I’ve been lurking on the forums here for a bit, and have read over quite a bit on pheromones and effects.
Rather than diving straight into a purchase, I wanted to ensure I got the right product. I was hoping that by giving some details, it might help determine the best product to purchase as a “starter”.
First, I’ve experienced firsthand that there is something “missing”, that extra little shove, that gets a relationship going for me. I have plenty of hits (I’m not unpleasant to the eyes, but I’m no Brad Pitt) in conversation.
However, I’m a bit withdrawn on taking up those “hits”, being a bit more European in upbringing. I generally elicit more of a feeling of safety or comfort, more like a best friend than a sexual option.
I’ve resolved some of my reservation on approaching women, but generally have to say I just don’t elicit any carnal desire. I’m the “safe mate”, but this doesn’t attract women I’m interested in physically, just matronly ones (which, by the way, I have tried on relationships and while I do like them, it just doesn’t work out for physical attraction reasons).
Persona is not a problem; not an ass, total gentleman, and I can be an intriguing conversationalist in a flash.
The main thing that seems to block me is the initial “reach” as you will, from the opposite sex. If a girl touches me or shows open interest, it’s on and I can woo or charm very skillfully. Otherwise, I wait until they show interest before approaching them. Call it a psychological block, but I just dislike being “the guy who’s hitting on me although I’m not interested”.
So, the trick then becomes, how can I generate that interest? Hence pheromones. I believe that, with a bit of an icebreaker in this area, I can do well and locate someone more along the lines of who I’m interested in - so think this might be the best solution.
There are, however, many products with many different results. I need at least a kick in the right direction!