ended in infidelity. Seems there’s a shortage of quality people in the world. Well we were engaged in 2010 and set to marry in the fall when she became distant, you see she has an emotional problem called borderline person ality disorder and has a problem connecting to others for fear of abandonment. She pushes them away as a form of being in control kinda like she leaves before they can leave her (self fulfilling prophecy) anyway that’s why I’m here. She seems to respond well to the A314, IO, IS, IH, and IG we have been doing better. When I wear the AMMO she says I smell like alcohol even though the alcohol has long sense evaporated any thoughts? Don’t want to move up to the TUTH yet still trying to build trust in her. Another curiosity is she hasn’t behaved in an unusual way when wearing the a314 or IG though she is sometimes deppressed. Any thoughts? Thank you for your time.
Please don’t offer advice like just leave her… she has done nothing to deserve that. Any such reply will only be ignored. Again thank you.
Unfortunately - Get the fuck out of this! was the very first thing that came to my mind.
And I’m speaking as someone who also spent seven years with someone who although undiagnosed, fits the criteria for a BPD sufferer to a-T, ie ten out of eleven primary indicators and approx 150 out of 180 secondary.
So unless she’s into ongoing treatment and fully committed to reining-in the condition and you are 100% along there beside her and prepared for a life of hell due to relapses and the very high drop-out rate, you really should think very hard about what you are getting into and how you are going to manage your own support structure. Are you aware that marriage is often the trigger for a BPD’s most extreme splitting behaviours?
Saying that, I must say that pheros were effective around my one in the terminal stage of our relationship - and in some ways it was actually the best and most stable time of all. However I had made-up my mind resolutely that this would be her last hoover and that I was going to walk at the first sign of the next major split (she was getting increasingly violent). And I did.
You will find quite a few posts of mine about the last year or so of our relationship over on bpdfamily/mybpdrecovery - If you are not aware of those sites, go and find them now. You will get a lot to think about and maybe help, especially if you are determined to stay with her.
My one (late 30s) responded reasonably well to different phero signatures in her different personality aspects. Notably A314/IH plus either TUTH, IJ, NPA or Alter Ego when she was on for me and when minor-splitting me - A more social/engaging signature helped turn her back. IS, MX297, IO/IH together with the later addition of more overt none.
Good luck! 
Hey there, UV.
You’re point on AMMO… it is cologne strength, so, she could be sensing that. Do you have any comments like that with regular colognes that you wear around her?
I would think that IG, IS and IH would be the best combination or stand alone mones for getting her to A) feel comfortable around you and B) open herself up honestly to you. From there, you’re own attitude and actions will dictate how well these mones will work for you.
Wish you well, bud!
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Thank you mobo for your rapid response and speaking so openly from your own experience. She is in treatment and we seem to ne doing better. And yeah I’m all in with her, that may sound strange or even suicidal but I love her and I know she loves me too. I know it will take time hard work and commitment from both of us but we will make it. Just looking for something to ease both of our pains and make things easier for us both