“-I think IH can cause instant bonding, but in
situations where there are issues of trust, and things need mending, this can push people away until they are ready.”
thegentleman
The quote above is in thegentleman’s post #17 of his journal, “The not so gentlemanly adventures of TheGentleman”. It’s in the part Mix 3 of the post. Ask him for help about this, i’m sure he’ll be glad to suggest you a course of action or mones to mend it up.
Hope i helped. 
Bye!