Hi, Illy. 
Welcome to the forum!
I’m sorry you’re having so much trouble with chronic pain. That’s an heavy burden to carry everyday and extremely stressful. You’re speaking very personally, frankly, and bravely about it, so I’m going take the liberty and ask you a few questions.
First, have you actually had your hormone levels checked? Are you on The Pill? Both are important questions when discussing sexual functioning and what that means for attraction/mating. You’re right, your problem is probably partly hormonal but there’s more to it than that if you are experiencing chronic pain for over five years. Dealing with chronic pain is the other issue. It’s not only painful, it’s depressing, as you well know. That can take a toll on you in more ways than one and I’m sure that impacts what you are physically capable of doing sexually and which may also be contributing to your troubles. It affects how you feel about yourself and although you try very hard to “keep it to yourself”, the pain you experience on a daily basis is translating from you to others in, as you said, the “aura” you project.
Having had a C-section tells me that you have most likely developed pelvic/abdominal adhesions (scar tissue) and that’s what’s probably/also contributing to your chronic pain. Adhesions are a huge problem after any kind of surgery. Many people have life long problems concerning proper functioning of their internal organs/nerves, after surgery, because of scar tissue (formation) entrapping them. I’m not saying this to scare you, and you may already be aware of this complication, but because I think it may have bearing in your particular case.
Try as you do, it’s very hard to to keep the pain under wraps. It’s an integral part of you and therefore it affects the image you project whether you want it to or not. With all your skills it seems you have no trouble attracting men. You just want them to see you as a sexy kitten but feeling the way you do it makes it hard to project that sexy aura and they seem to pick up on that… and that’s your dilemma.
Pheromones are not hormones and pheromones will only take you so far as to the “image” you want to project. No pheromone can override someone’s free will or make them do something they wouldn’t normally do.
It sounds to me like you need a bit of an ego boost and something to push these men over the edge… and you outta the friend zone. You need copulins. To put it simply, copulins are fatty acids secreted in the vagina that fertile women produce. Fortunately, we have synthetic copulins that are available to us in the form of EoW (Essence of Woman available at Love Scent), that we can use in place of/to supplement our own natural copulins when we would like to do so.
Copulins give you a sexy, youthful vibe and signal to men that you are willing and ready for sex. Although you’re interested in developing more sexual attraction towards you, you need to ask yourself how you’ll respond to their advances. Are you really willing, ready and physically able for sex?
I would start with Instant Shine and Instant Openness. Instant Shine can help to lift your spirits as well as those around you and Instant Openness can ease communications in an upbeat way. Once you find your sweet spot with those, (the number of sprays that work for you), then you should try out EoW. AD products do not contain any copulins but I suggested them because every woman should have some in her arsenal for sexual attraction. Copulins will give that “sexy kick” to any pheromone/pheromone mix you choose to use it with! 
Here are a couple links on the subject of copulins/EoW to help answer any questions you might have about it’s purpose and how to use it to your advantage. Then do a search on EoW and copulins and you’ll find more posts.
If you have any more question please post them in the women’s forum because they’ll get buried here in the intro section and no one will see them. As Pago said , the ladies are always happy to help.
Good luck and happy testing, Illy!
Bella