Hi, blackbarbie.
Welcome on board.
You have recieven some great advice. Althoug i don´t know much about women´s products, I would like to suggest you some things to read, if you have not alredy done it:
LADIES: A mini compilation of your personal experiences!
What pheromones can do and what they cant Updated
How do I know if I am getting hits !!
After reading this threads, you should read all of the stikies in women´s section.
That will get you get some basic knowledge that, combined with users advice, will allow you to know what products you should get first and what to expect from them.
However, you won´t really know whats going on before you try, so get yourself a gift certificate and choose some toys. You´ll have lots of fun.
Hope this helps.
Talk to you soon.