Hey there,
Welcome to the forums. I am not a lesbian female, so most of my comments will be based on what the lesbian girls have written down on their journals.
Pheromones in the right dosage can be very effective. There are a lot of products out there that give out the placebo effect, but I do know that the pheromones sold here are real and not bullshit 
If you like to be outgoing and more sexy, I would recommend Instant Shine and Instant Sexiness. They tend to give you that sexy uplifting vibe, and make you the shining star on the red carpet. It also makes your boyfriend get more attracted to you, that I am sure about If you are not sure what else you need, just get the female wardrobe and start testing!
If you like to be more into getting the girls too and don’t mind a bit of experimentation, then I would recommend to take a look at Ammo. Don’t overdo it, just spray a little bit on yourself and see the effects. It works better on your boyfriend though. TUTH also does work, but similar warning as the Ammo, it works better on your boyfriend since it will make him more aggressive and dominant. (source: My Lesbian Lexicon) Also, I would recommend to search for MX135, MX300, TAC and TAL, just to see if you like to try them out.