Hey Shapeshifter,
Welcome to the forum! Thanks for a solid introduction. I would usually recommend Instant Shine for a more fun confident vibe but as you are already getting into the friends zone I will back the votes to ammo for a slightly more sexual vibe, though not too OTT.
You may also be interested in treading the Mens section to see if there is anything specifically that jumps out at you:
Good Luck with it all!