Hi mike welcome 
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A lot of people order pherlure, so don’t worry, its pretty common. Did you got a refund by returning it? Their garantee seems to work for most people.
Confidence is the key so many products here can help a lot for the placebo effect.
I recommand ammo which is very easy to use, 1 to 3 sprays and u got good moral boost already! And it really works well: you will get plenty of ioi.
Social products like instant shine will also help, just like you said! Instant openness and instant honesty makes conversation easier, I dont know if you need that.