This is my first post and I’m super excited to have found this forum, and can’t wait to try pheromones!
So here a little about me and my problem…
I’m 36, live in WA, married with one baby. Sooo… it seems like my hubby has lost interest in sex since our baby was born (15 months ago!). I know we are both busy and tired/stressed - but I feel like I need to light a fire under his a$$ to get him to show some sexual interest! Oh, and its not like I gained weight or anything - I still look the same as before prego.
So I’m hoping pheromones can help. I want him to be overcome with passion, lusting after me, desiring me…
I ordered Instant Sexiness and Instant Shine to start with, and am waiting impatiently for them to arrive…
Then I was thinking of trying TUTH? I’m the quiet, playful, kittenish type - definitely not the dominant type. Any suggestions welcome…
Thanks for the great info! It looks like you’ve been doing your research, those are great choices to start with.
TUTH is actually for men to use on women. They are working on similar things for women, though we don’t have them just yet.
EOW, of Essence of Women, is a concentrated additive that is used successfully by women to raise men’s testosterone levels and help get things going. It is sold at lovescent.com, and does require a little practice to use. There is a ton of info and advice here on it, if you do a search.
Great intro and great choice of products. SK is right about TUTH though. I would also suggest IO to get those men coming up more frequently to initiate conversation with you. Makes people more chatty. An awesome product. If you have any questions let us know, we are here to help!
It seems like so many of us came here to spice up our love life. You are in good company. How did you find out about Androtics?
Have you given any though to using pheros for more than romance? Perhaps for work, or something else?
Instant Sexiness is a good place to start, and since you think you’ve got which version you want pegged, you’re all set on that one. Instant SHine is also a good choice, as it adds a fun and uplifting feeling to whatever you’re doing.
You might be intersted in Instant Honesty as well. It encourages deep, more intimate conversations, and extends a feeling of trust. You might find that it helps you get to the bottom of what is causing your husband’s disinterest. We’re interested in hearing how things go, so check back in and give us an update.
Moonwhisper ,I found out about Androtics through a Google search on pheromones. I recently watched a Dr Perricone DVD on health/beauty secrets, and he was suggesting that pheromones applied to the upper lip makes for a really positive happy mood - so I decided to do some research. Then I found Androtics and realised I could maybe use them to create some passion and fire in my marriage…
Soo… anyway …my pheromones arrived yesterday and I couldn’t wait to try IS (to go) on my hubby. After happy hour and a couple of glasses of wine with the girls I came home and used 2 sprays (neck and wrists) before jumping into bed where my hubby was waiting. He didn’t seem to notice anything at all, I kept wafting my wrists in front of his face, expecting to get ravished any second…but nothing. I have to say I’m pretty disappointed. But then maybe my expectations were too high. I dunno - I’ll keep experimenting with # of sprays etc and see if anything changes.
I like the suggestion on trying Instant Honesty and may order that next.
I’m a bit nervous to try EOW - maybe in the future.
MCO - yes maybe I could try the Instant Openness too. Although my target is my husband, I’m sure it would only increase my self confidence to be approached by other men.
SillyKitty, I didnt realise TUTH is for men - maybe I should get some for hubby to wear then. Does it smell good?
with ishine, try it around your husband in lighter or more playful situations. it gives you a perky vibe and can have that effect on others, so perhaps winding down for bed isn’t a good time for it.
tuth has a bit of a spicy smell to it. i think it smells good, my gf likes it, and all of my guy/girl friends like it. as long as the smell is ok, even if your husband doesn’t want to wear it, you can spray random objects near or on the bed and still get the same effects. there have been a few tests on this, all with good results.
from the looks of it, you have all the right info for the gc. there’s a slight snafu with who handles the gc’s right now but once that is sorted out, you should get your gc.
You need to find your “sweet spot” for each pheromone product, and it may be different for each one. That is, try a couple sprays of one thing only for a week, notice results, then maybe three the next week, til you find the amount that produces the best and most noticeable effects for you. You can then combine them as well.
Also, if someone is used to your normal phero signature, it may take a few times for them to respond. I have noticed reactions to new products more instantly with new people, who don’t already have your phero signature imprinted in their brains. With people who know you, just be patient and keep trying. There is a bit of a learning curve with this stuff.
When I first started, I wasn’t really sure if they really did anything or not. But once you get the right dosage, etc, you’ll know it! Also, environment can make a difference. If your are trying for a certain effect in an inappropriate environment, you may not see results because people may be hiding their reactions.
Also, never use too much, or you may cause a "ghost’ effect, where people basically ignore you because your signal is too weird and confusing.
Hi there Ms Playful_Mama and welcome to Pherotalk. I am so glad you did some research and where able to discover this amazing community of like-minded persons. You’ll find that most of us are more than willing to help and share similar experiences.
I do recall reading once that after a birth of a child a man can become a bit intimidated by sex with their wife. It’s nothing about you really, its more about everything you went through and the man is kind of projecting that he does not want to hurt his wife. I believe the researchers said it was actually because of a deeper sense of love in the man for his partner. That’s great news to know that he is willing to forgo sex for his wife all because he loves you so much.
In time every man gets back to normal, the report said, so I believe you are clearly on the right path.
I completely agree with moonwhisper saying about the IH for deep rapport. It’s not so much because he wont open up to you, it just makes the person feel closer, more relaxed around you. Again I think he is feeling a bit stressed because of all the glorious changes that have happened. Most change, especialyy the birth of a child is pretty incredible but can also be quite a shocker too. The IH will help him slide into more of a comfort zone with you.
IShine is also a great addition as it just lightens the mood and makes everyone happy. In this day and age–who couldn’t use a bit more happiness in life?
The Isexiness is going to be a fantastic version to light the romantic/sexual spark and again the best answer is from moonwhisper. She’s right that you got your choices pegged. Good work doing the research and finding the best mix for your situation. I’ll be sending your GC in a little while. You can use it on your next order.
