Hello all,
I was directed to this site via Basenotes, where I enjoy reading about fragrance. But as I began to read here, I became more and more fascinated! A big shout out to the “Pre-release Dirty” thread. That had me like
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Anyway, I’m a woman in my mid-30s. I live in a major metropolitan city on the East Coast. I work in media and entertainment, and some of my hobbies and pet interests include: clubbing, psychology, astrology, fragrance, fashion, sex & relationships, etc. I am in an exclusive relationship with a man about 3 years my junior. We’ve been together for three years, not all of which have been rosy (some breaks and break ups) but which I’m interested in getting on solid footing (or getting out). Part of the reason I joined here was due to some of the relationship-enhancing stories some of you have shared in other parts of the forum. Part of my social and professional life includes being in positions of power and influence in (at times) crowds of thousands of people. At other times those crowds are hundreds, at other times dozens, but my public persona is something I do spend time ministering to and thinking about (and how I’d like to keep distinguishing it from my private persona).
I am ALWAYS looking for ways to learn more about sex & relationships and improving my communication and attractiveness to other humans. I am especially interested in sexual and emotional chemistry to men, friendship and (em)power(ment) with/over women, and just about anything that will give me an edge, I’m up for it. I read lots of psychology, am interested in ALL methods of communication (verbal, nonverbal, subconscious) and this site and the information contained herein looks to be right up my alley.
I have never used pheromones but have a long history of experimentation with scent, everything from expensive niche perfumes to Wiccan-blended oils.
If I were to purchase a pheromone, I’d be interested in something that elevates my mood and reinforces positive mental attitude (I saw there is something like that in the commercial/pre-blended product line) to relax and comfort my SO when he’s around me, blended with something to make me sexually irrisistible to him and others. I also like what I call “cloaking,” the ability to keep my emotional state private to all onlookers (I’m a bit transparent with my emotions…they read on my face a great deal so as I learn to better mask my moods when it suits me, I also use fragrance to project an image that I want to “step into” so to speak). I’m also interested in something which will help me communicate myself to others clearly, and enhance the adaptive quality I have where I can relate to just about anybody. The negative side of this, of course, is that the adaptability can sometimes lead to identity diffusion if taken too far. The plus side is I have a host of personas I can try on when the mood hits ![]()
Any suggestions are welcome and I look forward to learning more.