Hello Cathy & nice to have you as a member of Pherotalk 
I have read your intro there & i will try my best to help you out in your situation there. Ok my comments on pherlure is the same like Jamesbonded. A lot of people here reported it’s not working well i have to agreed on that as i’m also one of the user & it did not work for me.
I agreed with what Jamesbonded recommended try TUTH for your hubby & Lust for me for yourself as Jamesbonded recommended. But for more intimate relationship try instant Honesty as well as it deepen the conservation that both you & your hubby. For more info on TUTH & Instant Honesty click on this link> Mens Pheromone Guide revised 6/15 & for Lust for me, click this link> Womens Pheromone Guide
I hope i managed to help you there. See you