Hi Ekosa, welcome to the phero community 
Can you tell us more about your personality? From what you’ve provided, it seems like the socials are what you’re looking for. IS for that little shot of confidence, and a lighthearted, good atmosphere, and Instant Openness to do what the name says - dissolving that initial barrier from shyness and increasing quantity of conversation, and Instant Honesty to take that conversation deeper and more meaningful; it promotes closeness and rapport on the side.
How To Find Your Sweet Spot (How to find your sweet spot...)
This thread should help you out in testing each product individually. Just start with one spray of one product and gradually work your way up. It’s a good idea to keep a record of what you notice, maybe in a journal. And then you can go crazy with layering different ones for awesome and interesting combinations 
Please keep us updated! And let us know how your wife likes her IS/a - we could always use another female member on the forum
See you around
- Spinach