Hi Kiara, Em 
Yeah, that can happen with TAH. I’m a TAH girl, for the most part, and in the wrong situation/company/mood it’s been known to illict that self reaction. A good time to use TAH is around uber-alpha men. A lot of them seem to really like it and in that instance can provoke the reaction you’re looking for. However, if it makes you feel so bad…mabbee not so good. Then again…you may need a little more time to become used to it…who knows?..or it could just be a no go. 
…wearing it a little more when you don’t need/want your sheballs so much…could work. If you’re game give it a shot. 
Hey I’ve TAH’ed up and gone somewhere then, lo and behold, realized I shoulda TAL’ed up a bit more instead…so we learn. It’s all good.
Here, this thread might interest you and shed a bit more light on the subject…hope it helps.
Tisha works with TAH like I work with TAL. I like Instant Sexiness/A and use it fairly often. Though certainly not as much as I use IS/B or MX135. And I always need to buffer it with something containing TAH…or could be not so good. I’m naturally TAL, like Tisha, and even though we’re both alpha by nature…TAH makes her feel out of sorts…and it levels me out. TAL makes me feel too much (of ) myself…for lack of a better way to describe it. We work them in tandem to achieve the self effects we want and the effects we want from our targets. Like Tish said, spray the one that agrees with you less away from your face to the back of your head. Also a good application point for Instant Honesty.
It’s so subjective, right? All you can do, is what we do, keep at it. 
You’ll work it out.
If it makes you feel any better…I don’t react well to, of all things, Instant Shine…other people react to it as expected…but no shine for Bella…only a dull head.
That was a good report Kiara, reps!
Bella