Hello. I am a bit skeptical though open minded. I just heard about your forum and thought I’d poke my head in and see what’s up.
I’m, 41 and have been married for 17 years.
I would love to increase my wife’s arousal as sex, though good when it happens, is at the bottom of her to do list.
Hey there, welcome to the forum and glad you poked your head in to check it out. You’ll find many guys and gals from differing walks of life that post up their experiences around here.
Understand the issue, as I’m married for many years as well. I would recommend looking into displaying comfort, respect and leadership vibes to get her aroused. You could try TUTH which is a Hot and Horny vibe. However, this May Not be what she wants to perceive in you. She may get that and think that you only think of her as a sex toy… 
IShine, comfortable to be around you, and IH to get an easy to open, I can now remember that I fell for you being SO easy to talk about Intimate things, bear my soul to you.
For the Leadership, I’m here for YOU to take Care of you, I’ll Respect you and YOU MUST Respect me, I do think A314 would help out here. When I wear it around my wife, she is much more willing to listen to me and follow my lead. She displays confidence in me and shows that she can rely on me.
So, IShine, IH and A314 would be what I would recommend in that order.
You can get more of a COMFORT Spike, with a Golden Molecule, TAC. That with IShine… Wow, is all I can say. However, TAC, Putatives and MX’s don’t have the money back guarantee as the commercial line, so bear that in mind.
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Welcome to Pherotalk! 
Yes, I agree that TUTH and IH are good tools to help enhance a partner’s sex drive.
Tuth can come-on a bit strong when used on its own but the IH will smooth that and its closeness and bonding properties will add emotional depth to your interaction and it may help her to open-up about any issues that are putting her off sex.
IS can also be useful here - Its happy/feelgood air will help steer the IH towards the more pleasant side of things and I fully second TAC, although it does not carry the consumer line warranty - Good comforting vibe and when used in excess of 20mcg, it is also noted to have orgasm-enhancing properties.
Hello Thick and welcome to the forum.
There is a thread in my signature block that talks about just that subject. a lot of experienced users contributed to it and it has a lot of good information. Give it a read and see what you think.
Just remember that the passion starts with the basic relationship.
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. We are always happy to help.
Welcome to pherotalk Wanttobethick!
We have had quite a few persons come to this forum with the same thing you are going through so I know we can think of some way to assist you.
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Well let’s see. I heard about this site on Thunder’s Place. It was enough to make me curious.
As for me, I’ve been married for 15+ years and have two great girls that keep us both busy. I love my wife and understand that finding time to be together is tricky.
Yes that can be tricky in any relationship where both parties are super busy.
I know that the many married couples on this forum have found a way around this so I know you will be in good hands once you start mingling.
Have a great weekend.
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