hey gretzky, you sond like someone I know 
a great person dont worry
Well what I am about to tell may go against you want but IJ may be the best mones for you, it is the one that will fit in more naturally with your style. And you can be to aggressive, but in a party the only to aggressive there is, its when she slaps in the face, and I dont think you are the kind of person who would sulk because of that, I think you would have laugh. Eheheh, I miss my wingman 
he was like you, if you come to portugal give me a call we will ravish the european partys together 
I advise you to try ammo also, for me the best all around for discos. You think you are to jerk? You think mones dont work? try reading this thread: 1 week in paris the thread is not finnished, but I dont feel like finishing it right now . Ammo is the bomb, I tell you that.