When you get your pheros, you need to “learn” them, become familiar with the effects they cause, and how much you need of each thing to produce the best effects. This post should help: How to find your sweet spot…
So what I’m thinking is, order your pheros, then use that distancing time to learn them. When you come around again (stay away just long enough for her to miss you a little), then use your pheros, which you will know how to use properly by then.