He jwhester welcome to pherotalk !
Glad to have you here at the forums and i think that the products you ordered will be great for the things you have described. I also think that you should take a thought to the advice i have and hope maybe i can help.
A lot of times, especially if you are gone on duty a lot the closeness can feel like its absent. Us men are hard-wired differently and we think okay i havent been around for such and such a time well lets get it on ! that makes us want it that much more. Thing is, often women need that sense of trust and to develop that sense of rapport and nurture again and want to feel like they are not just a hookup eventhough they are our wives and gfs. I think you should try out the instant Honesty as it will increase trust and closeness and portray that sense that she is valued and needed in your life, other than just on her back. I know, even if we show it through actions sometimes they need to feel it in other ways and it can be frustrating when we associate closeness and things in the relationship going well with intimacy and they associate it completely differently most of the time.
If youre looking to ignite the spark and dont think what i have mentioned above has any merit, then look at ammo or TUTH. Ammo is scented at cologne strength and is buffered with some social aspects and has -none in it for attraction. TUTH has much more -none content and should only be used when you think things are going further in the bedroom, run over and spray a spray on the sternum while a quick bathroom break or a few prior to trying to engage the intimacy.
Instant shine will definitely bring the mood up and its one of my favorites. It has me smiling and gives a slight confidence boost, and after a while people attribute that feeling of happiness with everytime they are around you. Sometimes you can literally see them light up when you arrive because you are wearing the instant shine. Makes me more outgoing, social and smiley.
Hope this gives you a little insight, and i will also provide a link here that i think you could get some information out of.