I find myself coming back to this thread over-and-over, because I’ve walked the walk, in both Checkmate and SteveO’s shoes, and while those shoes were a comfortable fit for the longest time, the reality was that at the end of the day they didn’t leave me feeling very good about myself, or with much of a will to live.
Tisha’s suggestion that the universe gives you what it thinks you want is all so true. If you believe that you’re a loser, then you will never expect anything but misery and failures out of life. And, how is anybody else ever to see you as something more?
It’s really not that hard to make the change from being a loser to a winner. It’s a matter of mind set, mental reprogramming and putting forth the work and effort to achieve what you want. The way in which other people view us tends to mirror the way we feel about and project ourselves.
I do believe that if you purchased pheromones and believed 100% in your heart that would help you get what you wanted, they would. I also believe that 95% of those achievements would be due to a placebo effect, in that maybe for the first time in your life you actually believed in yourself enough and made the effort to let yourself succeed.
Success is not bought and doesn’t come easy. You have to work to achieve it, whether that be in dating, relationships, marriage, work or any other aspect of life. If it came too easy, it wouldn’t be worth striving for.
Checkmate, Wear the Instant Shine always, as well as A314 when you can get it. Save the Ammo till the time comes when you start seeing yourself in a better light, and one in control of your destiny. Otherwise, even if you were to attract attention, I think without working on yourself first, that attention would be short lived, and leave you feeling worse than before.
I am on the fence about using the Instant Openness at this point, unless you feel that you can engage in MEANINGFUL, non-negative conversations.
And again, I’'ll stress that change is not that hard, if you put your mind to it and seek assistance - whether that be through books, or observing and trying to mirror the way successful peope act, react and interact with others.
What I don’t understand is why it’s so hard for you to make the decision to start being a winner and take steps to achieve that goal.
You know, they say Buy a failure is the mother of success
But everytime I fail, there is something I lose: trust, trust in myself. And I was like “one losing battle after another”, which putting me into a state of despair.
Right now however, I’m putting most of my effort to change my mind, change myself. And this might be the last push, or I’ll just leave me this way.
The past is just that, past, over and gone forever. While you definitely want to look to the past to prevent repeating previous mistakes, if you live in the past, you can’t appreciate the todays or tomorrows, and that’s really what life is about: the prospect of a new tomorrow and a chance to start anew.
Live for the future, but look to the past for experience and wisdom.
Thomas Edison failed over 3000 times, before a practical lightbulb emerged.
Hey checkmate. I too have had girls that I thought I loved, or really liked do the just be friends thing. But I look back on all the HUGE mistakes I made, and tell myself I will not do it like that again.
For example, while I was wearing pheromones, I was out with dinner with a “friend” the I wanted to have sex with. she straight up told me that she wanted to sleep with me. I was so dumbstruck that all I could say was “really?” Thinking back I should have played even MORE hard to get. And if that ever happens to me again, I will.
Reading double your dating really helps. But it takes time and the right mindset. And you have to keep that mindset in your mind at all times. A good way of doing that is to get the David DeAngelo text messages for your phone. They are good little tips to have on you at all times.
Before reading that book, I almost never teased girls. Now when I meet an attractive girl I IMMEDIATELY find something, ANYTHING, to tease her about. And they love it.
I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 21, and I’ve only had sex with that one girl. And believe me, she was no prize, but I’ve learned that there are more girls, just put yourself out there, and if they don’t like you, then fuck 'em.
One more thing, I recommend reading the book “How to Talk to Anyone” by Leil Lowndes. It has step-by-step instructions on meeting people and getting them to warm up to you. I think it’ll be a good confidence booster.
And take Double Your Dating one step at a time. You can read it all you want, but nothing will happen if you haven’t practiced it. That’s how it worked for me. Honestly, have you practiced the techniques with new people?
Where should I apply my pheromones? (Chest or Hair or Hands?) Do you have any recommendation for a mix that works good for me? (just, general use, daily use, nothing special, you know!)
I know that apply on chest or hair will effect me, but which pheromones can create negative effect on yourself? Is there such thing?
If you make use of all the advice you have received so far and added to what you already know, very soon you will be asking how to keep the girls away. Act on what has been given to you.
it will help, this way or that way!