I would just like to say how cool it is that someone from the forum is doing this of their own accord and that this is not just some marketing campaign. That just really blows my mind as I thought this type of friendly gesture was all but dead in this post-modern era.
Why I need/deserve it
I have been a member of the community here for a little over a year. However, I generally spend most of my time lurking from thread to thread instead of actually contributing to any. So I certainly don’t fall into the the “deserve it” category. I don’t choose to not reply on the different threads, rather, I am just a more reserved member and find that most threads progress quite nicely without my input.
For the last year or so, my wife and I have had a pretty rough time in our marriage. There are lots of excuses that can be made but it all essentially boils down to a breakdown in communication. A little over a year ago I began to suffer from unexpected anxiety attacks. I kept my feelings close to my person at all times because I was afraid to appear weak and vulnerable to her. She saw this as me simply shutting her out of what was really going on.
To be fair, she was having to work crazy hours at work because my hours were constantly getting cut due to shitty management. It was not that I did not want to exclude her from my problems; I just felt like a horrible husband for not being able to be the sole bread-winner and placing so much of the responsibilities on her. When she was home, I didn’t want to bother her with the melt downs I was going through. And like a snow ball on the side of a large mountain, slowly overtime our simple communication problem turned into a potential marriage dissolution. Lack of communication turned into a lack of trust and empathy which led to mutual animosity and on and on. Here I was, knowingly letting my own stubborn, stupid pride ruin the relationship with the only person I have ever truly loved.
Fast forward through a few months of marriage counseling and several self-help books and we are finally back to the place where we left off so long ago. Nothing has been more instrumental in the process than Instant Honesty. I know that probably just sounds like a ploy to get more IH but it really isn’t. One day, after having received a togo of IH, I sprayed two shots on my wrist and hopped in her car to go pick up groceries and the strangest thing happened: We talked!!! We talked like we haven’t talked in years. Once we got to the store, we just sat in the parking lot talking. Talking about everything; Work, school, plans for the future, etc… It was un-freaking believable. It lowered both of our resistance toward one another and the ice began to melt away like a glacier in the spring.
So since then I have made it a point to keep a bottle of IH near me at all times. I am about to finish my degree in High School education but before I can graduate, I have to do a semester of Student-Teaching. Student-Teaching is effectively a full time, unpaid internship. It takes all day everyday so I would have to severely reduce my hours at work. I would use the 50 dollar gift card to ensure that I had on a spray of Instant Honesty each day when I walked in next semester.
Why (insert name) deserves it:
This is a really tough one to be completely honest. There are so many good people here that deserve the Gift Card. Most if not all of them deserve it much more than I do for sure. If I were to pick two people, it would be Bosshank and Gegogi. I really like all of the recommendations and advice that Boss has to offer for married couples who have slipped into a rut or just a rough patch. Gegogi seems like a super cool guy and I love how he is always so eager to offer suggestions, advice or just witty feedback to all of the other members here.
just want make sure someone who is helping around the forum gets it.
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