I should probably post this in the women’s forum since it details the experiences of a 15 year old female but whatever…
I have a relative who has a verbally abusive father. Never hit her or anything like that but constantly screaming and yelling and making her life miserable. As an act of desperation I talked to her mom about trying one of the social type pheros to see if it would calm him down a bit. With her Mom’s approval I looked through and found MX212 figuring it would be social and that she’d probably like the coconut scent. I gave it to her and explained how she really should only use it once in a while and that there is no guarantee that it’ll work. If she uses it too much it won’t work as well anymore.
I told her to just use 1 spray at first and if he doesn’t seem to lighten up then add another (I told her to put it on her neck and if she doesn’t mind the coconut smell lingering to put it in her hair- seems to help diffuse the pheros VERY well for her).
I really didn’t tell her anything about it other than it MIGHT help make him more cheerful to be around. I also didn’t ask her to keep track of things but they were memorable enough for her that she was telling me all about how much better things are when she has it on.
One example- she decided to put some on the day I gave it to her at about 3pm. He gets home around 3:45. She was funny telling me how he gets home from work and starts his usual tirade about stuff needing to be done and she said after about 5 minutes it was like he started settling down. Then he asked her how her day was and wondering what they should have for dinner (normally she has to make dinner and he complains about whatever they have since her mom doesn’t get home from work until later). Then he hopped up and asked if she wanted an Icee.
‘Of course I said yes. Then he left and came back with an Icee for me. And it was the large size!’ (WAY out of character for him.) I warned her that the stuff only lasts about 4 hours or so and she said it was funny how she could tell when it wore off. He started getting grouchy again over about a 20 minute period and was back to normal about the time her mom got home.
She used it once around a friend when they went to the movies because her friend was bummed about ‘a guy’. She decided to try it in her hair and thought it was hilarious how her friend giggled and kept talking throughout the movie. After the movie her friend was supposed to call one of her parents for a ride but was too interested in talking to want to call home. Apparently MX212 helped her friend keep distracted and feel better.
The only problem she says she’s had with it is the coconut scent. She said her Dad complains if she puts it on and he’s around within the first 15 minutes. Her logic is that its just one more thing he has to yell about but after that it takes effect.
In the two weeks she’s had MX212 she said she has only used it maybe 6 or 8 times (she showed me the bottle to prove it- mostly full) but it has made things much easier for her at home.
Thank you Androtics for helping to make the best of a bad situation.
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