I am a 49 years old woman living in NYC. Originally from Italy, I moved to New York 13 years ago to marry my husband, a man with a lot of social and sexual problems. By the time I realized that the man was impotent, passive / aggressive and anti- social, occasionally violent towards me, my life was in a turmoil for I discovered that I got serious multiple health conditions. I entered menopause early compared to my friends and family members, and the bad marriage combined with my health conditions caused my social life drop to zero. I noticed that I am now extremely shy and awkward in social situations, and people seems to notice me at the beginning, but then start to " back off " as if they find something annoying about me, or boring ( In spite of everything, I don’t look too bad at all ). This seems to be the case with both genders. I am treating myself with individual counseling, Bach flower and acupuncture, plus a daily dose of brainwaves and the occasional meditation for good measure. But I am really struggling to gain respect and social acceptance , especially in situation when I need to gain something for myself. The strange thing is that for some reason people, including woman, feel the urge to attack me, like they need to defend themselves from me. I noticed a change in my body odors too since menopause. I am eager to try the pheromone that influence my own mood and the one that makes people more honest towards me. For some strange reasons, people around me lies a lot, like they feel it is appropriate to be dishonest to protect themselves and gain power over me. It is such a bad mix, I thought that pheromones could help my social interaction and the way I feel around people. I would like to be able to feel more relaxed around people in general and stop care too much about how they judge me. I was wandering if pheromones could give some relief from menopause in general. I got huge headaches, mood swings and feelings of desperation every day now, plus I feel always exhausted, forgetful and unable to focus . I am not expecting a magic bullet but if there is anything that can help my condition please advice- Thank you.
Hello there and welcome!
I’m sorry to hear about everything you’ve gone through, but it sounds like you’re taking great steps to helping yourself through this rough patch.
As far as menopause goes, I’m not sure if I would look for a fix here 
with this stuff, wouldn’t recommend any pheromones in a medical sense.
For you I would recommend the social mones. IO and IH do a great job of getting people a bit more comfortable around you and can make them more chatty as well. IS is another great one because it can make you and others just feel a bit more uplifted. It gives off a fun youthful playful vibe that people just love to be around.
Let us know how things go!
Welcome to the forum.
“Self-effects” (the pheromones effects on the wearer), as we call them, do not occur for everyone and almost always fade after regular usage so I would suggest not becoming too hopeful about them helping you with something like menopause. They can, however, help you become more social and comfortable by making people more receptive towards you.
That being said, I second Empath’s recommendations. Instant Honesty will help people be more trusting of you, while Instant Openness will help them be more talkative and social towards you. Instant Shine is great for improving everyone’s mood and putting a smile on their face. Now if you’re also looking for a little more male attention, you might also consider Instant Sexiness. It’s an attractant that comes in two types, A and B. From what you’ve described of yourself I would suggest B since A works best for more outgoing, dominant female personalities. A could also cause females to be more aggressive because it gives out an alpha vibe so I would not suggest that since you already seem to have trouble in that department.
I hope pheromones are able to make things easier for you. Good luck and have fun!
Welcome to Pherotalk Minime!
I am sorry to hear what you have been through and am not sure what your faith is but the Creator does not put us through more than we can handle.
You were created strong and I see that you have made strides in getting your life back.
Pheromones can bring out what is in you a social and wonderfully and beautiful woman who is confident and this forum can be a great outlet but pheromones is not a medicine or cure.
The social is gonna assist greatly in how persons see you and the vibes you give off.
Instant shine
Instant honesty
Instant openness
Instant sexiness/b is a sexual attraction pheromone but for a soft personality like your it’s just gonna make you feel more pretty and comfortable in your skin.
Let us know in the women section how we can assist in any way and guide you through this journey.
Your gc was issued!
Thank you all ! I’ll post results asap. Do they come with instructions or is there a suggestion on how/when to wear them ? I have an important meting coming up and could really use some confidence boost. Thanks!