Me with IS/B/TAH -
TSA repacked my bag after a colonoscopy search (against regs)
They forgot my laptop - the pilot let me off the plane, holding the plane for me, while I ran back to the checkpoint.
TSA stopped the entire security process, brought it to a halt, and searched every single bin in the every single stack until the found my (white) macbook.
Pilot let me back on the plane with a smile.
At the connection, I bought food at the food court. I was in a sling from an injury. random strangers took my bag off my shoulders, carried my food for me, set up up at teh gate and told me all sorts of jokes to “cheer me up.” I was not in a bad mood.
I boarded first on every single flight and connection. Like, before the flipping pilot.
The guy next to me fed me. He took my fork from my one handed gimpy eating and fed me. Total stranger.
I was exiting the plane on my last flight of the day, and just when my bubble hit the pilot and lead steward, he screamed out in horror, “WAIT! Ma’am, do you need a wheelchair!?!?” I was in a sling, I could easily walk.
That was one day. Crazy awesome, yes? Here’s the downside -
I injured myself in a search and rescue operation. I busted my elbow and shoulder, split lip, bandaged forehead. Nice and busted up. But cheery, thank you TAH. However when people would ask me “what happened” and I would tell them, word for word: “I was the lead medic in a mountain search and rescue that turned pretty nasty,” I was often met with chuckles and, “no really, what happened?” There was a vibe of “a little girl such as you couldn’t possibly do that!”
Wearing IS/a/TAL -
Produced an entire conference for my professional organizations.
Over 100 men were sitting listening to me in rapture for hours. My program went over the time limit, and not a soul budged, looked at their watch, or made any complaint. In fact, the evaluations requested MORE time and content.
I was considered a subject matter expert, a young woman in a room full of career professionals, in a highly masculine environment.
I was told I was remarkable, powerful, strong, admirable, courageous, etc.
I was deeply respected and admired.
I was consulted for things and given responsibilities that were actually outside my purview.
I was described by people in attendance at this event to others as a subject matter expert, a smooth, polished professional, a highly intelligent, out of everyone’s league, woman.
I secured a house on the spot, moving myself to the front of the line, bypassing every other application that homeowner had received.
When I said jump, they said How High, while in the air.
Some women didn’t like me. At All.
I was someone to be affiliated with.
I was showered in business cards.
I was human velcro. People had to be physically dragged away from conversing with me me.
I was left to clean up my supplies alone.
I was considered very very self sufficient.
I was considered to be entirely alright to be left alone. I had to suggest dinner and drinks, then wow, everybody wanted in on it too. At dinner, most everyones bodies were pointed to me - even those sitting right next to me. They would sit sideways in their chairs to face me, not their food.
I met my current SO wearing TAL. I’ve worn TAH around him, and he gets frustrated. He likes a strong, partnering woman, someone whom he wants as a friend, not as an accessory. Instead of thinking what you want your prince charming to DO to you, think rather instead how you want to INTERACT and RELATE to your prince charming -
Do you want to be the arm candy accessory, thought of as pretty, beautiful, happy, cared for and loved… but perhaps not viewed as an equal?
Or you do you want to share your lives together, as equals, and have him respect you as an equal?
Sometimes its tossed around here that Alpha Men like TAH and others like TAL. I disagree. I don’t think it’s black and white like that. My SO cant be MORE Alpha… yet despises TAH. Loves TAL.
I think it says more about what a man is looking for in a woman, and what kind of man you want to attract. There’s a place and a time for both, and both can be worn by everyone, in certain amounts with few exceptions. I can wear TAH in a MX like 135 around my SO, and he’s good. I’m not showered in affection like when I wear IS/a, but he’s still there.
Going too far into the TAH and I start to get the negatives from him, and the overt reactions from the other men. Wearing too much TAL, and I was totally ignored socially at a bar once. I had impeccable service from the staff (someone to be affiliated with, someone with status), but unapproachable (too much status, too out of their league). So going too far works both ways. 
Hope that helps. I just added my confused ramblings to the mix!
