Hi Nate,
I suggest you take a look at The Mens Guide
For your situation I suggest you consider the socials - Instant Openness, Instant Honesty. Others in similar situations to yourself have reported great results with A314 which will help to build trust and respect.
In regards to developing your social skills, I suggest you research the work of pickup gurus such as Mystery Method, Venusian Arts, David DeAngelo.
The lovelly Tisha should give you a gift certificate soon.
Be sure to return and let us know how you go once you start testing pheromones. 